My husband X wife hates me and blames me fore their divorce when the fact is I was no where in the picture when she moved out or they filed for a divorce.. I do not want all this anger and blame.. How can i talk to her when she will not talk to me.. I am not the reason for their divorce, I was dating a man when all that happened.. I need some advice, She tells her children whom come over on weekends bad things and they disrespect me when they come over.. How do I deal with this??
2006-10-21 09:37:58 · 10 answers · asked by Gail C 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
How long have you 2 been married ? Sometimes it just takes time for the Ex to get over the pain of divorce . Sometimes it takes the Ex to find another love of their own. I feel sorry for the kids , it's so hard to deal with life anyway and to have someone being childish and telling them bad things about you is just awful. Let the kids know that you care about them and respect them and eventually they should come around. Your husband could say something to them and the Ex for that matter , make sure he knows whats going on . Good luck dear it sounds like you will have a while to go before this will go away , just be patient and remember , It wasn't your fault , she is the one who has a problem , not you . Be yourself . Love those kids !
2006-10-21 09:45:45 · answer #1 · answered by debbie m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is the ugly divorce you hear about lots of the time. She needs a scape goat and you have become the one. The kids are the ones suffering
So for their sake see if you and the children and your husband can sit down and talk things out.
If they are not into it try having a professional sit with you all and talk things out. They Need to feel safe and Happy with you and their Dad
Don't blame yourself it happens to stop the stuff will take work and you seem ready to tackle it Good Luck You sound like the good guy so the ball is in your hands to tackle the problem
2006-10-21 09:47:55 · answer #2 · answered by aaricka 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, how old are the kids? If they're like 12 or older just remember in a few years they're out the door right?
If they're younger than that, ask them to compaire what their Moms said to what you've been accused of- then have them make their own conclusions.
I would suggest you record this stuff discretely, just in case someone trys to have you arrested for child abuse.
keep a journal to record all this stuff too- thats also legal evidence. Between the Journal and the videos you should be able to beat any criminal charges.
Good Luck
2006-10-21 09:41:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would confront her in front of your husband , and let her know that she is
not doing her children any justice teaching them how to disrespect adults .
Make sure your husband hears all of this . Tell her that you will not stand for it any more . Then tell your husband that he better step up to the plate and back you up or you are not going to take the kids anymore .
You have the right to stand your ground , but do it now !
2006-10-21 09:46:23 · answer #4 · answered by Geedebb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well for one, u need to have the father of the children sit down and talk to his kids, because it isn't right that he lets them disrespect you like that and get away with it. And if the x has a problem with u 2 being together than that is just her problem. She can't sit around and blame u for her mistakes and there is no used talking to her, she is just gona have to get used to it.
2006-10-21 09:46:14 · answer #5 · answered by dcutegirl06 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't know how to love the children,cause you are not a mom! you just wanted to play with a person for your personal interest and your own sexual desires!Why are you attracted to that person? ask yourself first and try to reach your goal! Reaching a goal is marathon,learn from your own mistakes!
2006-10-21 09:44:35 · answer #6 · answered by precede2005 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave her alone and go on with your life. This in in you past now. So why keep draggin that unnecessary baggage with you?
If she harrasses you that is different. Get a lawyer to tell her to stop.
2006-10-21 09:41:20 · answer #7 · answered by the shadow knows 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol....im a child of a divorced couple..and believe me i hate my stepmom..but not for the reasons like your stepchildren. just let them get to know you..and make their daddy make them respect you..do wat my mom told my step brother "im your dads new wife, deal or i will make him stop your tuition and your money"...works everytime
2006-10-21 09:41:06 · answer #8 · answered by lost_in_thought 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nothing to worry. gone is gone forever.
ignore her.for give, forget and move away from her.
2006-10-21 09:40:54 · answer #9 · answered by prince47 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give her her husband back
2006-10-21 09:40:16 · answer #10 · answered by laurie r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋