when you ask a girl what do you look for more looks or personality, they will always say personality but the sweet guy who treats her with respect and lover her for her never gets the girl usually becomes a so called bestfriend instead of boyfriend, and the great looking guy who's a dick to her becomes the boyfriend. Sadly looks do matter to all girls dont you agree?
2006-10-21 08:06:58 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Damn..., sorry dude...
Maybe, the fact that she choose the "dick" has merit...
2006-10-21 08:09:43 · answer #1 · answered by Ricardo C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women can be just as shallow as men when it comes to choosing looks over personality. Maturity, as well as age and experience are the biggest factors in the choices we make; however, lets not forget that our natural animal instincts which drive the human species to strive for survival of the fittest also play a huge factor subconsiously in the people we choose to be with.
I will be the first to admit, yes looks do matter, but by no means are they a main deciding factor. Appearance is a huge plus, but I think if more people took a good honest look at themselves before placing so much emphasis on the flaws of others, they might see that there can be so much lost in making a choice based on vanity. As cliche as it may be, but beauty really is in the eye of the beholder. I have come to see that some of the most outwardly beautiful people can be the ugliest people just by opening their mouths or by their actions towards others.
There is the possibility that maybe the girls you are considering aren't really looking for a meaningful relationship, but have a different adgenda.
There is also the possibility that the choices these women/girls are making are based on the messages that society sends out - that beautiful people are happy, successful, and the pinnacle we should all wish to achieve.
There could even be the possibility that they do not know how to accept a relationship in which they are treated well because maybe they have never been treated that way before. There could be past abuse issues or even the relationship of her parents/gaurdians that have influenced her choices.
Personally, I think if more people take the time to look at the big picture and ask themselves the question "When we're old and grey, and gravity has taken it's toll on your once young firm bodies, will there still be good conversation and friendship? Will there still be enough to hold the relationship together?"
Please, don't condemn all women/girls for the poor choices of the ones you have encountered! There are some really great ones out there - and I hope you find one that will appreciate all you have to offer! Good luck!
2006-10-21 16:05:42 · answer #2 · answered by grrlgenius5173 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Look .... there has to be some kind of physical attraction to begin with. After the physical attraction is there, good looking guys with a horrible personality will often lose the girls. But average looking guys with a great personality will get and keep the girls. So personalty is very important, not just looks. Of course the ideal would be a GREAT LOOKING guy with a GREAT PERSONALITY!
2006-10-21 15:13:32 · answer #3 · answered by xv 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I think that this is a major stereotype in movies. When looking for a guy, he does somewhat need to have decent looks, but that doesn't mean that I will go for a hot guy that treats me bad. If I'm attracted to him by both looks and personality, then he's a keeper. A guy can be really hot but if he can't keep my attention then he's out the door. Women who put up with assholes are dumb and a waste of a good guy's time.
2006-10-21 15:11:33 · answer #4 · answered by Meagan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO NO NO!
Its not the looks, it really isn't!
You see, at first they want the jerk. Don't ask why, its just attractive to be a jacka*ss I suppose.
Then, after they have enough of that, they want the nice guy you are talking about. Problem is, he will always remain the same way...thats when they break up when the wman realizes that.
Some true, but good quotes:
Men use love for sex, women use sex for love."
My favorite is
"Women marry men hoping they will change and they don't. Men marry women hoping they don't change, and they do!"
2006-10-21 15:08:43 · answer #5 · answered by gallow 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not to all girls...but you don't believe the same holds true for guys? Appearance is the first thing that people see the first time they meet you. People make snap decisions. Sad but true.
2006-10-21 15:19:47 · answer #6 · answered by tequillajenny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh HELLLLL YEAH!
Any girl that says looks don't matter if full of crap! They just aren't open about it as us chauvenistic male pigs.
It doesn't make you a bad person if base how much you like somebody of the opposite sex because of their looks, it's just your preference.
2006-10-21 15:17:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're making great generalizations. Females are about looks no more than males do. We're visual beings first, intellectual second.
2006-10-21 15:09:44 · answer #8 · answered by Empy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband is not very attractive and he is extremely rude - mostly to others, but I still love him. It is not personality or looks, it is that he is hard working and can provide for his family.
2006-10-21 15:26:16 · answer #9 · answered by sandra g 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not to me and I usually get alot of crap from my friends cause I m not that way.. but who cares I care about what is on the inside and not whats on the outside..
2006-10-21 15:12:19 · answer #10 · answered by michelle b 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must be young.or rather they must be young cause in the long run we "girls" come to our senses and personality is the one to go for if your really in it for "the long haul"...but my man is both hot and has a grreat personality...I win both ways!!
2006-10-21 15:11:04 · answer #11 · answered by justmedrt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋