My husband was a virgin when we met. I wasn't. I can go with twice a week or even three time. BUT for him he would like it every night. I'm tell him I don't want too. I just can't keep up with him. Should I keep doing what I'm doing or tell him he should be more flexable?
2006-10-21 09:37:07 · 27 answers · asked by candy2025 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm a mother of 2 children and he works an 8 hour day. I'm tired after taking care of two kids and then waking up twice a night to nurse.
2006-10-21 09:54:28 · update #1
That is a tough one. If your not in the mood your just not in the mood. He needs to understand that. Being married is not all about sex. How long have you'll been married if it's years it's time to slow down but if it's new then typically it will naturally slow down. I never was really into sex until I fell truly inlove. When me and my ex who I was and still am truly inlove with got together we were having sex two or three times a day. Sometimes I'd wake him up in the middle of the night. Even now that we're not together when we see eachother we can't seem to keep our hands off of eachother. I'd say talk to him tell him you can't keep it up every night. you need him to understand that it's not all about sex. Be understanding that he has his needs too.
2006-10-21 10:00:34 · answer #1 · answered by lil sis 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You sound like so many of the wives out there. If you really don't want to have sex every day and he does you need to come up with a practical solution quick or he will find someone who is willing. Oral sex is great, you can even masturbate him occationally but odds are he is better at it than you can ever get (it is his after all) if you are very open then tell him to find one FWB that he can see regularly. Just be open about everything.
2006-10-21 16:41:54 · answer #2 · answered by medic 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If he loves you and has any respect for your feelings he should accept that two and three times a week is better than nothing at all,you can also remind him that he does have a hand.
2006-10-21 18:51:03 · answer #3 · answered by joseph 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Use reverse psychology on him. If he wants it once a day,you give it to him 2 or three or more times daily. Wear him out and overwork it. He will soon tire having too much sex and ask you to settle for less and then, much to your dissappointment, you compromise to 2 or 3 times a week. Problem solved and you win.
2006-10-21 17:08:06 · answer #4 · answered by small is to big 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋
why dont you become ore flexible and afford your husband who has his (appropriate) desire for his wife something you apparently gave away like it was nothing to someone who didnt even bother to marry you. Sex is normal in a marriage . When he starts to look at others for what should be readily available at home you'll wish your werent so selfish.
2006-10-21 16:46:22 · answer #5 · answered by peaches 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No need to talk about it and make a big deal about the matter.but you don't have to let it happen everyday.put up some resistance once in a while and he will eventually come round to not the fact that its not going to be everyday
2006-10-21 16:52:09 · answer #6 · answered by batasy 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It s not a good idea too turn him down each day!! A good lovemaking is refreshing and healthy!!!! U should try one week with Ur husband!!!!!!!!
2006-10-21 17:04:07 · answer #7 · answered by L...A... 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Just make love to him. Once a night isn't bad. You don't want him to be looking for it else where.
2006-10-21 16:46:47 · answer #8 · answered by Apple 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
See if you can squeeze in some more sleep,then you'll be either up to sex or explaining
2006-10-21 18:18:48 · answer #9 · answered by maykithapin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
EVERYDAY!! yes that is a bit too much....buy him some porn and a furry glove! Let him know that you just cant enjoy it everyday...and you need some days inbetween to charge the batteries back up!
2006-10-21 17:09:38 · answer #10 · answered by Lynne B 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋