What was your reason for filing for divorce?

Question

In Hollywood it is Irreconcilable Differences, but here in the real world want was your reason?

Answer 1

Irreconcilable Difference. the real reason cheating ,lying drinking,
staying out all night. My husband told me I don't love you anymore, I've found someone else. Was I happy yes, because every night in my prayers I would pray that he would find some else to abuse. He married his lover, then wanted me back, even bragged how he had beat her up so bad that she couldn't go to work for 2 weeks. What did I say, NO THANK YOU.because getting rid of you my prayers were answered. I was so happy to get rid of him the first time, take him back, no way.

Answer 2

Irreconcilable differences is the old standby, thus not accusing anyone of anything. I used those grounds thinking it would be over quickly. But that wasnt the case......and the real grounds were and should of stated infidelity. He strongly lacked moral fiber. But's that's so much water under the bridge, I'm merely delighted to be free of him! ;)

Answer 3

I filed mine under irreconcilable differences, as not to tick him off any further.

The underlying reasons were verbal, emotional, psychological, and physical abuse, couple with him cheating on me. I had to get him out of my life.

Answer 4

I will apologize in advance - this is going to be lengthy, lol.
IMO, the only viable reasons for divorce would be those involving abuse (whether that involves yourself, your kids, drugs, alcohol, etc.). Marriage is a contract, not a lease. Too many people today treat it like a 'hey, if it doesn't work out there's always an out' kind of thing. They deal with their imagined unhappiness by cheating, and this is sensationalized by Hollywood celebs and the media. It's been glamourized way too much. Our society has grown too fast and become too 'me, myself, and I' oriented. Everyone wants instant gratification with no effort involved. We are bombarded by who's cheating on who, how miserable the soon-to-be ex is, and how much so-and-so walked away with. Our children are growing up thinking divorce is a normal way of life. They will do it to their spouses one day, too - it's already been the subject of numerous studies. And even more studies have shown that it's all for what? Many of those that cheat on and divorce their spouses often regret it later after the novelty has worn off. They usually end up going from one relationship (sometimes marriage/divorce) to another searching for something they will never find. Because they had it the first time around but may have just had to put a little effort into making it perfect. The guilt often doesn't help matters either. What they did to their ex (and their children) and/or seeing their ex miserable or moving on (and their children with a step-parent) often doesn't sit well.
I would much rather see working things out sensationalized and applauded. Proving to our children that there are few obstacles too big to be worked out. That they are important enough to stick around for. Think of what that would do for the self esteem of everyone involved. New life can always be breathed into a 'stagnating' relationship. Often one partner does not realize there is a problem until the other decides to leave (and often is enamoured with someone else by then). The intent is often to hurt the other person for crimes that they never knew they committed. Or to pursue sex because their spouse is too tired, busy, etc. and is believed to be 'neglectful' of certain needs. I think many would be amazed that their spouses would be more open to working things out (once the initial shock that there was even a problem) wore off. It should be stressed (taught, even) that counseling and couples therepy should be the first and foremost option.
The other option for society today would be to opt for marriage 'leases'. Instead of 'til death do us part' it could be for a specified timeline or maybe just 'til I decide I'm tired of you and want to move on because I'm too lazy or involved in myself to bother with you and my freedom to pursue whomever I want looks way more appealing'. Hmmmm. . . actually I guess the latter is the way today's way of thinking already is.
After most of our grandparents are gone there will be very few stories of people actually spending lifetimes growing old together or of soulmates for life rather than for a couple of years. Think of how enriching it will be to hear about 'yeah, I was with her for a couple of years, and then I was with so-and-so for five more, and then it was, what was her name?, and now I'm with ______ until I meet someone else!). Personally, I would rather hear about someone being together for a lifetime and loving every minute of it, laughing over the hard times and how they worked through it, and looking forward to the challenges that lay ahead.
Just my opinion.

Answer 5

The grass was greener on the other side of the fence for my wife so she decided to "shack up" with a 18 year old stock boy.

Answer 6

No fault divorce after bieng seperated for 1 year. Could have taken 6 mo. and used abuse or adultry.

Answer 7

Adultery

Answer 8

i been married for 10 years.now aim divorce#1 reason was he is never around we have 9 years old girl.... he doesn't wont to be a father#2 he was cheating........he called it work i called it cheating.....so i think most divorce happen lack of trust....fol ling out love &the bigest broblam is family.....

Answer 9

Three affairs by my ex wife. I think those are valid reasons.
Also her not showing any remorse for the pain she caused everyone. Our daughter wont talk to her still.

Answer 10

She cheated on me with another man. I could never forgive her.