Well I asked a question {my pregnant sister........?} and my parents dont know about imy 18 yeaar old sister getting knocked up, but I do & I talked to her and she's upset. She said she cant tell her parents so she's gonna have an abortion and pretend this never happened. I dont want my sister to hae an abortion it's cruel. I didn't wanna tell her not 2 cause im afraid she'll get angry and never talk to me again. What should i do yahoo?
2006-10-21 08:51:52 · 23 answers · asked by Ghetto Sexy Baby Wendy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Oh, honey, abortion is such a touchy subject to begin with. You are either against it or for it, there isn't any in between. However, I know that you didn't come on here to get opinions about what people believe, so let me see if I can help...when you have an abortion, you don't just move on unless you are a person with no feeling. I doubt that of your sister because it sounds more like she is a scared young girl. When I was 19, I got pregnant with my first child. I was terrified becauase I didn't know what I was going to do. I didn't want to tell my parents, I didn't want to tell anyone. I felt as if I had this horrible disease that was embarrassing and contagious. My 17 year old sister ended up being the one to tell them. She knew because she was there with me when I took the test. I was angry at first, but then relieved because it took the pressure off of me. My first confrontation with my parents took place over the phone, and the next thing I know, I am living with my parents for two years. That child is now 12 years old. My feelings back then were this. I was scared. I felt like I was more alone than I have ever felt in my life. I didn't want to allow the realization to set in that even though this little being was brand new and probably only the size of a pea, whatever decision I made affected not only me, but her too. Because allowing myself to know that information was confirming that this wasn't just a really bad dream. It was real. This is life, and your sister has to own up to what she decided to do. Pretending it never happened isn't going to make it go away. Because it did, and you need to help her realize that. I know that you are afraid that she will never talk to you again, but I highly recommend that you tell your parents. They will proabably be devastated, and it will probably be difficult, but there are so many different alternatives. She isn't thinking rationally now, and she really needs some guidance. You aren't betraying her. You love her, and you want her to be ok. Counseling is a definite in a situation like this. I hope that this somewhat helped, and I will say a prayer. Good luck and God bless in whatever you decide to do.
2006-10-21 09:17:14 · answer #1 · answered by pamalamadingdong_1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SHe feels bad? Good. As she should. 2 abortions already and she is considering another one? Abortion is NOT birth control. She purposely got pregnant, she should take care of her responsibility. Why in the world would she even consider having a baby with someone that she was in a volatile relationship anyhow? I'm sorry, she doesn't have a good reason for aborting this child, nor did she have a good reason for the past 2 either. She needs to take responsibility for crying out loud. She is terminating another life, her childrens siblings. I think she needs to get her tubes tied after this one.
2016-05-22 08:09:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take it easy on her... We should not be here to judge someone by the question... She is 18 she is an adult. Which means she can make her own decisions on weather this is right for her. Even if you would tell YOUR parents she can have it done anyway. She doesn't need there permission. You are only making this harder for you sister if you would get your parents involved. In fact we are not sure how she came to be pregnant. Consensual or was it something else all together.
2006-10-21 09:07:40 · answer #3 · answered by sunbunnie72 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your parents immediately. Your sister needs them now. Can you think how much worse it would be for them if she has an abortion and then they find out. She should not be making this decision what she is upset. Abortion is something that is never gotten over. Your sister will never be able to put it behind her.
2006-10-21 08:57:41 · answer #4 · answered by bettyswestbrook 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got pregnant when I was 17. It is not easy and it is scary. But it is very rewarding also. I know she is scared to tell her parents. They might be upset at first but then they will get excited. Their going to grandparents! It is not as bad as it seems. I would tell her parents before she does something she will regret for the rest of her life. A baby is precious, whether it is just conceived or a newborn. It is a life and it has a heart.
2006-10-21 09:59:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
am so sorry that you are dealing with this.. My friend had an abortion in March and I am really against it.. I told her my feelings and my opinion.. and after talking to my bishop, I realized that I need to stand behind her decision, right or wrong. She is my friend and I love her alot, But I had to look at how that pregnancy would effect her life, Not mine. I know it is hard to support something you are so against. So please talk to her, tell her how you feel. Please let her know that it is not a quick fix, My friend really regrets having an abortion.. It will haunt her in the back of her mind for life. She will never just "forget" about it.. that is impossible.
2006-10-21 08:58:36 · answer #6 · answered by Gail C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all tell her truth because no harm could ever come by telling somebody ther truth. Trust me they will appreciate you telling the truth later.
I personally dont see abortion as a good thing or bad thing because there are many reasons. But just tell her the truth and let her make the decision because whatever decision she makes you will have to respect because its hers and she should respect your opinion on her decision.
2006-10-21 09:25:00 · answer #7 · answered by amgs234 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is her choice but you should tell your parents. If she doesn't want to keep it. Put up for adoption, there are alot of people on waiting listing for babys. But you must support your sister no matter what. Knowing parents they will get mad but you must help your sister though this diffuclut part. That's what sister are for.
2006-10-21 08:58:13 · answer #8 · answered by candy2025 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her not to i had a friend who had an abortion today i begged her not to do it but she did anyway she could not tell her parents as they would of been cross shes 19 my friend had told no one except me i don't believe in abortion and she broke my heart today by doing this and now wishes she had not done it tell her how you feel because if you don't and she goes ahead and has it she could blame you for not talking her out of it my friend now wishes she had listened to me and says i did not try hard enough to talk her out of it i did so talk to your sister
2006-10-21 08:59:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all if she is just having an abortion because she don't want to tell her parents then she is wrong for that.She need to grow up and be responsible for her actions.You need to talk to her about it.she may get mad but she will get over it.It is wrong of her to kill an unborn child just because she's afraid of telling her parents.They will only be mad for a little while,but they will get over it.
2006-10-21 09:06:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋