my ex was a nasty spitefull man, i'm relieved he is gone as i couldn't get through an average day with him in my life but i feel a bit depressed, how will i cope when he moves on?
2006-10-21 09:46:24 · 9 answers · asked by DONNAIS 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
im going through same thing but my x wasnt nasty he just changed his mind about moving away so that i could go uni. im really hurtin so is my lil girl but i think you just gota stay strong for the kids. we'll get there im sure if you ever feel down and fancy a chat let me know. keep your chin up.xx
2006-10-21 09:56:06 · answer #1 · answered by angelalways 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was with a man that used to beat me regular and bully me when i not do things his way. I was with this man for 14 years. You are properly asking yourself why did i stay with him for 14 years? Well that is a good question but the answer is quiet simple i thought that i loved him and we had 2 kids, i thought that i was doing the right thing. As it turns out i was not. We split up a couple of years ago and a part of me was relieved but than another part of me felt as thou my world had ended.
He met his girlfriend a month after we split and at first i felt very low but after a couple of months i started to realise that i was happy, i was enjoying my life again, the kids seemed a lot happier too.
I met someone else shortly after my ex had met his girlfriend and we all ended up going out to lunch with one another!.
My ex and i are now friends (because it is easier that way because of the children) and we are both happy. we are better being friends now than we ever was as a couple.
I think to be honest that you will handle your ex going with someone else as eventually you will realise that you are happier.
Just allow yourself time and make sure that you keep busy.
I wish you luck but i am sure that you will be fine. Keep your head held high and keep smiling, things will improve for you i am sure.
good luck
2006-10-21 10:24:21 · answer #2 · answered by blondegirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
MMmm had same problem , kikt ex out about 9 weeks ago, but sometimes he tries to get at me not showing up for kids or coming for them for not even an hour,, he says if he says he dont wanna be a part time dad,, (not really bothered if he never shows face again)... if he didnt make you happy,, stay away, it gets better as time goes by? good luck!
2006-10-21 10:09:00 · answer #3 · answered by madmarie35 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look at it this way............You have grown and have experienced a hardship .....Now this is the first day of the rest of your great life!
Be positive from now on..especially for your child/children.The bum is gone...yeah! For now you need to turn to a social worker at your local clinic....let her know what is happening and she should be able to help you......Hopefully your ex will pay child support if not then you need to speak with child welfare workers,,,,,,,,,,,,,they can all help you get on your feet . Good luck
2006-10-21 09:53:29 · answer #4 · answered by mom of a boy and girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok this could sound style of propose, yet i'll ask it in any case. Do you in basic terms decide for to get on inclusive of your existence via fact which you opt for the money. What I propose is this terrible stuff your brother went via has made him so bitter that he would not decide for any element of his fathers money. curiously no quantity of money could make up for what he persevered. Why do you resent your brother? Do you experience that in case you nevertheless take the money then you definately are no longer being sympathetic to what befell to him. Do you think of he gave you the diaries so as which you may experience to blame? i think of he in basic terms needs you to appreciate why he refuses to take any element of the money. Are you afraid that in case you're taking the money then your brother will experience which you're in basic terms after the money and which you do no longer truly care approximately him in any respect or what he has been via. you easily could desire to chat inclusive of your brother. He instructed you with reference to the diaries via fact he wanted you to correctly known. while he started writing them he had no thought immediately might come. provide him the income of the doubt. perhaps he waited a year via fact he replaced into at a loss for words. The ball is on your courtroom. you're making the subsequent flow. communicate with him. you're no longer toddlers. parent it out jointly. there is an considerable quantity of money. Use it properly. do no longer permit money come between a dating with you and your brother. the money won't final a life-time,with any luck your dating will. provide it away in case you have too.
2016-10-02 13:04:20 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there and done it. 10 years ago over and done with, kids grown up, new life, new marriage, new daughter. He did me a favour, Big time. Good Luck, it will turn out fine.
2006-10-21 10:09:01 · answer #6 · answered by Jeanette 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to get out more and meet people, help out the school i do and i like it, go to mums and tots and church, you may be feeling a bit lonely on your own. Its a good job you have stayed away from him, you are doing well and are a brave woman. God to church as well their are nice people their.
2006-10-21 09:55:55 · answer #7 · answered by guysmithdenise 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to move on yourself, recognise your free now and enjoy it, you need to feel relieved when he moves on cos he'll leave you alone then. i was seeing a man for nine years and had three kids with him it was a nightmare, i left two yrs ago and i've met a great man who treats me with respect. keep your faith sweetie.
2006-10-21 09:58:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just said it you feel relieved and it will only get better.
What I think you may have fear of is the MONEY part ge tit from
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2006-10-21 09:51:03 · answer #9 · answered by aaricka 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋