Think about YOUR realty as a person. Not life in a movie.
Say you fell in love with a person of a different Religion..
Would you change your religion (convert) to theirs in order to marry them?
If yes, then the reason is clear..
If No, would you tell me why?
2006-10-21 07:00:03 · 16 answers · asked by Whatever 3 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
No. I can't alter my beliefs to suit anyone. I believe what I believe and I respect what others believe, including a spouse. I don't believe it's necessary to believe the same for a marriage to work; it's much more important to respect one another. If a woman couldn't respect me enough to accept my differences of opinion, I wouldn't want to marry her, period. Liberty of conscience is very important to me.
Besides, how can you 'convert' just to please someone else? How sincere would you be in your new religion if your commitment to it was no deeper than a desire to please your significant other?
2006-10-21 07:18:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, I would not convert to anyone else's religion to marry them.
Religion is one area where you must be true to yourself. If you convert because you love someone and want to spend the rest of your life with them - is that the right reason? Are you truly "converted" if you are not changing because it is what you truly believe but it is what you need to do to get what you want? Wouldn't it make you question ANY belief you might EVER have if you could just change what your deepest beliefs are simply by deciding to?
I have no religion and my Husband is Christian. I would like to share his beliefs but I do not. It would not be honest to go through all the motions of being Christian if I am not a Christian in my heart. Love is about honesty, no matter how ugly it is or how much it might hurt. I'm sure he would like me to be Christian if it were the truth but he wants me, the true me with no veneer of comfortable lies.
2006-10-21 17:13:48 · answer #2 · answered by catalamity 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Religion is just religion.
Faith is Faith.
You can keep your faith in your beliefs, your God, your significant other - they do not have to be exclusive of each other. There is no logical nor loving reason to ever put religion over another human being. The worse case scenario would be conflict with other family members or in raising children. Since marriage is a union where we try to work to overcome outside stresses, I don't see where religion would be any more problematic than the thousand other things that will be faced. Hopefully love will help you triumph, or at least face with dignity, all that confronts you.
2006-10-21 14:32:01 · answer #3 · answered by :) Tamara :( 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Since I don't have a religion, can I use politics, instead?
I don't think I could marry a "rabid" adherent of the major political party in the USA that is the main "competition" to the one I favor.
And that's probably a good thing because the difference would extend to many other areas and would be a constant source of friction, making a successful marriage a virtual impossibility.
2006-10-21 14:12:25 · answer #4 · answered by johnslat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very simply, you are one who is assured of yourself -AND- the fiance; if TRULY in LOVE with his or her fiance; has accepted and loved that very person for their being! That includes their beliefs and directions of growth. If the couple can NOT grow together in their love and a stronger faith, whatever their beliefs. How can they grow together? So the answer to the question would be a no as far as I am concerned. My wife was raised a Baptist and I a Roman Catholic. Boy did I receive a lot of pressure about that; but; I again state; first and fore most you must love your partner for whom ever they are. The objective is to GROW! Not allow 'religions' to dictate to us! We are ALL serving the same God and what else really matters? We, my wife and I, have been married for 30 years - by the way. Good luck and god bless!
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2006-10-21 14:39:45 · answer #5 · answered by theniteowl16 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a Christian & I fell in love with a Muslim once. I respected his beliefs. He still believed in God, even though he called him Allah, but I couldn't relate to some of his beliefs & rituals. His family was very traditional & would not have approved of me. They wanted him to marry a Muslim woman that they picked out for him.
Had we stayed together, I would not have converted for him, nor would I have expected him to convert for me. Perhaps this was one of the key differences that tore us apart. My reason is that I will not change who I am, what I believe and what I do just to please another person, even if I love them. I will not compromise myself that way. The sad reality is that sometimes we fall in love with someone whom we are basically incompatible with on a significant level (different religions, future goals, geography, whether or not you want children etc). These are deal breakers. If one person does not have very strong beliefs and is used to compromising to keep the peace, they may conform to the other person's wishes (ok, I'll join your church so your parents will approve, ok I don't want kids but I'll have one to make you happy, I don't want to leave my family & friends but I'll move to your country to be with you). I don't think that this is fair to oneself. It's a bad idea. I think that eventually the person would grow to resent the other for making them giving so much of themselves up. I think it's better to let the relationship go when you are not compatible. Better for it to end sooner (while dating ) than later (after years of marriage, children etc).
This probably isn't what you want to hear (if you're in this situation) but life isn't a movie. When you fall in love you see the romance & you feel you want to do anything for them, but in the real world you also have to think about practical, day-to-day existence, the future of the relationship. There is no happily ever after. If you want a future together it takes constant work. You have to ask yourself if it's right for both of you.
You may not want to lose your love, but the most important thing is not to lose yourself. Too many people give up too much in a relationship & grow to regret it. When it's the right person, you will be compatible in all the ways that matter. Don't try to force it with the wrong person...
2006-10-21 14:24:40 · answer #6 · answered by amp 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You must first answer one question for yourself. Are you really going to pass the opportunity to be with the person that you feel that is the one you are meant to be with, or comply with some arbitrary rule that men wrote, not God? There is only one Supreme being, no matter what the title. To those that believe, God is. It doesn't matter what denomination. Do you think God cares that you are a Catholic & your love is a Methodist? As long as you believe in each other & are willing to chance life together, then you write your own truths. He did say, "Love thy neighbor as you would love yourself."
2006-10-21 20:34:31 · answer #7 · answered by preacher55 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am strictly a non-believer. I married a girl who would never miss a church service. No, I didn't convert ( join ) her church. Even though I encourged her to continue her beliefs, she gradually broke away from her beliefs. Did the marriage work out ? Fifty-two years and going strong. We are closer than Siamese twins.
2006-10-21 14:16:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, he has to respect my belief as I respect his belief. Then again I consider the guys belief first before getting to a relationship with him because later on that would be a big problem. I don't want conflicts. So I rather not complicate my life.
2006-10-21 14:47:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends, does the 2 care about one anothers religion a lot.
2006-10-21 14:08:26 · answer #10 · answered by searching_for_sneaks 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋