OK well my BESTFRIEND is dating my ex-boyfriend who i was seriously inlove with. like... im not kidding. I loved him so much. and we went out for a long time. then we just broke up like a week ago and my bestfriend goes out with him... what should i do? Im so hurt and heartbroken.
2006-10-21 09:32:17 · 23 answers · asked by Jessi K 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I am so very sorry to hear this. WTF are these two assholes doing? I would like to kich their asses for you. That is just plain MEAN. I have a feeling these two jerks were involved during your relationship with your ex.
This happened to me when I was in my early 20's. I am 37 now. I know you will not believe me, but the pain will pass and life will go on. I remember crying so hard it hurt and I fealt like I would die.
As for the two jerks. I would be done with them for good. That asshole you were dating doesn't deserve you and that chic can't be trusted.
He will dump her for her next bestfriend and you can laugh in her face when that happens. As for him, guys like that will be fat, bald and lonely when they grow up cause women don't want men like that.
Hang in there girl. Learn from this and your next relationship will be better.
2006-10-21 09:42:00 · answer #1 · answered by Mommy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
True, the cardinal rule was broken. But the question here is why did you dump the guy in the first place. If the reason is anything less that truly honorable, she has every right to pick up the pieces of what you broke. That's a true friend.
What are you really upset about, the fact you really want your boyfriend back, or the fact your friend brought him back into your life. If you really like him, you will need to play the same game your friend is playing. If she was there to offer comfort, apologize to him for being awful and remove the hurt. This would remove one reason he's dating her.
Here's the second. If you truly like this guy and you broke up with him because you didn't want to sleep with him, then sleep with him and remove that point of conflict!
Whatever you decide to do, remember you contributed to this also. If you want your friend to stop dating your ex, try being a better friend and remove the hurt you caused in the first place.
And i know that will solve your problem!
Write me back if you need any more advice!
Wish you luck!
2006-10-21 16:39:55 · answer #2 · answered by diagofaldi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kick that b i t ch to the curb. 1st what u need to do is just tell her the hell off. Let her know what type of person she is because she doesnt care about your feelings. She didnt even bother to ask if u might have still had feelings for him. If they got together right after u and him broke up, then more than likely, they were seeing each other behind your back. She is not a good friend and she does not need to be your bestfriend any longer. I'd kick her a s s.
2006-10-21 16:35:32 · answer #3 · answered by yogurlmsbunny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your in a small town... that's pretty much unavoidable. The time between relationships for him however, is rediculous and your friend should know damn well that your not going to be over him yet. She really doesn't deserve any mercy in your wrath. I would say, tell her she is out of line, and if that doesn't work, end the friendship temporarily to show her you're serious, and if that don't work, f*ck her.
2006-10-21 16:37:56 · answer #4 · answered by Charles 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My first reaction, honey, is that she is not such a good friend...my second reaction is that it is good that you know what they are both about before something really serious happened, like getting married to the bum. Both of them are to blame. I'd bet they have been having talks behind your back. Hold your head up kiddo! There are guys out there who won't do you that way, and girlfriends too! I am sorry for your loss and hope you find better, Quickly! Loves. Nana
2006-10-21 16:37:01 · answer #5 · answered by nanawnuts 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you spoken with your best friend privately about the pain you're experiencing since she is now dating your ex? Friends should be considerate of each others' feelings so if you tell her how you feel I hope she will care enough about the relationship she has with you to let this guy go. Guys come and go, but real friendship is priceless. Please don't allow a guy to come between the two of you.
2006-10-21 16:41:18 · answer #6 · answered by Bethany 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the thing to remmber is that you dated him, you didn't own him. when you leave someone it means you no longer have those deep feelings for him, so (1) it shouldn't even bother you whom he goes out with, (2) your friend waited til you no longer wanted him. don't be upset at either one of them, be happy for them and go find yourself another guy, one that somebody else left, and be happy. Relationships are not exclusive, there are always other people involved in the equation of love. You are being very shallow acting all hurt with your girlfriend, do you have that many friends to throw away?
You keep being selfish and you won't have any friends period.
2006-10-21 16:44:59 · answer #7 · answered by the sealer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing. He is your ex. He became fair game once you broke up. She isn't your best friend, is she? A best friend would have stayed loyal and stayed away from your ex.
There must be hundreds of guys that would love to be your guy. Life goes on.
Good luck!
2006-10-21 16:39:57 · answer #8 · answered by ssbn598 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I do not think your 'best friend' knows anything about friendship. The number one golden rule about girlfriends is you NEVER go out with your friends ex. Not only do you need to get over you ex, but you need to tell your 'best friend' to get lost. She's really inconsiderate of you and your feelings.
2006-10-21 16:35:37 · answer #9 · answered by blueeyeskenai 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your best friend is not being your best friend. Real friends don't do that. Just get on with your life and you will soon be dating other boys and will come across one who is better for you.
2006-10-21 16:35:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋