My chubby wife doesn't appreciate how lucky she is that I've remained with her even during her weight gain during her pregnancy. I've been nothing but a bundle of joy and patient. I know that in our relationship I'm the good looking one and she should be extremely proud of herself and count her lucky stars, but she doesn't, all I hear is that she has a sore back, her breasts are tender and the likes. My dinner isn't always on the table at 5pm, it's been on the table as late as 5.15, and I didn't even pull her hair or stomp on her toes..nothing, I was patient...Now she's trying to pull the tired card, going to bed before all her housework is done, last night, there was a dish in the sink and she sneaked off to bed at 2:45 am. I'm not sure if she realizes how lucky she is that I remain with her. With me at her side she will always have g/friends ( as they like to be with me ). How can I explain to her how lucky she is without hurting her feelings ?
2006-10-21 08:34:37 · 44 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's amazing your wife doesn't appreciate you at all. Of course any woman would be lucky to have you as a husband. Why doesn't she realize that and start doing as you wish is beyond me.
2006-10-21 08:39:48 · answer #1 · answered by dollynjanie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
WOW...Let me just say that I truly believe that there is definitly a time warp out there somewhere because you have totally stepped through it into our time from the 40's and 50's. I have seen so many people post crap on here that has turned out not to be true, and if that is the case with you, first of all, I would like to say that you are a jerk for even coming up with a scenario like this. HOWEVER, if you are for real, let me just sum it up for you irish man. You are a tool. You are the epitomy of every jerk out there. You are the king of them. If anyone is lucky, it is YOU because your wife puts up with the likes of you. You are abusive, and you are arrogant. You are disgusting. You make my, and I am sure that the other twenty or so people that will read this, stomach turn. You don't deserve to be with ANYONE much less the woman who bore your child, who probably is exhausted from just that alone, who you treat like she is your servant. You are NOT God's gift to women, and you really do need to remember that although you may be amazingly good looking now, your balls will sag eventually. You will grow grey hair, and it will migrate down to places other than your head. You will have it growing out your ears and nose. You will not be like you are now forever. And the fact of the matter is , hosebag, that no matter what you look like NOW, looks aren't everything. The package deal is what makes people attractive, and you have the personality of a dead tree stump. I hope that your BEAUTIFUL wife wakes up one day, takes your baby and leaves your ***. Sad. ALONE. And, maybe then you can hire one of those amazing little girlfriends to be your maid. *******.
2006-10-21 08:57:27 · answer #2 · answered by pamalamadingdong_1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My god man you are a saint! How do you put up with this? You must be madly in love with her to tolerate such behavior never mind the weight issue. I think the problem is you have been FAR too patient with all of this...especially the dinner situation. I would tell her....no DEMAND that dinner is on the table...no later than 5 pm...and it better be hot! As for her sore back and being tired tell her that's because you are so out of shape! Being over weight is the number one cause of back pain...get of your chubby butt and do a work out!
Stand up for yourself for gods sake...a good looking stud like yourself does not need....nor should have to put up with this! Be firm...its for her own good and she will be thankful in the end...I only hope you can tolerate this long enough for her to realize what she has in you.
Best of luck and try to hang in there...
2006-10-21 08:50:30 · answer #3 · answered by oldman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like you are the lucky one.. I know that if I was your wife.. i would have kicked your butt to the curb a long time ago..I can say that it will only be a matter of time before your wife sees what you really are and she will be gone.. Then that will make her lucky.. Boy, you need to seriously grow up. And if your putting this question on here as a joke, then I suggest you take some time and think about how immature ou really are being. GROW UP....
2006-10-21 08:51:15 · answer #4 · answered by Gail C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think your wife is lucky at all..no wonder she is chubby!
Who the hell cares if dinner is 15 minutes late?
So what if there is a dish in the sink? OH one dish oooh is your life over for one dish in the sink?
You should feel lucky that she is with you! Do you know how many men out there love chubby women?
Dude...you need to think about it!
2006-10-21 08:45:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My Chubby Wife
2016-10-29 21:39:48 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your wife maybe "chubby" as you call her but I would like to see you give birth to kids and keep this "perfect" self that you think that you have. Your wife is not lucky I would be asking for a divorce. You are very shallow and this is what makes you a much worse person then a "chubby" wife. I would say mister that your the lucky one that she put up with such a shallow *** 9.
2006-10-21 09:21:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kudos to you for expressing how disgusted you are with your wife's weight, her excuses for not having sex, her laziness, and your disgust in her inability to have your food on the table on time.
Hopefully, you will express these sentiments to her directly so she can decide for herself now (instead of later) if she wants to remain in a relationship with you.
Shame on many of you for how you rally so quickly around this woman's feelings when her man tells you he doesn't like things the way they are but if a woman were to express the same issues to you (i.e. tell you her man no longer finds her attractive because of her weight or that he is controlling), you would tell her to go lose weight and/or do whatever it takes to try and make this type of loveless relationship work. If this describes you, then you are a hypocrite.
In answer to your question, there is no way to explain to her how lucky she is to have you without hurting her feelings.
To spare both of you years of angry arguments and a loveless/sexless marriage, the best thing you can do is be honest with her and then the two of you decide if you are willing to work towards change or go your separate ways.
It took the two of you to put yourselves together and it will take the two of you to tear yourselves apart or bring about the change that will be necessary for you to have a happy, loving relationship filled with the intimacy that all married couples deserve.
2006-10-21 09:15:16 · answer #8 · answered by HappyBunny 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well arent you full of yourself? You dont need a wife, it sounds like you need a maid. It is you that should count yourself lucky to have someone who will put up with your sexist attitude and obviously moronic personality. I also reccomend that you grown up get off your butt and help the mother of your children take care of things and stop being so self centered.
2006-10-21 08:41:21 · answer #9 · answered by snoop_dougie_doug04 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm guessing you're too handsome to have a pic posted or too handsome to have an avatar that looks like you. Maybe they don't make avatars that ugly...i meant handsome.
Why are you so into yourself? You think you'll be good looking throughout your life.
She should put some laxatives in your food and make you release that built up S H I T that's coming outta your mouth.
2006-10-21 08:50:27 · answer #10 · answered by princess 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋