Lately my wife and I have started sharing fantasies, and her favorite fantasy was her being with me and another guy at the same time. Although, the thought of that is kind of a turn on for me too, should I be worried that she desires another guy. I am not very well endowed, so could it be because I'm not satisfying her?
2006-10-21 06:11:10 · 27 answers · asked by Steve J 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think all women have fantasies just like men do. She is more turned on and easily satisfied while thinking of being wth 2 men in the bedroom, this is helping her achieve an orgasm, why mess that up. If you think you are not well endowed then maybe you should introduce some toys into the bedroom. There is such things as an extension, she might like that. What are your fantasies? how does she feel about them? do you have fantasies about being with 2 women? I bet she doesnt think you want to leave her for other girls. Ya see, this is a touchy situation. You're damned if you do and you're damned if you dont. A fantasy is exactly what it is, A FANTASY, until you actually make it a reality. When you do that, it is no longer a fantasy and it just ruins everything for what you thought it was. Let her create her fantasies if its helping you both in the long run.
Go to an adult store and look into getting a penis extender, it goes on like a condom and it pleases not only her but you too. If you are too embarrassed then look it up online and order from there.
2006-10-21 06:24:25 · answer #1 · answered by Help Me Help You 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it is only a fantasy and she has no desire to make it reality, that's fine. If she starts trying to sell you on the idea - you're in trouble. Has your wife given you any indications she is not satisfied by you? Was it her idea to share fantasies or yours?
If you are not satisfying her you would probably know it. If by not well endowed you mean normal - you're safe. Too well endowed is usually painful, uncomfortable, etc. for the woman unless she is into the pain. I would choose a regular-sized guy any day (or night) of the week over anything else. It makes for better just about everything.
2006-10-21 06:34:27 · answer #2 · answered by greyrider 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nah, don't worry about being well endowed. She married you didn't she? Obviously that part wasn't a deal breaker. Anyways, try getting her a uhh...."toy". maybe one the same size as you, and you two can experimant with that. However, you should be the one to use it on her. This should help with her fantasy, and also, you won't have to worry about another guy, even if it does turn you on. Don't get another guy involved. It'll just make things complicated. Just get the toy, and start from there.
2006-10-21 06:19:04 · answer #3 · answered by Kings Fan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not at all. Human beings just have fantasies. But, whatever you do - don't try it. That would be a horrible thing to have to live with.
Don't worry about the last part. If she love you, if does not matter in that area. Love is what keeps us satisfied.
2006-10-21 06:15:24 · answer #4 · answered by chris 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well in this situation, both of you have to be ok with this and want it. And also, you would need to be very sure of yourself and confident to allow another man to have sex with your wife. I don't think it's because you're not "satisfying" her, some people just have that fantasy. But seriously, I wouldn't do it. It can cause alot of problems in your relationship, especially if you are not secure with yourself, which you've already said that you are not secure with yourself. Keep it a fantasy.
J
2006-10-21 06:15:13 · answer #5 · answered by Jenn 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fantasies are just that. I don't think you need to be worried, unless she actually starts making plans to do this. Not many relationships can survive a 3some.
I think 2 men is a fairly common fantasy for women.
2006-10-21 06:25:43 · answer #6 · answered by Morley 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i don't think its a matter of you not satisfying her. you were talking about fantasies were you not? so she told you what hers was. don't read more into it than there is. and if this is something that turns you on as well, whats the problem? now i don't recommend that you go threw with this fantasy, because of the fact that you are already showing that it bothers you.
2006-10-21 08:02:36 · answer #7 · answered by here to help 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No...don't worry about it. My wife has the same fantasy...but she also says...it is JUST a fantasy and something that she could not actually bring herself to do.
2006-10-21 06:14:38 · answer #8 · answered by Fantasy Sports Icon 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
In your shoes, I guess my question to you both is.....
Do you both only fantasize.........or would either one of be interested in living any part of your fantasy. If the latter is a possibility, then I'd be concerned for you both.
If one is satisfied, why would one consider living a fantasy? Please dont either of you do anything that you cannot 'take back'........Just my thought on the matter.
2006-10-21 06:23:12 · answer #9 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's completely normal.Don't go out and find a guy for her either.She's your girl and keep it that way.But you can go ahead and buy some toys and possibly watch a porn with something similar.It will turn you on and at the same time she can imagine her fantasy.Don't worry about the size that you have,just be confident with what you do have.
2006-10-21 06:58:39 · answer #10 · answered by charles 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋