what should I do anyone with advice pls give?

Question

My baby is 15months old and I am wanting to go back to work get out of the mess i am in and take care of her on my own, We have never been apart i have stayed home with her since she was born.Will she be okay in a daycare or will it make her unhappy,can u really trust those who work in them cause she is a big mommy girl and fights sleep like crazy if im not there.Will she adjust also will I be able to handle being away from her. I know it will be hard but im more worried of how she will and how they will treat her. She is the only child and very spoild,she loves other little kids though,so i dont know how she would do.anyone out there who had ever had to do this pls give me adive,ive only found info of when they went back at like 3months but she is 1yr and 3months old and prob only stayed away from me 3times.someone anyone help

Answer 1

this is tricky but i say try it... only for about ten minutes at firsst but then maybe 30 minute and then 1 hour and then so on and so forth that would probally work and as for u it will works as well

Answer 2

Make sure the day care is registered and licenced. go and visit at odd times,see how they treat the children. as for your child you will now have to undue the spoil ed part, if you want a happy adjusted child Children do cry when left in some one Else's care but they do get over it soon, as there is so many new things to take in. good luck

Answer 3

do u have to work because if u dont then i would stay home with my child and keep her until least she's able to talk and tell u if some one hurts her. there is so much evil in this world and alot of bad things seem to be happen to children. i regret not staying at home with my children but i had a sorry husband that wouldnt work so i had to work. i wish u lots of luck. if u dont need the money then stay home with your precious angel because no one will treat her as good as u

Answer 4

First I understand from a mother's piont of view, I 2 children and I know its hard to goo uot and do things without worringing about whether the baby is fine or not. It's your natural instinct to do that, but if your child depends on you for
her well being then go ahead it may hurt but it's the best you can do for her.

And about day care my children have never been in day care, my familiy still helps out once in a while, I know you have alot of pride from your words, but it takes more pride to ask for help. ask your familiy. or a trusted friend.

Answer 5

honey your a mom. that is what we do worry about our babies no matter the age. with my youngest i was home 2 years. your baby will survive, better then you at first. people who work in day cares are checked out more then they use to be. ask if you can stand and observe for a while. watch and see how she does. don't give up on making it better for the two of you. have your tissue ready cause you will probably cry when you leave her the first day. cry , blow your nose and go on. you both should do fine.

Answer 6

Sweetheart, I know all to well how you are feeling about this situation. I too was at this level at one point and time in my life. I don't know much about your situation or the background of life style. What I can share with you is how I dealt with this when my kids were babies. They are now 18, 16. and 14 year olds. Believe it or not I am still concerned and worried about their well being. I use to have a job and tried to go to college. I was having to leave my babies with family members until they were old enough to go to headstart school or daycare. The problem I had was that there was times when I would find out that my child was not properly being cared for and in some instances had actually been mistreated by family members. It really furiated me and hurt me to know that I could not even trust some family members (in-laws). While I was away I constantly worried and wondered how were my kids doing, if they were okay, and all sort of things. Being in this state of mind really made me unhappy and could not focus on my job. Even though I needed the money to help make ends meet, I had to make a tough decision: my kids well being or my job. By me having a husband that was supportive of my decision, I chose to quit my job and be with my own kids. Believe me it was a big sacrifice and a lot of hardship but it was worth it all to be at home with my kidsand for my kids. As long as I was with my children I was happy, comfortable, and was able to see about them myself. I think personally, every mother needs to be with their child at least until they start school. But thats only my opinion. Now in your situation concerning being away from her; it may rough in the beginning but the both of you will eventually adjust to being apart. One of my kids had a tough time dealing with being apart from me and she cried each and every day that she had to go to headstart. It would hurt me to leave her but I had to toughen it out at that time until I decided to do otherwise. I've been a stay at home mom for years but like I say I sacrificed a lot, but it was well worth it for my kids. My advice to you is this: Only leave you baby if you are very confident in the person whom you are entrusting her care and wellbeing to. But if you have a gut instinct that you need to be with your child then don't do anything otherwise. As far as working out the mess that you are in, I don't know if you have a husband or boyfriend who is working to help support you all but if you can manage for a little while, try and stay home with your baby. But now you be the judge of your circumstances because you know them better than I do. I hope this advice helps you

Answer 7

you need to ought to stay with someone who you won't be able to stand. Your emotional well being is basically as important as hers and he or she's attempting to make her needs better important than yours. the ultimate aspect might want to be for both of you to seperate so that you both have a probability to discover someone who makes you both more than chuffed.