i CAN'T TAKE IT
2006-10-21 08:16:22 · 32 answers · asked by cythia B 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
Is crying getting to you? Put your baby in the crib/swing and go into a separate room for a few min. and take a breather... better yet, call someone right now to come look after your baby for a little while.
2006-10-21 08:19:16 · answer #1 · answered by MaPetiteHippopotame 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you need some help. Do you have any friends or family close by that might be able to come over and relieve you for a little bit, or even just keep you company and help out?? Start making phonecalls - you need a support system. If you're feeling overwhelmed and you're all by yourself than put the baby down in a safe place, go outside, and sit by yourself for a little while until you feel like you can handle everything again. Or take a nice, relaxing shower. If you're at your wit's end than pick up the yellow pages and look for drop-off daycares, where you don't need to be enrolled. They're literally places that you just drop your baby off at for a designated periord of time. Maybe you could drop your baby off for a few hours one day a week so you can take advantage of some much needed down time. Don't worry, no matter what you're going to be fine. Does that help? Sometimes you just need sometime to tell you everything is going to be okay, and it is. You're just going through a rough period right now and it will pass.
2006-10-21 08:28:51 · answer #2 · answered by sks42683 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is the problem? If you feel like you are overwhelmed, you need to get some help, you could be suffering from post partum depression. Ask a friend, relative, neighbor or someone you trust to either help you with the baby, or watch the baby while you take a break. If this is not an option, because you are alone, etc, then make sure to feed, change and put the baby to sleep and get some quiet time. If you want to talk, my email is hargoangain@yahoo.com!
2006-10-21 08:29:50 · answer #3 · answered by hargonagain 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok slow down.you never said what the problem was so i'll give you a few pointers that i know.if crying is the problem he may have gas,the milk your giving him is not filling him up or making him hard-bound(can't poop) or even he may be a-col-ic.that's means he's just a crying baby but you have to find that out from your doctor.sometimes babies just wanna be up.try some of these things and if nothing works bring him to a doctor cause there it may be something else.don't stress yourself out your not a bad mother.for every woman who has had a baby(first)we all never had much of a clue what to do we all asked someone else and to ask someone a question does not make you a bad person.i have 4 kids and each one of them are different.everytime i had a baby i had to learn everything all over again.so relax a bit,take a breath and cuddle the baby and make him and you feel comfortable.let me know how it goes.good luck.oh and also if he has a diper rash try some burnt flower.take some floor(not the preety one's the one you bake with)put it on a frying pan and cook it until it turns light brown(use white floor)put that on him every diper change and he will not(trust me on this)get a rash.
2006-10-21 09:55:19 · answer #4 · answered by veronica o 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put your baby in her crib. Now. Put in a few things for her to play with and leave. She may cry, but better for her to do that than for you to completely lose your mind and do something irrational. Open up a window and get some fresh air. Take 10 minutes. After that, go check on her to make sure she is still safe.
She'll probably be napping or playing quietly. Leave her be. Sit in front of your computer and look up parenting support groups. Then call your ob/gyn's office and tell the answering service that you need to talk to someone about post partum depression. If they can't or won't help you, pack up the baby's stuff and go to the nearest emergency room. The heck with cost. You desperately need a living, breathing human to talk to who isn't going to judge you for being stressed out and overwhelmed.
Forgive yourself and be gracious to yourself. But don't let another day go by without asking for help.
2006-10-21 08:35:07 · answer #5 · answered by CCTCC 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Babies need alot of attention and love. Some can be more finicky than others. If you feel like you have to take a breather or you might end up doing something stupid, PLEASE call a friend or family member to pick up the baby for awhile. You don't want to end up on the news and papers like other crazy people who have done something stupid to innocent babies. Maybe there is something wrong with your baby, have you checked into why the baby cries too much? Where's the baby's dad?
2006-10-21 16:33:56 · answer #6 · answered by Monica V 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been there, believe me. My son was so collicky, he cried 8-10 hours straight everyday until he was 4 months old! I would just go to the room and cry with the baby. It seemed therapeutic to me to just let it out. If I was angry though, I would place him in a bouncy seat or the swing, and just go out into my backyard with a cup of coffee, or wine, or anything that would take my mind off of the screaming. I knew he was fed, clothed, changed, played with. I couldn't understand all the crying. I gave him the medicine for gassiness, carried him around in the Bjorn carrier while I did chores, etc., and he STILL never stopped crying! I would get so frustrated, that I though I was going to lose my mind! You just need to get away from the baby so you don't harm him/her while you're upset. If you have to, just let the baby cry in another room while you treat yourself to a relaxing shower, or paint your nails, etc. Anything to take your mind off the stress you're feeling. Talk to a friend, family, husband, or doctor if needed. It's easy to lose control when you're frustrated, so it's better to let the bay cry for awhile, rather than do damage that you can't take back. Try to relax. You don't have to be the perfect mother that does "everything". You and your baby are what's most important right now, so get yourselves out of the house, with fresh air, and remind yourself that you will get through this. My prayers are with you. And last but not least, here'a a poem I find comforting when I feel frustrated. Good luck sweetie!
Patience
Patience is a virtue
which I have little of,
but when I feel it slipping
I just call on God.
I'm trying hard to master it,
I really need it now.
The devil's got me cornered.
My life is full of thunder clouds.
He's throwing every thing at me
trying to pull me down.
He's not sure my faith is strong
enough for God to bring me out.
I've got news for him,
I never will give up.
My faith is stronger than he thinks
and God is with me now.
God knows I'm not perfect
but He also knows my heart.
He knows I'm really trying
and we will never part.
He's promised to be with me
and He'll never let me down.
I haven't earned His help,
it's only through His grace.
He has a plan for me
which the devil can not change.
He'll see me through to victory,
and take me home some day.
He'll do the same for you,
just believe and trust Him too.
2006-10-21 08:38:45 · answer #7 · answered by Caelan's mom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, the replies to this question have been very mean and heartless. I am the mother of a 3 month old and I know that if I did not have the strong support system I have at home to ask "What do I do?" I may have considered using this type of site to do so. I do agree that this is too general of a question and if you truly want heartfelt answers, more information is needed. If you would like some advice or just a place to vent, feel free to contact me.
2006-10-21 10:19:08 · answer #8 · answered by DIANA P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looking at your previous questions and seeing that you ask the same question a month ago concerns me. Have you considered giving the baby up for adoption? Or maybe letting a family member take her? Maybe your too young to take care of her. Babies are HARD work, and it just might not be the right time for you to be a Mom. Do the best thing for your baby and make an adult decision to make sure the baby is cared for, even if it means giving her up.
2006-10-21 08:21:45 · answer #9 · answered by Corona 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Before our babies our born, people tell us the general things-like how to burp and bathe them. They don't tell us the most important things-like how to take care of a baby when you're sleep deprived, or listening to it cry for hours on end. I remember when my daughter was 2 months old and hadn't slept in 12 hours. I started questioning why I wanted to be a parent in the first place. Then I felt incredibly guilty. Now my daughter, who is 2, is the love of my life and she's my best friend. Trust me, it does get better. Like the other posters said, try to enlist friends and family to help you take breaks. Join an online community on livejournal.com. It's free, and it's helped me out a lot. You aren't alone in feeling this way, and for the people who have told you on this board that you're a bad mother, shame on them. Every mother in the world has felt that way whether they admit it or not. ******HUGS******
2006-10-21 09:22:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋