I'm married, but my hb told me long ago that he no longer loves me..it's now a marriage of convenience on its last legs. For a long time, I tried to hold onto him, but finally realized it was futile. I've drifted into an on-line relationship with a far-away old friend who's current relationship is in a serious slump also. I've come 2 love him, although he says he's not ready 2 totally give up on his current relationship yet. He SAYS we should consider this "friends with e-benefits", but I honestly get the feeling he's just saying that, but feels something deeper. For me, he seems 2 be my soulmate..the one who I seem destined 4. But at this point I think I just need 2 give him time, & see where it leads us. (Not like I'm going anywhere.) Then there's this other guy I met thru my daughter's softball team. I feel bad 'cause he once asked 4 my e-mail 2 send me game info, but now I think he's hinting at wanting more (but not sure & not interested). Want 2 b nice about it. Advice all around?
2006-10-21 08:14:12 · 10 answers · asked by 1heartbrokengirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
A bit more info... the friend I have on-line.... it is not just "sexy words" being exchanged. he does admit he genuinely cares for me, and we have a lot of simple, fun, and supportive chats... it's not just cybersex -- much more than that. And the other guy... I never did anything to lead him on... never felt even a shread of interest in him, and I am nothing but polite and to the point with him in e-mails. It wasn't until recently that it occurred to me that I think he likes me, and that is why he keeps e-mailing me. I want to be clear with him, but don't want to embarass him by asking if that is what he's really thinking.
2006-10-21 08:31:22 · update #1
I would concentrate on ending your marriage first and foremost, and then give it time before you start dating and getting serious again, give it time and love will happen again
2006-10-21 08:18:10 · answer #1 · answered by goodlookin.mama 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think any of the men you currently know are suitable.
you should enjoy chatting or email or conversation with these guys as friends.
it may seem scary but I think you should get a bit closer to, or actually step into, being single before you let anyone make a play for your attention.
"e-benefits" guy is a perve, softball guy just wants sex.
2006-10-21 08:29:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure how a man who's living with another woman and has no itnention of leaving her, and wants to type sexy words to you via computer constitutes a "soul mate" for you. I'm sorry but he tells you flat out, but you want to pretend you didn't hear that and swear he must "feel something different."
I think you should finish raising your child, get involved with the PTA or other kid-related activities, create a calm, stable home for your family and FORGET all these other men. When you're out of your marriage, you can then type sexy words to someone else's scummy man, or date scummy men who like to "hint" to married women about wanting sexual favors. But please don't humiliate yourself anymore with these meaningless games online or while at your child's sporting event.
2006-10-21 08:20:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I completly agree with Lil mama7
but also you need to dish the guy that is not ready to leave his dead relatioship he sound just like your husband
so dish them both and take time to get to know you
you be amazed what can happen when you meet someone that you not interest in but is in you
should know I married to soemone that I was not interested in
and that is the best move I EVER MADE for me & my children
Good Luck
2006-10-21 08:24:42 · answer #4 · answered by waiting for baby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a divorce and then get yourself together. You cyber friend is just using u. Your hb doesn't love you so you now need to get rid of all negativity in your love life so true love can find u.
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2016-10-15 06:41:57 · answer #6 · answered by Erika 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you still married? Love or not you need a divorce. Then you can go looking for another man don't look around while your still married. Be honest to your self and this man you shouldn't be talking to married man this way either. Does any one have values anymore????????
2006-10-21 08:24:21 · answer #7 · answered by shawn_mauldin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what you need to do. Face it, bite the bullet and get your life on track. If you need encouragement and support, go to a counselor who can help you through it.
2006-10-21 08:35:23 · answer #8 · answered by KIT J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SOUNDS TO ME LIKE THE ONLINE THING IS TAKING UP TOO MUCH TIME AND ENERGY..OUTSIDE THE COMPUTER IS WHERE YOU NEED TO BE. IT SOUNDS LIKE YOU ARE SEARCHING FOR WHAT YOU ARE MISSING IN LIFE...IN THE WRONG PLACE.
2006-10-21 08:36:15 · answer #9 · answered by listener 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go with your instinct wait for your soul mate, don't make the same mistake twice
2006-10-21 08:27:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋