didnt you both want to split up?
2006-10-21 10:03:35 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Um, because it's sad!!
2006-10-21 10:11:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Good heavens! When people get married they have high hopes, a lot of dreams, and expectations that they will live happily together and achieve some goals together and be a happy family. When people find they can't/shouldn't remain married, they are not only saying goodbye to a spouse, but to all of the plans and hopes they made together. It is also a frequent economic problem, they go from living on two incomes to one. If children are involved, they are worried how the divorce might affect them. If they got married in the first place, obviously they loved some things in the other person. To find that the things they don't love outweight the things they do can be a tough decision. So, the decision to split up may be the best one, but saying goodbye to a person that is probably still loved to some extent, and all of the plans is hard, and sad. Not only that, now they each have to come up with a whole new plan for their lives, and without the person they confided in most to help. So each of their trains got de-railed, it's a big and scary job to get them back on track.
2006-10-21 17:17:22 · answer #2 · answered by Caper 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, most divorces are without merit. Most marriages nowadays occurred too soon. In this day and age of whores and prostitutes influencing our children through MTV and others it is no wonder that people have sex before marriage and thus enter marriage with clouded minds which never took the time to find an intellectual match. Divorces are a mixture of dissappointment, sadness, and child custody/financial arrangements. This big mess is taxing on the mind and the spirit. Nothing beats being in a relationship with someone who is not only good looking but also intellectually compatible--the way it should be.
Mr. M on "depressed."
2006-10-21 17:15:22 · answer #3 · answered by Humberto M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually its because of an affair thus the one cheated on gets a little cranky. I don't think I know of any couple that has split up and they both wanted it and were fine with it.
There is always one that has caused the break down in one way or the other.
2006-10-21 17:14:40 · answer #4 · answered by oldman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes it is only one person who wants the divorce. The other can think everything is hunky doory. But, some are depressed because they don't like being alone. Others feel like they are a failure in not sticking it out. Some are confused becasue they didn't see it happening, or couldn't stop it.
2006-10-21 17:13:28 · answer #5 · answered by oddbutterfly1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No - sometimes it is only one person who decides the relationship is over. You get depressed because your whole world gets turned up side down. Your past, present and future no longer makes sense. You have to now face the world alone when before you had someone by your side when things got rough (assuming no abuse). Often times you lose your best friend. There are lots of reasons.
2006-10-21 17:09:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
they get depressed because they thinking of all good times they had with each other and how the good time coulnt overcome thebad ones and about how money this divorce is going to cost them and being single again its hard when you have been with someone so long and you get used to the way you mate did things it hard to reajust after a long period of timein a relationship
2006-10-21 17:12:10 · answer #7 · answered by twilla l 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
divorce is a death of something you knew, a death of a relationship you were in. you know divorce is final and theres no going back, no taking it back. the marriage was our past and we are wondering how the heck we will make it out there.at one time you were one, and all seemed well with the world, but now your uncertin if you made the right choice.
2006-10-21 17:15:55 · answer #8 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the thought of being alone and starting over. it does no hit you till its done. Then it's all in your heart and how you deals with life as a person. You have to be strong especially if you have children and most of all raltionalize your dreams in life prior to marriage and make that your future gain.
2006-10-21 17:14:23 · answer #9 · answered by 1dbl007 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
iam happily married but i think it wouldnt matter who was right or wrong both sides would feel a sense of failure its also the security of being with someone and knowing them so well which would be hard to loose
2006-10-21 17:38:46 · answer #10 · answered by sarah71397 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes it's not like that and it's a lasting choice on small problems, I'd be devastated if it ever happened to me, I love my husband and it would kill me, I could cry just thinking about it.
2006-10-21 17:07:26 · answer #11 · answered by tuesday 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋