isnt variety the spice of life?
2006-10-21 09:04:24 · 19 answers · asked by Maria 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Sexual attraction is a confusing thing, and completely out of our control. One day you might fancy one person, the next day your tastes have changed, and there's not a damn thing you can do about it.
I would guess that some bi people have felt the need to identify themselves as 'gay' in order to be accepted by a group, which is a shame if it is not how they would choose to think of themselves.
I use the term 'bi' for myself as a shortcut if I haven't got the time or inclination to explain my very complicated and changeable sexual feelings; other times I say I am 'sometimes gay', because some days I feel I have more in common with gay people than bisexuals or straight people, and other days not.
Sexuality is about who you are attracted to - if it is both sexes, then at that time you are bi. It is very sad if some people think this is wrong, but that doesn't make it true.
2006-10-22 05:45:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
According to Kinsey almost everyone, like close to 99% of humanity, is some degree of bi-sexual, although most have a preference for one or the other. The idea that you have to be one or the other comes from Freud, who believed that "Normal" meant "just like him", and that anything else was a mental illness. This is why most straights and gays denigrate and condemn bis, we aren't "just like them" so we must be "mentally ill". In real life humans aren't that easily categorized, we are far to complex for that. Variety IS the spice of life, and your lifestyle is your own to choose, don't let anyone tell you different.
2006-10-21 16:24:01 · answer #2 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well not when its pulled out and used at will. Many gays/lesbians and straights don't like dealing with bisexuals because they see it as not making a commitment to either. If you are a bisexual man and you marry a straight woman and keep your sexual preference a secret, cheat on her behind her back, but get to present yourself from the relative safety of a heterosexual marriage, then that's not fair to anyone involved. Its extremely selfish. If you are a bisexual woman and you only keep g/fs to tide you over between b/fs, throwing them away when you get a man in your life again, you are again taking advantage and being selfish.
However, there are those of us out there who do not act like that. Many bisexuals are monogamous with what ever gender they fall in love with, ie, when I was married to a bisexual man, neither of us cheated, we honored our relationship and agreements. Same thing for me now, I've been in a long term relationship with a woman, and I know this is the last relationship of my life, because she is my one true soulmate. My ex husband wasn't, and we both were able to see that and end an unhappy marriage long ago.
So there isn't anything wrong with being attracted to both sex's, its how you behave that may be wrong.
2006-10-21 18:54:41 · answer #3 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nothing is wrong with liking both sexes. Anyone who makes the judgment that you are either gay or not doesn't have a good grasp on life.
2006-10-21 16:10:57 · answer #4 · answered by HaNick 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nothing wrong with it. Most women do, much more so that men. Also, just like Woody Alan said. If you are bi-sexual then you have twice as many chances of getting a date on Saturday night.
2006-10-21 16:08:18 · answer #5 · answered by bocasbeachbum 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Nothing at all at least to loving, smart and healthy people. Variety is definitely a delicious spice that I love to taste from time to time.
2006-10-21 18:09:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe we all fall along the spectrum of bisexuality. Some are at the far end on either side, but can see the beauty in both sexes.
I also don't believe you fall in love or are sexually attracted to someone because of which chromosone pair they hold - the XX or XY. You fall for someone because of who and what they are.
2006-10-21 16:20:09 · answer #7 · answered by Diana D 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I see nothing wrong with it. A person doesn't decide which sex they are going to like. Both sexes have their appeal and if you like the appeal that comes from both sexes, there's no problem. I say, enjoy life and live how you would like.
2006-10-21 16:26:02 · answer #8 · answered by fayra_elm 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
People who say this have very limited imaginations, and can't understand what it's like to be attracted to both genders. They're like homophobes, in that they inflict their realities onto you. I like to compare genders to eye color, height, etc.--a lot of people are flexible in their preferences, it's just that they think gender's a bigger deal than other physical traits. I wrote a whole article doing that, so non-bis might finally understand:
http://princesswitch.livejournal.com/162541.html
2006-10-21 16:40:00 · answer #9 · answered by GreenEyedLilo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Casting off the shackles of convention allows one to explore the joys of life in their full complexity and relish the intricacies of pleasure and fulfillment.
But everyone has their own comfort zone. Stretching that zone is half the fun.
2006-10-21 16:10:10 · answer #10 · answered by Steve M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋