I did something horrible to someone, I was very much in love with 6 yrs ago.Its now 6 yrs later.I am a diffrent person,who has changed drastically,but I am unable to forgive myself.I have moved on!I am remarried,but my past is still haunting me.
2006-10-21 10:28:48 · 22 answers · asked by Gin 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
God grant you the serenity to except the thing you can not change. The courage to change the things i can and the wisdom to no the difference!
Amen
2006-10-21 10:46:35 · answer #1 · answered by Computer geek 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Confront him and tell him how sorry you are. Most people are very forgiving if you give them a chance. It will not only make him feel better but it will make you feel so much better as well. Do amends to him and tell him that you are a changed person and that this has been haunting you for years. Talk to your husband first and tell him what you are about to do. If he does not want you to confront him because he was a past relationship then I suggest you write him a letter stating how sorry and how bad you feel for doing that to him.
2006-10-21 18:31:49 · answer #2 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would like to help, but you're not giving enough info...everyone is having to guess therefore, you can't get the benefit of others experiences. But, if that's all you're willing to do to make yourself get through this I say; you're more than likely worried that you may repeat the same mistake, or you're worried someone may do the same thing to you???? We have all hurt someone to one degree or another and have all been hurt by someone. Although that part of it sucks, people do get over things eventually. But if someone that really hurt me comes back six years later to apologize, I'm not sure that would mean very much at all. The price has already been paid so to speak. Worse case scenario, if he hasn't moved on by now...and you approach him...it could be a bad thing
2006-10-21 17:53:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes I am unkind when I am hungry, and quite often when I am fatigued.
so I get to deal with that emotion regularly.
there are two things you must face
one, there are any number of reasons why you made a poor decision in your life. you may have been weakened by a lingering viral infection, you may have been slightly anemic, heck you may have been young and uncertain.
two, no-one lives in isolation. let's say you cheated on a guy who always said he loved you and you alone .. but there's no way of knowing that. he may have humped dozens of girls, or guys!
so .. look at what happened, consider if you could have done anything different .. then let it go.
study it, learn from it, and let it go.
2006-10-21 17:46:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop beating yourself up over something that happened 6 years old. You're not that same person anymore, it's time to let it go and leave it in the past where it belongs. To err is human, to forgive is divine.
2006-10-21 17:38:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with "luvlisten." If it's still bothering you after all this time, it would be worth the time and effort to look this individual up and talk this issue out. Maybe they will forgive you. But, even if they don't, you will have done all you can. Hopefully then you can move on and enjoy your current life.
2006-10-21 19:02:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Write a letter to yourself confessing your act/reasons/sorrow...whatever was going on at the time.Then burn it.Hopefully that symbolism may help you close this chapter that haunts you.Also,you can consider an anonymous public ad in the paper where he lives saying what you'd like,using names that were private to only you or whatever suits your discretionary needs.
2006-10-21 17:50:23 · answer #7 · answered by maykithapin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Confessing what you did to only ease your own mind is selfish. If you confess to someone what you did and it ends up hurting someone else I think that is wrong. I don't think you should suffer forever for whatever it is you did, but just tell yourself your not that person no more and you, like all of us, have learned from your mistakes and just make sure you don't do it again. It's ok.
2006-10-21 17:35:02 · answer #8 · answered by Corona 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You'll have to get over it & let it go. That's the healthiest choice for all parties involved. You may never truly forgive yourself, but sometimes that's the price we pay for our wild days. Hang in there.
2006-10-21 18:11:07 · answer #9 · answered by Rocker Chick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ginny, you were obviously sexually permissive and abused a relationship, HOW DARE YOU ? You think that time can erase your vulgarity ? You think God will forgive you so everything is ok ? Grow up Ginny, other people have feelings, your promiscuity will always haunt you. Have you told your husband how much you used to give sex to anyone that asked ???? HAVE YOU ?
You know you will probably go to hell, you will miss your babies in heaven, and your husband will be better off without you..I hope you're happy you ruined someones life..
2006-10-21 17:38:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋