we were best friends for 5 yrs then lived together for a yr and half were engaged and very close. my lil girl called him dad. his son called me mum. we picked my uni places together but when it come down to it he couldent make the hour and half move away from his other two kids from a previous relationship. plus my mum didnt help matters coz they cant keep thier noses out can they. now me and my 4 yr old whos just started school have moved to this new place. im just hurting so much and so is my lil girl and im finding it really hard without him. he still wants be friends. whats best way to cope with this ? ive lost my soulmate and my lil girl her dad and brother to her.
2006-10-21 09:51:06 · 16 answers · asked by angelalways 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Keep busy, really busy. Throw your heart and soul into doing new things with your little girl, i'm going through this at the moment and sometimes the thought of the change makes me feel slightly hysterical. Don't blame your family if they had good reason to interfere, nothing your mum can say will make you feel any better right now because you are the one whose suffering but we all have a coping mechanism, you will get through this because you have no choice, the more time will pass the more you will heal you are maybe feeling a bit numb but this is the making of a new you, Keep moving along with the days and that knot in your stomach will start to ease.
2006-10-21 10:03:00 · answer #1 · answered by DONNAIS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl I know how your feeling right now, I've been there to,what you may think was your soulmate was just someone God put in your life to teach you something,what that was i can't tell you but i know that if hes not there now theres a good reason and your better off and so is your daughter,love takes time too heal, but you will get thru it if you just pray about things and him, I find it hard to be friends after a break up, it just never works that way. I wish you the best but remember your daughter comes first and focus on her not you.
2006-10-21 09:57:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, i am so very sorry that you and your little girl are hurting. I too know what it's like to be without a loved one. I've been on a tour of duty in iraq for 18 months and miss my wife and two beautiful children beyond measure. Maybe you should give it another try. Is it possible for you to move back to where he is and make some personal sacrifices. If your daughter really saw this man as her father then you owe it to her to do everything possible to keep the 'family' together. As far as your mother and other outside people are concerned, tell them all to butt out. This is your life and your family. Fight for them. It seems like this guy was a pretty good guy being that you didn't bad mouth him at all. Do everything you can to work it out. Good luck to you and your girl.
2006-10-21 09:56:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe what is meant to be will be so it will work out if it is supposed to.
If you really feel as if you have 'lost' your soul mate you are wrong - you have not lost him and he still wants to be friends so he will be in your life if you let him...
It does not seem as if you have done all you could to be with him - if you are certain he is the one then maybe you both need to talk about how you feel and if you are willing to risk anything to be together
I understand that children are involved and seems such a shame that maybe life and its responsibilities has got in the way for you
I think it is admiral though if someone puts their children first - that is how it should be nothing should stop him being a good father and I bet that is one of the qualities you love about him...
I hope it works out for you (fingers crossed)
2006-10-21 10:21:36 · answer #4 · answered by Brown_Sugar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might think that the two of you were soul mates, but did he? Even though he felt he couldn't be so far away from his other two kids, it would of only been an hour and a half extra travel, he couldn't of been thinking of you and your daughter as family which from what you say, you thought that he did. So now you should ask him how he feels. You sound strong and i should think you will find someone who will care for you and your daughter the way you ought too be treated.
2006-10-21 10:12:30 · answer #5 · answered by markj1007 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is very difficult to remain friends with someone you once loved and who has so evidently let you down.
It can be quite depressing and even humiliating to see them.
In future you must be careful not to let your child get too close to any new boyfriend until you are pretty sure of him.You owe it to your child not to let her think of anyone as "Dad" or call him that until you are truly committed to each other.
2006-10-21 10:45:38 · answer #6 · answered by simon2blues 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life is tough sometimes, isn't it. Obviously if you both meant a lot to each other then you might have considered marriage and raising your collective kids, no matter wh was the real parents, together.
2006-10-21 09:53:35 · answer #7 · answered by IGH3Rat 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be friends his kid is probably missing you as well. Have a good heart to heart if he was not interested he would not want to see you at all, take care and i hope it works works out. Pray to god.
2006-10-21 09:58:55 · answer #8 · answered by guysmithdenise 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
S stay in touch its really sad to hear and my heart goes out to you .
i made a similar mistake and now i got what i wanted Because i stayed in touch its called Karma
2006-10-21 09:56:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear that but maybe you should take this time to take care of your life and your daughter, I know the situation might suck, but how knows whats around the corner. Good luck and take care of yourself.
2006-10-21 09:53:56 · answer #10 · answered by Wood77 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋