I used to hang out with people I grew up with and discovered they wern't loyal. And that is very important to me and I think everyone. I haven't really made "real" friends ever since then..and I'm starting to feel as though I will never make new friends that will last. Or be stable in my life..I'm getting lonely and there is nowone.
2006-10-21 06:04:47 · 15 answers · asked by Jade 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You need to get back into the game of life. If you sit and dwell about the what ifs and why's you will be lonely the rest of your life. You have to be in life for it to happen. Get out there and show everyone you love life. You like honesty well than look for it. There are plenty who are the same as you. Good luck!!.LL.
2006-10-21 06:09:38 · answer #1 · answered by italliansweety67 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The term friend is very misused and overused these days. The truth is that if you go through life with one or two true friends you are a rich person. We all have work friends, social friends, workout friends, club friends etc but that is not really a friend. I have been blessed to have true loyal friends in my life. The truth is that many of the people I call friend and are mostly not genuine friends. I guess we need to better define what friendship are in the correct perspective. I have a couple close women, whom I can call any time and they would be there for me for anything. They would comfort me in the middle of the night. They would drive 500 miles to get me. They would pray for me. They would understand me and do anything sincerely. They would not talk bad about me. They would defend me. They love me for me. However, I have friends who say they are friends, they would most likely be burdened if I called them at 2 Am crying or ask for a ride home from somewhere 500 miles away. They would be kind, but not available. They would not be what I consider a real friend. My best friend is God. My second best friends are my husband and my family. The truth is that friendship is two ways. Most people would respect the other person by not asking too much from them. I would not randomly call someone at 2 AM crying. I would first consider the time and the persons needs before my own needs. That is what true freinds do. They always think more of the other person than they do themselves.....but at the times when one needs a shoulder to lean on...they are always there. Loyalty can't be beat for a quality of friends. Love & respect too. Today, this world seems to be more focused on self gain. It is sad. There is nothing better than having people who really love you for no self gain...just for loves sake. I feel your pain. I have heard many people express your thoughts. I would rather have few to no friends than to have people in my life who were using me. I am not going to be anyones doormat or dumping zone.
Friends & happiness your way!
2006-10-21 13:17:22 · answer #2 · answered by Shayna 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you got to put yourself on the spot. Try to be yourself and try to make some friends at work. I use to be the same way. Now almost everyone knows me that work different shift. I think you'll find out that the older ones will give you good advice too. Try to smile and be a little helpful. Like if someone is picking something up that's on the floor help them.
2006-10-21 13:28:39 · answer #3 · answered by Jacklyn H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I knd of had that same thing, I had all these friends, but then our school got split, and now I go to the new school. I have new friends here, but I ALWAYS am missing my old friends. The way I do it is at work, or school use a conversation starter, or anything and, then after you do that, just get to know them, or if you are in a dorm have a party, and invite every one on your floor, then get to know them.
2006-10-21 13:09:41 · answer #4 · answered by Maggie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am there now where you are, I used to do drugs and drink and hang out with people who did that. But I stopped hanging out with them and tried to get new friends too. You just need to get active, work, sports,a club or some kind of activities that you can do. Go to church? Do something that has people involved and people that you can hang out with. Talk too. Make conversations and hang out with someone who has something in common with you.
2006-10-21 13:10:25 · answer #5 · answered by delawaregirl83 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask a lot of heartfelt questions and be interested in what the person is saying. People like people who like them.
2006-10-21 13:06:47 · answer #6 · answered by prufrocktea 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep what you have even if is not perfect. Better somebody then nobody. Don't give up, soon or later you find good people, but I know, not to many left.
2006-10-21 13:07:52 · answer #7 · answered by Toto 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u have 1 true friend in ur life ur lucky .friends don't stay together anymore either their talking about u or steeling ur man one or the other we have acquaintances now Friends r really hard to come by.a true friend anyway.
2006-10-21 13:08:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i felt like that b4 . u will make real friends if u don t bother so much and b urself .
2006-10-21 13:07:41 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur an idiot u cnt ask how 2 make friends go 2 places and start talking to ppl and go from there
2006-10-21 13:08:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋