hubby cheated married 24 yrs 4 children......he works with this girl......i asked him to quit he wouldnt i couldnt deal with knowing he was working side by side with her so i told him to leave a month later he moves in with her.........he takes the kids over there too for the weekends at times.......keep in mind this only happened 6 months ago........its like we never had a life.......... and was replaced so quickly.......no remorse nor guilt on his part ...since i asked him that day to leave he acts like i did something wrong and doesnt even bother to ask me to take the kids he tells the kids to tell me.......he doesnt talk to me about anything not even the kids............after 24 yrs how could he do this?
2006-10-21 10:14:25 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
love is never enough.......
even if he loved you, it isn't uncommon to be selfish and freak out and do something completely unrespectable at the sake of your lovers heart.
people hurt other people... its the facts of life.
don't worry about how he could do this to you, and what you did wrong and beat yourself up over something that you can't control. this is not about you... it is clearly ALL about him, so work on picking yourself up off the floor, and repairing your broken heart.
you be the best person that you can be, and keep lines of communication open with your kids... worry about them and yourself. don't worry about him and his stupidity.
2006-10-21 10:20:35 · answer #1 · answered by don't be rude. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If what you are saying is true, then obviously your soon to be ex-husband is a worthless piece of scum. There's not really much that can be said to help you because 24 years is a long time, and even if your husband is a scumbucket, it's still going to be difficult for you to erase your memories and the feelings you had/have for him. The best thing to do is to be thankful for the good times, and to accept that life can, and will, play cruel tricks on all of us. You need to be strong and just move on - the loss is his, not yours. You've found out what he's like, so now you need to start a new life for yourself. His little fling won't last because usually adulterers will get a taste of their own medicine. If he's ignoring you it's because he knows he should be ashamed of what he's done, but as he won't admit it, it's easier for him to go on the offensive and make it seem like it's somehow your fault. Would you want to stay with someone that repulsive? Of course not, so show that you're strong and that he's nothing special by moving on and not giving him a second thought. Good luck.
2006-10-21 17:26:28 · answer #2 · answered by John P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, I want to say that I'm sorry you've been handed this bad deal. In truth, nobody is going to have an answer that is going to take away how bad you feel. But, I can say that any good hearted person would take this hard. You didn't deserve this crap, and sooner or later you will need to learn that he's a piece of crap (like many other men and women just like him) and it wasn't your fault. Until you do find your way, show the strongest front possible in front of your kids and anyone who comes into contact with him or his girlfriend. Find assurance and help from others than will not share how you feel...he doesn't deserve that much of you anymore. Slowly but surely, you will find other things to occupy your mind. But I know in times like these, "time" is your worst enemy. Try to make good decisions, even if your board for awhile...try to get the family back in shape...you probably held things together all these years anyway. Feel free to contact me anytime if you need someone to write to.........things will get better, I promise...you have it coming...just be patient
2006-10-21 17:38:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he is just on a big ego trip!!! His head is just big head right now, If I were you I would take some of the money out of the bank. I would spend sometime and money on myself. Go get your hair done, nails maybe new clothes. Plan yourself a trip with some girlfriends. Look at it this way, you have probably been cleaning his clothes, cooking his meals, cleaning the house, this
could be an opportunity in your life to do something for yourself. I
would just let him go. She can deal with it and you can enjoy yourself. You might meet someone that is even better. Please hang in there I know this is tough! Just stay positive, don't let him make you misraeble while he is happy, get out there and have some fun! Good luck, Hope this helps
2006-10-21 17:30:15 · answer #4 · answered by REALISTIC 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who knows why a man does anything. I guess he just wanted a different life. People don't realize how good they have it til it's gone. All I can tell you is to be good to yourself. And file for custody. The petitioner usually gets more of what they want. Is he paying child support? Get it and the amount court ordered.
You should do somethings for yourself. Do something you have always wanted to do but for what ever reason never have. Go get a job if you don't have one. Go to the gym, or at least for a walk. Just be sure you are getting off the couch and out of the house. Be around people that you like.
And good luck.
2006-10-21 17:20:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life isn't roses without the thorns. That's what happens when both sex's are in the work field. It takes a strong minded person to back down. This world is full of betrayal, lies, deceit, and malice. There is only one way to overcome, find yourself a companion. Get out and live life to the fullest, don't sit and sink in your problems. You just may enjoy a good movie, dinner, or a nice cup of tea.
2006-10-23 16:47:05 · answer #6 · answered by ~Jessica~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's called sociopathy, no caring or feeling for other people. At great levels, other people no longer are real to the affected person, he alone is the sole being in the universe and everything else is his play area. Or he might just be a giant f***ing ***hole. Whichever.
2006-10-21 17:17:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
sometimes men don't be in love with women any more cause they argue,fight,attiude,they can't cook,or because of sexual reasons.but It's not about him anymore he moved on he have to answer to GOD for that not you.just stay a good mother to your kids god will bles for what you are going though just dont give up
2006-10-21 17:20:12 · answer #8 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is a typical sterio male ... you done your bit yopu had his kids now he wants you to bring them up...Dont do it girl get on his case as well...hes gonna have fun but you can have more ..
show the git for what he realy is get your own back...
you need a brweak and a holiday abroad on him..
2006-10-21 17:18:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think I already answered something similar...after 6 months it's time you filed for divorce.
2006-10-21 21:07:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋