I really like this guy. We are so different. Racially and culturally. Im not sure if he likes me but.... How can I approach him to let him know Im interested without being too forward? Im afraid of rejection and have had a crush on him for years. We work in the same building now and I want to be more than friends outside of work! Help
2006-10-21 10:13:12 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Surprise him with a hidden talent. Make yourself visible so he isn't looking right past you at other girls. Playing the Jazz Flute worked for Ron Burgundy... ;)
2006-10-21 10:24:10 · answer #1 · answered by wreck_beach 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HAVE YOU TRIED JUST LIGHTLY FLIRTING WITH HIM?...like a cute smile just for him or playful bashful flirts or any thing?...if you have maybe he knows u like him & is too shy to make the first move!...it is a problem when both people r too shy to make the first move,but you could try just buying some tickets for something that you already know he likes whether it be a concert or a sporting event or even a movie and tell him that they were givin to you & you were wondering if he would like to go with you....afterward you could say well im starving or something like that and see if he invites you to dinner....he should get the point that your interested & if he doesnt make a move here then you will know he's not interested in you then at least you will never look back on the situation with regrets!...good luck!
2006-10-21 10:17:09 · answer #2 · answered by CRYSTAL S 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Focus on the things you have in common. Do you like the same music? Similar tastes in food? Or is it really an all-out "opposites attract" fest?
If you have absolutely nothing in common, you could start by asking him to join you at your favorite bar, coffee shop, to see your favorite band play, whatever. Show him what things you're passionate about. Showing him what you're into might make him more apt to show you what he's into. Get a few people to come with you both if it's too intimidating to go alone.
I'm sure you'll find more commonalities than you'd expect. You gotta put yourself out there and trust the things that you like and that make you feel good. If he's uninterested or can't appreciate the things that you're passionate about... is he really worth it??
2006-10-21 10:20:30 · answer #3 · answered by NYC Tim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To 90 % of men a woman could never be to forward. Men are very flatered when a Lovely woman comes on to them. Just be honest tell him your feelings then that will give him the confidence to either ask you out or tell you he's taken. Good Luck
2006-10-21 10:20:33 · answer #4 · answered by kdc123 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well... just be nice, etc. If he's in you and sees your amiable personality, he should do sth... I had such a crush once and my signals were really delicate... It didn;t worked out because he wasn't interested, I think. But - make sure he knows you not dislike him - then he should do sth if he's interested. If he's not - you should drop this...
2006-10-21 10:18:24 · answer #5 · answered by Lady G. 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think you need to start flirting with him mabey he feels the same way but doesnt talk to you for the same reasons you dont talk to him.. try to leave sihns and ask him out to like just hand out after work sometime....
2006-10-21 10:16:05 · answer #6 · answered by Ashley C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get him to start noticing you, so u do have to start flirting with him. The next step is then getting his phone number so u can talk to him more. You have to get him to fall for you.
2006-10-21 10:19:15 · answer #7 · answered by yogurlmsbunny 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
open yourself up. look at things you share in common, even if they are extremely small and this will help you open up with him. after opening up, it will be easier to communicate.
2006-10-21 10:30:26 · answer #8 · answered by unkown 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask him to fix a leaky gutter at your house. if he's at all interested he would come to at least take a look.Then give him beer. He's all yours.
2006-10-21 10:19:12 · answer #9 · answered by Jason 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maury Povich is good with that sort of thing....contact his show.
2006-10-21 13:06:54 · answer #10 · answered by obsidianeyes211 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋