Okay... the thing is I think I may be in this situation. What am I supposed to do? My confession wouldn't change things, meaning that my relative would still die, but what should I do? Should I tell him or not? I think he has the right to know because everyone has something they want to do before they die, and considering that he's very close to me, wouldn't it be considered betrayal?
2006-10-21 09:04:44 · 15 answers · asked by ava c 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I'm sorry, I know how you feel cos I was there almost 3 years ago. Most of the family did'nt want my mother to know she was dying from cancer cos they wanted to enjoy the time she had left. I wanted to tell her cos we were very close.To cut a long story short, I was close to a breakdown when my mother died. The guilt I felt at lying to her was so heavy, I cried everyday, asking her to forgive me,wherever she was. That lasted about a year. I can't advise you, only you know the answer. I just know that I would want to be told. Good luck and God bless.
2006-10-21 09:14:20 · answer #1 · answered by Taylor29 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, but notin so many words. If they have a diagnosis of 6 mos. then Hospice should be involved and they can help. I went through this with my husband and my mom and my dad. I knew because I talked to the doctors and they were very understanding. You are right about having things to do and take care of. If they are ill ( in my case cancer), and they know they have it then broaching the subject as, "if the cancer progresses to being terminal what would you want us to do?" My husband knew he was dying but I never told him the time frame that the DR. had told me and we made plans right up 'til the end. Age makes a difference, too. My husband was 47. My friend's mom is 84 and she has a few months but the family hasn't told her she has cancer, but they are making sure she has all her affairs in order and whatever she wants. Follow your heart, it always knows best. That and pray!
2006-10-21 16:16:18 · answer #2 · answered by oldhippygrandma 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hopefully their doctor already told them that they are going to die. They may not be saying or doing anything different because they want to protect you from being upset and worried. Wait til they bring up the subject and just enjoy the time you have
2006-10-21 16:07:41 · answer #3 · answered by DoubleDMom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, for starters, if someone told me that I could find out the day I die, I would have to turn them down. Not too many people want to know that sort of thing. UNLESS, your planning on making it happen...then I am going to have to call the police
2006-10-21 16:07:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I wouldn't tell them their going to die , but if they really have no idea ,suggest their not going to be around forever. Ask them if there's anything they want to do.If death is imminent yea they should know whats going on. no atheist on deaths door so he may want some counselling. Take care of yourself too.
2006-10-21 16:15:22 · answer #5 · answered by Jason 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where is his family at ? who told u he was dieing ? I think the Dr and his family should be the ones to do that ...
2006-10-21 17:45:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't want you to tell me, I was going to die.
2006-10-21 16:06:35 · answer #7 · answered by Alex 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think I would tell him. He may already know even if you don't think so! Try to make his life happy as you can while it is still possible!
2006-10-21 16:08:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe they would already know. No need to say anything to them. Very sorry to hear your plight.
2006-10-21 16:07:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a doctor break the news to him. I'm deeply sorry.
2006-10-21 16:06:44 · answer #10 · answered by Sarah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋