do you know what they look like? if u you didnt, and u asked to see what they looked like, would it change the way you look at them again or see them differently i.e. u totally change yuor mind about them. if so, why? u were willing to talk to them in many conversations before and had a few laughs but why do things have to change at the 1st glance of their picture. its happened to me and i would like to know if you have any ideas why some one would do that.
2006-10-21 09:33:42 · 18 answers · asked by allgiggles1984 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I have freinds that I have been talking to for over 3 years and they know what I look like.But I also had this one guy who after he saw my pic he didn't talk to me as much as he use to. I found out because he was looking for a gf and I was older then him..We still talk but it isn't the same.Plus I don't really care and you shouldn't either...There are to many people out there to let someone upset you..Brush it off and forget about it...It's not worth it and you deserve better anyway.
2006-10-21 10:01:01 · answer #1 · answered by sweet_thing_kay04 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course it will change as when you started chatting to someone without knowing what they look like, you automatically build up an image of that person in your head - may not be very detailed but certainly enough to make you warm to that person more. So what I tend to do is if the 'quality and character traits' of someone meet your criteria, ask for a face photo at the 1st instance before committing any time with him in chat rooms or messenger. It saves time and that way you won't build up hopes which may end up disappointing yourself and him/her. I hope it helps. Good luck xx
2006-10-21 16:46:50 · answer #2 · answered by Helloyou 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have several online friends and I've seen almost all of them. Over time you might get an image of what they look like and it probably totally different than what you expected. Its normal to be shocked but if the 'relationship' was meaningful then thats whats important and hopefully soon things will go back to normal. Its even weirder when you finally meet them in person. Good luck.
2006-10-21 16:38:51 · answer #3 · answered by Tigger 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well if it is more than just a friendship i could see why it changed the way they looked at you 'cause obviously they weren't attracted you but if you were just friends then i don't really understand why it would matter.That's a little weird unless they weren't being ccompletely honest with you and were looking for it to build into more but either way i feel it was childish and they must be a very superficial person in which case you don't need "friends" like that.If you like you can go to my profile and email me and we can be friends,it doesn't matter to me what you look like 'cause i'm not fake like that.
2006-10-21 16:40:56 · answer #4 · answered by serenity 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had once.
Look doesn't matter 2 me.
I think it happenes cause when we start talking to people, it's inspired by their thought or answers which is about the person they are but when we see them, their face shows something else, not as beautiful as the things we liked in the things which aspired you 2 talk 2 them.
2006-10-21 16:43:49 · answer #5 · answered by Willie Black 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For me, when people talk to other people on-line, they form a image in their head. For some people, if the image in their and the actual image of the person are not similar/ they person does not look as good as they might hope, then things change, because they would rather, talk to people that look good (but for me, I will talk to about anyone, even if they do not look extremely good)
2006-10-21 16:43:41 · answer #6 · answered by John K 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well first everyone has a personality even in their writing (i mean use of words and exprssions) and so we omagine that a little girl wouldnt use hard words and a big man wouldnt be sad on some romantic movie but these are just some exemlpes. We are very judging people and we can imagine many things and if somethings doesnt match with our imagination it wont be a happyend!!!
2006-10-21 16:40:07 · answer #7 · answered by L...A... 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have done that, too. Now all my online friends I know personally. As on they were friends I knew and added them to my messengers and such. The only thing you can do to change this is A) Don't ask for a pic. or B) don't be so judgemental.
2006-10-21 16:37:12 · answer #8 · answered by Some Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have made loads of friends on chatrooms etc, but i did recently meet some1 from the net, and whilst we had been chatting everything was gr8, the only things that were wrong was, that when i did meet him he turned out 2 be some1 totally differnt from the pic he had sent me, to put it mildly orville the ducks twin with an anorak on lol, so when i did see him in the flesh so to speak for the 1st time, i was totally put off, as i aint into animal farm lol, so my advice to you is, be very careful as to whom you do meet from the net, and always meet them with some of your friends, you never know you maybe lucky and find the person of your dreams, of maybe they will trun out to be just a gd friend to you. so good luck with what ever you decide to do.
2006-10-21 17:38:36 · answer #9 · answered by samantha s 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have on line friends but most of the ones I chat with I have seen how they look and they have seen how I look.If there is only friendship involved I don't care what they look like (Unless I plan to meet them in real).
2006-10-21 16:39:22 · answer #10 · answered by telis_gr1 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋