Getting back together with the person you have divorced?

Question

What is your opinion on reconciling with the person you have divorced? Have you done it and has it worked second time around?

Answer 1

Well it all depends i'm sure on your certain situation. Of course the first thing people think is what the? But the truth is it's your life and your love life that it is going to affect, i perferably don't think people should get a divorce, cause you shouldn't get married unless you are 100% certain it's the one not lust love if you know what i mean. But if you want an opinion i would say it is not cool to get back with the person you divorced, it doesn't matter who caused the break up it matters that while you two were married you couldn't make it work and even though you might find each other attractive are something makes you feel for him it will always have the other side the one that cause the break up in the first place so know you shouldn't try to get back with the person you divorce its not cool at all. Good luck in your choice just remember you know what makes you happy just don't continue in a pain loop...

Answer 2

Unless you have solved the problems that occurred in the first time around, nothing will change. Don't keep making the same mistakes over and over and expect a different result. If you do work out the problems, and do get back together,I hope you will be very happy this time. Good Luck!

Answer 3

I went back to an ex (thankfully I didn't marry him, but the breakup was just as painful) and he turned out to be a bigger tw@ than ever before.

I think if you go back for seconds then you're a glutton for punishment. If they were that much of an idiot that you had to divorce them, then surely that answers your question? People don't just change like that. And if it's them that wants you back, then it's because they realised that they are missing a good thing.

Answer 4

I've done it. Its different the second time round because i find that you get alot more respect. There's alot more communication this time around. There was a 6 year gap. Before He had all the control. This time i'm equal. Where before He decided everything, it's now we discuss everything together. I would never marry him again, some people do, but it's not for me.

Answer 5

This is embarrassing but I married my second wife twice and we are getting a divorce again. Everyone is different but from my experience I would so don't waist your time remember why it didn't work the first time. But if you do get back together good luck. Your gonna need it.

Answer 6

I wouldn't take my ex-hole back for every dollar on the planet.
Only when I was out of the marriage was I able to see the misery he brought to me!

I feel like divorce is the final break--if you aren't SURE, then don't do it. Getting back together usually leads to more of the heartache that broke people up in the first place!

Answer 7

More power to you. If you have resolved your differences go for it (unless there is cheating involved, once a cheater always a cheater). I know people that have been divorced like 10 years and then have been happily re-married to each other for the rest of their lives. Good luck.

Answer 8

I think it depends why you split up in the first place really. Sometimes It does work getting back with an ex because your experiences after the split make you wiser and you think of what you had before, mostly you take the people you love for granted and you dont know what you got till its gone!!

Answer 9

Sometimes it works. Was the divorce final? Matbe you both wanted to see what else was out there. But the grass isnt always greener, its just a different shade.

Answer 10

a friend of mine divorced her husband about 20 years ago after her kids saw him having sex with a woman, as they walked home from school (through her living room window) they got back together and were on and off until about 5 months ago, he left her for the woman he was caught with 20 years ago!