Ok heres the deal:I have a best friend Lyssa, her name is actually Alyssa. We did everything together, had sleepovers every night (practiacally), cried together, laughed together, and PARTIED together..! But then.... Her boyfriend stopped likeing her, and started liking me.. : ( She found out and now this is how she treats me. Yesterday she said i was gay, and ruined her life. She tell's me to shut-up, and barely ever talks to me anymore. what do i do?? Should i still be kind to her and be best friends? Or should i just forget about her, Best friends shouldn't me mad of some boy. PLEASE HELP!!!
2006-10-21 09:59:24 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Best friends NEVER NEVER date ex's, cardinal rule, where on earth do you kids come from these days?
2006-10-21 10:02:32 · answer #1 · answered by tuesday 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend is hurting and is lashing out at those closest to her. You need to go to her. Tell her that you care about her and her friendship and that you want nothing to do with her ex boyfriend. If you are dating her ex boyfriend then you should expect the reaction that she's giving you. Friends don't do that to one another. There are a million guys in the world, find one who hasn't dated your friend. Think of it this way, if the guy was willing to dump your friend and then go after you, how long do you think until he does the same thing to you? Hopefully you haven't dated him, in this case fix your friendship...a best friend is hard to find and is definately worth fighting for.
2006-10-21 17:05:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's mad at you for something that is out of your control. If you want to be a friend then take it with a grain of salt. Remind yourself that you didn't MAKE him like you, he CHOSE to like you and similarly you can't MAKE her be your friend she has to CHOOSE to be yours. People are fickle esp. in the teenage years and if you want to keep a good relationship going make sure you don't burn your side of the bridge. She'll choose to walk over the bridge when she's ready and not a second before nor after. So be patient.
2006-10-21 17:04:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you guys spend too much time together...even the best of friends need space and time apart. Email her or call her and let her know that you are dissapointed in her recent behaviours toward you that you still want to be friends...that you didnt do anything to harm her and never would...when she's ready to talk you'll be there for her. Good luck..
2006-10-21 17:03:27 · answer #4 · answered by Lynne B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that you don't have any feelings for him and that it's not just affecting her. Also remind her you can't really choose who you like or not. And tell her that she shouldn't be mad at you and fight over some stupid boy, chicks over *****, is what I say to my friend when she's spending to mcuh time with her boyfriend.
2006-10-21 17:04:49 · answer #5 · answered by Wolf_28 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you are sorry that her boyfriend likes you but you cannot control him, and say that you don't want some guy to get in the way of your friendship. And tell her boyfriend your not interested and tell her that if her boyfriend his going to be unfaithful that they should break up.
Good Luck, Hope this helps :)
2006-10-21 17:04:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry about that bt i would have to say that u should try and talk it out with her... if she was really your best friend she would understand that it is not your fault and then ask her if u guys are still friends
2006-10-21 17:03:37 · answer #7 · answered by monkey8kenna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no boy is worth destroying ur friendship over. id say dump him. still treat ur friend like ur best friend, and i think shell come around. im sorry to hear about ur situation. keep ur head up and always be kind.
2006-10-21 17:08:15 · answer #8 · answered by thatweirdchick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's realy messed up! If I were u try && talk 2 her or leave her a little note! Tell her boyfrend to BUZZZ off of ya`! SPEAK UP GIRL!
2006-10-21 17:03:37 · answer #9 · answered by I'm Anonymous, 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be nice, but give her space. Are you going out with her boyfriend? If you want to be friends with her, I would stop seeing him.
2006-10-21 17:03:48 · answer #10 · answered by Kelly H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋