How long were you married? Why did you get divorced? Did your life get better after the divorce?
2006-10-21 08:29:20 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I was married to an alcoholic for 3 years. I jumped up an down when I got out of court. I don't know if it really improved my life that much, but I was much happier.
I have been divorced for 22 years now. I do get lonely at times, but then I think about all the freedom I have. If I want to stay up all night I can. If I want to sleep in I can. If I want to buy something frivolous I can.
2006-10-21 08:49:12 · answer #1 · answered by Schona 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We were married legally for 20 years. There were alot of reasons we got divorced, in reality we should never have gotten married in the first place. Yes my life got better after the divorce because I was no longer married to someone I really didn't love.
2006-10-21 21:18:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My life got tons better after the divorce! I was being abused, used, lied to and cheated on by this total loser. He also couldn't hold down a job, spent the money he made on drugs and women, and treated me like crap (and that's being nice saying it that way). So, I broke it off emotionally and mentally, then left physically. And get this? He wonders why I left him and swears that he treated me like a queen! HA!
Anyway, I was soooooooooooooooooooo happy once I left and got divorced! I was totally relieved that I had gotten rid of nearly 250 pounds of trash (him), and that I would never ever be used and abused again. I know that I deserve a lot better than that.
Since I had left him emotionally and mentally for about a year before leaving, worked on myself, my self-esteem, my self-worth, and changed from the mousy little girl that everyone knew to a more outgoing person, I was ready to live life and to be in a loving, caring, decent relationship. I was ready to be in one where the person would treat me as an equal, not a piece of meat. And one where I was fully respected. And guess what? I met someone that I am now engaged to. We are going to be married next year. I refuse to be treated as I had been treated before. My fiance knows this and agrees with me. He doesn't believe in doing anything like my ex did, thank goodness!
Life does get better after the divorce. If you didn't break away emotionally and mentally before the divorce, now is the time to do it, do some soul searching, figure out who you are and exactly what you want in life and from yourself and others. Then, go out and get what it is you want and need!
2006-10-21 16:06:49 · answer #3 · answered by honey 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I was happier because it made me grow up real quick. I was able to see that my version of love was faulty. I had no idea of even the definition of love. I had two boys that made me understand the epitome of responsibility. My life was not focused on me anymore but on my actions and how they affected these two children. Divorce was the best thing that happened to me, but I still would never advise this direction. I have seen first hand on how horribly it affects kids. It worked great for me because I eventually found real love. Figured it out. Big wake up call. Love at 20 is nothing like real love. But to answer your questions, I was only married 5 years the first time. I've been married for 18 this time! My wife asked for the divorce (I wasn't religious enough). However, I got smart real quick and got the best lawyer I could afford. I got the kids, and she was transformed into the real woman I married, A witch, as evil as they come.
2006-10-21 15:59:03 · answer #4 · answered by delux_version 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was married for ten years. We were having problems in our marriage - problems I thought were normal for a ten year marriage, such as not spending enough time together, taking each other for granted. I wanted to solve those problems through counselling but he decided to have an affair instead. It has only been six months since I found out about the affair and only 3 months since the divorce was final. Things are still a little unsettled for me right now.
Divorce is tough. You may think you want to end your marriage but think it through carefully. It changes everything. It hurts. If you have kids it is especially difficult.
I am still waiting for life to get better. It is with time - but it is going to take awhile.
2006-10-21 15:35:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was faithfully married for 25 years and have been divorced now for 3 years. I have NEVER been happier in my entire life. I have a new boyfriend and feel more in love than I ever felt with my husband. We both feel like two teenagers in love. Life is good!
2006-10-21 15:38:30 · answer #6 · answered by xv 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I married too young (19) and knew it was a mistake. However, I stayed married for almost 16 years. Life was better after the divorce because I got to finally find myself. My advice is to wait until you have experienced life and found your niche before getting married.
2006-10-21 15:45:11 · answer #7 · answered by FlrBeachGirl 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I was divorced once and my life was happy at one point but afterawhile it gets lonely so i was single and dating for years.. then i got remarried been married 7 years now and i wouldnt want to get a divorce for nothing in the world its nothing like being lonely and not having anyne it may work differently for others but for me I rather have a partner to go thru my good and bad times with.
2006-10-21 15:33:28 · answer #8 · answered by ~*~ Stormy Weather~*~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Three big questions.
5 years married.
Divorced because she was an alchoholic and quite rude and unpleasant.
Significant improvement after divorce, though it took about a year for my life to completely get back on track.
I don´t egret the divorce at all~ it´s one of the wisest things I´ve ever done.
2006-10-21 15:33:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am married for the last 8 years. Not divorced. Not very happy with my sex life.
2006-10-25 11:14:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋