23, have been trying to get pregnant for about 4 months?

Question

I'm 23, been married for 1 year, and we've been trying to conceive for about 4 months, nothing technical, I don't keep ovulation charts or anything, but I'm starting to worry that nothing has happened yet. My husband is 31, and I don't want him to be an old father, and we want 3-4 kids, spaced out about 2-3 years apart. When is an appropriate time to go to a doctor or for my husband to get a sperm count?

Answer 1

If you have only been trying to conceive for 4 months, then their is definitley nothing to worry about yet. Its after you have been trying for a year on your ovulation day, etc..that you can check to see if things are wrong. If you have sex on or around ovulation day there is a 25 % chance of conceiving each month that you try. It takes an average healthy couple 6 months to a year to conceive. Try the ovulation predictors and calendars , etc..It will help. Good Luck

Answer 2

I am a little impatient like you are. I BBT chart for 2 reasons.

1. It takes a lot of the guessing out.
2. If you go to the doctor they are going to send you home and have you chart (speaking from experience)

After 3 months of charting you can at least be more informed about your cycle. I would not go to doctor until then. I got pregnant the 1st time after 2 months of charting and using home ovulation tests.

Good luck.

***ADDITIONAL INFORMATION***
**The more sex the better, sperm do not mature if left for 3 days. They have determined that though the sperm count may lower ever so slightly with regular sex the amount of decrease is so little you are better off having regular sex. Also by the time the egg has released and you are aware of it, it is too late to concieve. Ideally you should have sex for the 3 days before you ovulate. Unfortunatly there is no way to tell when you ovulate off of BBT charts until you have. You can sometimes tell afterwards but hindsight is 20/20. Your temp will shoot up once ovulation has occurred. Just have sex, sex and more sex. Try www.fertilityfriend.com they are very informative. I use them for charting.

Answer 3

Lots of things can keep you from getting pregnant.

Perhaps you are trying to hard. Many stories about a man and woman trying VERY hard to have a child and eventually give up and adopt. Within a year, the woman becomes pregnant.

So the moral of that story is to RELAX and enjoy sex. It may happen. If it doesn't, yes, your husband should go for a sperm count and you should go to a good GYN doctor. That way you will find out if it is you or your husband. May be neither one. Sometimes, it is just a slow process. EVERYTHING has to be "just right" before it will happen.

Good luck and when you get them, enjoy them and love them. Remember this old saying: "Once you have kids, you have them for the rest of your life". That may sound strange, but as they grow up and become parents.....you will see that that saying is very true..... Good luck. Pops

Answer 4

This book is a must read for any woman trying to get pregnant. I was devastated and so was my husband after being told by my fertility specialist at age 38 that I had no option but to consider adoption or donor eggs (according to my doctor I was out of eggs and gave me 4% chance of getting pregnant and a 2% chance of carrying a baby to full term). After much research and dozens of hours reading infertility related articles and posts online, I have found this book! I never believed in anything alternative to western medicine and thought all the other stuff like Chinese medicine was a hoax. But I was soon glad to be wrong as I followed step by step guidelines. After one month of trying I became pregnant and had a beautiful healthy boy. Nine months after that I did everything in the book again and after 2 months of trying I got pregnant again and gave birth to another perfect little boy. I would recommend anyone with an open mind to read this book. It just might be the answer to your prayers.

Answer 5

Do it now. Anytime is the appropriate time. Your husband is plenty young enough for you not to worry about him being an old father. My last child was born when I was 41 and we did everything together. There was 12 years difference between my two boys.

I was very active and that helped a lot. Have your own fertility checked also. It could be that you are killing the sperm too effectively.

Good Luck and stay away from drugs, they are not controllable.

Answer 6

It took me a year to conceive with my kids. It goes a long with timing. It can also depend on his sperm count and if you are ovulating. I would give it about 1.5 years, if there still isn't anything new, I would then go to a doctor. And you also need to stop stressing about it. Some women well obsess about it and stress, it will only make is take longer. You just need to enjoy the moments that you have with your husband.

Answer 7

Kari, you are aware that to get pregnant you must have sex on a day that your eggs are being released.

After the 3rd day from the day that menses started put a thermometer into your mouth and check your body temperature every morning before you start turning in bed. The best time is at about 4 a.m. Maintain a chart. You will find that on one day the body temperature drops from 1/2 degree to one degree. This is the day that your eggs are being released. If you want to get pregnant this is the day that you must have sex. Tell your husband to ejaculate on his inward thrust so that the sperms will shoot deep inside.

After having sex you must stay in bed for about 30 mins with your knees bent up with a pillow under your buttocks so that the sperms will not pour out - to enable them to travel up.

Get your husband to save his sperms in the testacles for at least 3 days before sex to enable them to mature well to do their job.

Answer 8

Walgreens has over the counter male fertility test kits. They work by detecting sperm count levels. Usually Dr.'s won't suspect anything is wrong unless you have been trying for about a year with no luck. So this may do the trick for now! Good luck!

Answer 9

First thing first you should start charting your ovulation cycle to make sure you are making magic at the right time before you go to the doctor. The doctor will ask you questions about ovulation time and etc. you should be prepared to answer correctly

Answer 10

I have heard that the prescription Mucinex is a good tool in helping a woman conceive. Because it thins all mucus membranes...sperm has an easier flow to the egg. Ask your doctor about it. Again, I have just heard this from a friend who is pregnant with her 2nd. First one was from fertility drugs and this one is from the help of Mucinex.