My married friend just told me that I am lucky to be single. I was shocked because I would love to be married. She said when your single you can do whatever you want to do and you don't have to answer to anyone. So my question is do you sometimes miss being single or it doesn't bother you?
2006-10-21 08:33:45 · 29 answers · asked by Apple 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm married w/ 2 kids. I wouldn't say I hate it; but, there are times when it really sucks!!! Next year will make 12 years of marriage. If it were not for my kids (who I love sooo much), I would have divorced my husband already. Maybe it is true, as some have already answered, that the person makes the difference; but, if I ever am single again, I will NEVER get married again. God will have to show me sign after sign to convince me to say I do again. All I can say is do not take the marriage thing lightly. People, women especially, have this idealized view of marriage. In our defense, it is a view that is fueled by society and the culture in which we currently live. On TV, in magazines, etc. weddings are much anticipated, well planned and celebrated. Engaged couples are congratulated and everyone is happy. And the wedding industry is the worst! Everything is dreamy and lovely, sunshine and roses. I am all in favor of love and finding that special person; but, no one stops to tell the happy couple that the real work starts AFTER THE WEDDING. And if just one of them misrepresented him/herself, then they're in for a rough ride. There's a reason that the Bible says those who marry will face many troubles... (1 Cor. 7:28B)
2006-10-21 09:57:20 · answer #1 · answered by IslandGal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got married very young, and 3 kids and 7 years later I was divorced. I stayed single for almost 20 years and actually loved It!! lol.. I got married almost 2 yrs ago and I thought I might really miss being single, but in all honesty, I haven't missed the single life at all. ! If you can find the right guy, someone who doesn't want you too give up your independence, wants too be your partner,not your dictator, you will have a very happy marriage. Being single is great, but sharing your life with that special man is something that words just can't describe...
2006-10-21 10:16:02 · answer #2 · answered by Rose T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being married NOW doesn't bother me. I am older now. But when I was in my 20's and early 30's, I really didn't like being married. I felt I was missing out on too much. I didn't marry until I was 22, and divorced him after 8 years, then had the time of my life for a few years, then married again. At this point, I am content with being married. Marriage does change things, I don't care what anyone says, or how good your spouse is.
2006-10-21 08:43:46 · answer #3 · answered by Corona 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That depend
I was married for 13 years and hated it when I got divorce
It was a relief,
but I got remarrei after 5years and I am happy
she feel that way because she is married to couch potato
someone idea of fun is go hand out with his family (mother, sisters/brothers or his friends) that was my x
my new hus idea of fun is to take a long cruise or fly to a diffrent country for a week and his idea of family is our children (3 frm my X & 1 with his X )
so don't despare marriage can be wonderfull if you choose the correct person
make sure you tell the person in advance what you like and don't before getting into it
Our society think is it OK to sighn a prenutial concerning money
but never on how we treat each other
which we should
So don't be shocked by your friend she is just experienting adifficult moment in her marriage
2006-10-21 10:16:36 · answer #4 · answered by waiting for baby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so happy that I am married because when I was younger I had a great time partying and travelling all around the world. I got married at 33 year old and I felt that I had fun in my younger years and now it was time to settle down. I chose a great husband for myself and I would never ever want to be single again...especially at my age.
Your friend married the wrong guy and she probably did it when she was young and never got to do things that she wanted to. That is the advice that I give people...when you are single do the things you want to so when you do settle down you don't feel as though you have been ripped off of life.
2006-10-21 08:40:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I just celebrated my 4th wedding anniversary and I love being married. I don't miss my single days at all. All those freaky, weirdos, that I dated-YIKES! My husband is an amazing man and a great father. We have been together for a total of ten years and he is my best friend and more :). Sounds like your married friend has lost herself in her relationship. I still go out and have fun with the girls and I don't have to ask for permission. My husband respects me and would never hold me back from seeing friends(male or female), or from anything else I would want to do. Just make sure that you marry the right guy! Marriage is great!
2006-10-21 08:43:57 · answer #6 · answered by ellasmomma1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Happiness in married life and happiness in single life is like apples and oranges. You really can't compare since one morphs into another. I would be able to do everything I do as a single guy that I do now married, except mess around. The weird thing is that this morphs again when you become a parent. Now you have a big difference between single and Daddy. However, it would kill me not to have ever had that little hand wrapped around my little finger.
2006-10-21 08:46:53 · answer #7 · answered by delux_version 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know its great being married because you have some one to come home to, have some to tell your thoughts to, someone to sleep with and don't have to worry if you are the only one or if your the other one. I can say this because I've been there done that (single that is) and its no walk in the park being single, its a lot easier being married.
2006-10-21 08:39:58 · answer #8 · answered by frog 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is ridiculous
why would you want to spend the rest of your life with just one person
especially when you re young.
I hear allot of married couples complain all the time.
I don't believe in marriage myself
but I think if you are going to get married
it shouldn't be until you re 100% positive you re done doing all the things a single person does
because now you will have to drag your other half with you everywhere. lol
2006-10-21 08:42:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't miss being single. If your friend wasn't ready to get married maybe she should have waited. Marriage can be difficult but trust me, it's worth it when you're with the right person. But, on the flipside, being single has it's advantages too. It really depends where you are in your life and who you are with. She's evidently not happy with one of those factors.
2006-10-21 08:36:29 · answer #10 · answered by cyber_music 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋