My husband has a job that I'm not really agreeing to right now. He keeps on staying out late, and he basically doesnt have time for his family.he told me that his work is flexi time but he is always out. I'm starting to get tired of all his excuses and I feel like its pulling our relationship down. I told him to get a job that is more secure and atleast give him time for his family. but he wouldnt do it, I'm to the point where in I feel like giving up on him and calling it quits. It feels like he's not even doing anything to reach out, I tried doing my part but it's usesless. What should I do?
2006-10-21 07:48:22 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Honey, I've been there done that. I say just lay it on the line. If he don't like it, tough. He wasnt to keep your family afloat he has to realize its not just about the job its about the whole picture and that its a delicate balance. If he's not willing to budge maybe his priorities are messed up and needs a veryyyy louddd wake up call. If he still don't budge, drop him and protect you and your family.
2006-10-21 07:52:42 · answer #1 · answered by Is there Life out there? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's really flex time, tell him his support staff needs his attention and he should flex to schedule some evenings / days with you. If not, get hold of a guy friend to help you fill the empty hours. My last love affair was with the 30-year-faithful wife of a construction executive who was never home. She tried to give him oral to keep him interested (and WOW was she good at it, I found out), but he'd keep falling asleep because he was so tired from work. Look where all that hard (sort of) work got him, huh. Good luck finding a guy who'll love you.
2006-10-21 07:53:09 · answer #2 · answered by David W 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess you need to stop telling him what to do and start appreciating the fact that he's working to keep a roof over your head. Maybe if he felt more loved, appreciated, respected, and admired at home, he'd want to be there more often. Instead of complaing, try complimenting him and thanking him for all his hard work. You might find him wanting to come home to a wife who expresses gratitude. If you're tired, how do you think he feels?
(And don't expect payback within a week- give it a month at least)
2006-10-21 07:55:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't like the sound of this, Use your Woman's Intuition!!!!!!
He might just be unhappy and is looking for an outlet by staying out late and do want to have to carry the burdens of taking care of a family and wants out. I would do an occasional snooping for my own benefit, just don't get caught
Hope this helps!!!!
2006-10-21 07:53:07 · answer #4 · answered by Breann 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
id say if you want to pay the mortgagae and eat you better cool it,
youre so lucky he works so many women have to work pay the bills and the hubs stays home.
2006-10-21 07:51:41 · answer #5 · answered by daisymayNY 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask ur husband if she has another girl frankly. you'll find outif he is on how he will act, good luck
2006-10-21 08:24:24 · answer #6 · answered by john c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
adopt hours to match his or let him know what these hours and excuses are doing.
2006-10-21 07:50:51 · answer #7 · answered by sirelyas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
discuss frankly with him
2006-10-21 07:50:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋