My wife and I watched some porn a few months ago and now she is constantly saying she wants to try group sex. Double penetration to be specific. I thought she was kidding at first but she is serious. She is obsessed with it. We have always had a good relationship before. Yesterday after a big fight she gave me an ultimatum. She says she will give me a month to find another guy to do it with us or she will find 2 other guys to do it. She says she prefers I be one of the people she does it with, but if I won't she will try it with the two other guys. She is serious. Any suggestions?
2006-10-21 08:22:03 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Leave her immediately. The whore doesn't deserve you!
2006-10-21 08:24:10 · answer #1 · answered by cadodevine 3 · 6⤊ 6⤋
I would bet that she has probably already cheated on you. A wife does not go from being a faithful wife to giving an ultimatum like that. The next step is up to you .... after she quenches this desire for group sex what will be the next item on her wish list? And are you willing to tolerate that?
2006-10-21 08:29:17 · answer #2 · answered by xv 1 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I suppose you have to ask yourself if you are keen on the idea, and of staying with someone whose apetites include group sex, as you might have to repeat the experience and even have more unusual sexual adventures besides.
If not, then leave her. If yes, then there are websites which cater for this and you will just have to work your way through the contacts listed in them.
But it all seems a little sordid to me, to be quite frank.
2006-10-21 08:26:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Here's the thing. If your all for the group sex thing, and wont get jealous, then find her a man and get going. If you are at any point un comfortable w/ this situation, then she SHOULD understand, and drop the entire idea. Lets get real people, marriage is NOT what it was in the 50's. People are cheating on there spouses left and right. This is a "better" way to have your cake and eat it too.
If she wont let it drop, then maybe you are not such a good match for her anymore. Maybe you should consider something a bit more low key.
You could always say you want a 3-some also. Her another woman and yourself. See what she says.
2006-10-21 08:51:22 · answer #4 · answered by firecracker 2 · 2⤊ 4⤋
Some fantasies are better left as fantasies. If participating in group sex with your wife is a problem for you and you don't think it is a good idea, then she should respect that. Sex doesn't make a relationship - respect, love and trust of your partner does. If she is going to let her hormones and a fantasy ruin your relationship... then maybe you guys need to go to counselling. There are probably other issues here that need to be worked out.
If you are okay with participating in the fantasy, then go for it... just be aware that it could change your relationship forever... good or bad.
2006-10-21 08:26:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 7⤊ 1⤋
Check out your local swingers groups. It is about as safe an environment as can be. Everyone there is in the lifestyle so you won't have to worry about some one blabbing about it later, and if you go to a good group - one that has an orientation session and an orientation night rather than a $10 a person for anyone who walks through the door place, they you will be in the best of hands.
2006-10-21 08:26:59 · answer #6 · answered by bocasbeachbum 6 · 1⤊ 3⤋
My soon to be ex-wife & I tried this and It was fun at first. From my experience, she took an inch and went after a mile. It went from 3somes to 4somes, then having someone take nude pix of her, ect. This was just a small part of why we are divorcing but beware, Once the Jeannie is out of the bottle, there is no going back to how it was before.
2006-10-21 09:15:17 · answer #7 · answered by donronsen 6 · 6⤊ 1⤋
Who was the one that brought the porn into the house, not that it matters
What is done is done .
Your wife has given you a month to find another couple or to other girls,
hell man why you are still there your wife has crossed the line and is now hooked on these fantasies of sex.
And she is walking you right into Hell,
Just think...Aids... Herpies...sifless.. just to mention a few of the sicknesss that are out there just waiting to latch on to you.
Your Wife has crossed the line, please don't let her drag you into her new found Hell.
Pack and get out and don't think that you can change her mind she has already crossed the line.
Go Please and keep yourself safe and clean,
Because you will find yourself one to Love, but if you cross that line with your wife, you would be clean enough to give yourself to another women.
And keep her safe so that you can one day start another life one that is clean and filled with the true Gift of Love just for you and the new Lady that will one day walk into your life and into your Heart.
If you join your wife of to-day and jump on her sick ride then you also would have bought yourself one way ticket right into the very bowels of Her Hell.
Good Luck and God Bless You.
Candyman
2006-10-21 08:57:44 · answer #8 · answered by candyman 2 · 3⤊ 3⤋
talk with her and tell you that this kind of thing makes you uncomfortable and that its not something you are interested in. if she does go out and find someone else then i would think your marriage has some problems and you might want to rethink being with someone who doesnt respect your values and what you dont want to do. she should place more value on the relationship she has with you than on getting some from somoene else
2006-10-21 08:28:04 · answer #9 · answered by lil_lizzy_b 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Here's a suggestion. Get a life. Purposely sabotaging your marriage with something so enormously demeaning is insanity! Have you no idea that you are heading in the opposite direction of intelligence, honesty, respect, wisdom? You have a unique opportunity. Catch your wife in an affair, take photos, divorce her and take everything. She will love the idea of you showing those pictures in court! What judge would side with her? Get yourself back on the right track this next go round and stop purposely screwing up your life!
2006-10-21 08:33:06 · answer #10 · answered by delux_version 7 · 5⤊ 4⤋
Are you kidding me???? What about her health?? Do you guys plan to have kids??? You think she will stop after just one time. You think you can actually share her with someone else??? Would she let you have sex with 2 other woman. Kick her to the curb before it gets real ugly.
2006-10-21 08:54:04 · answer #11 · answered by Need Answers 4 · 4⤊ 4⤋