Abortion???

Question

Do u think my ex who I only recently split up with in the last 3mths, who split on bad terms, are now friends with but there is still alot of hurts there on both parts, even tho he has a new girlfriend on 1wk, be there for me in the event of an abortion or should I not tell him?? Or do u think he would be more hurt and angry for not telling him?? Do u think this may mend the heartache for us both and at least give us a contentment as friends??? and yes it is 100% his

In this situation I think an abortion is the only answer, I want my babies to have the life I didnt and have a mum and a dad... I think it is unfair to bring a baby into this world that wont have that... abortion is 100% out the window, I couldnt do that. Do u think it would make him resent me or have more negative feelings towards me by telling him, esp has he has moved on and there are still cuts and bruises to our relationship x

The thing is, im 23 just now and im at uni, I had an abortion earlier on in this year, my pill failed even tho I was taking it correctly, I had an abortion but I do think about it all the time and he always said when we were together he would stand by me but were not together now and he says he loves me but he doesnt think he is in love with me and im fighting for him friendship at the moment becuase I hurt him when we split and he has just got a girlfriend of 1wk... I would love to say that this could be the thing that will make him realise what he have and take me back but I dont think that'll be the case and I just couldnt be a single mum and really dont want him to resent me anymore than he already does... its juts so hard becuse I have already had an abortion and i do regret it and this baby is by someone I love but who doesnt love me anymore... its heartbreaking :-(

Adoption is 100% out the question... couldnt do that!!!

My ex the the type where he wouldnt want anyone else raising his child and would wanna be there, im just scared she is goignt o think im trying to trap him or something, god thats the last thing I want but it just comes across bad that now weve ended I fall pregnant again... I would never want him to think I would do that x

By telling him my hope is that it will bring us closer together, weither that be frineds I dont care so closer... but I hate the thought that he'll resent me or think im trying to trp him.

Answer 1

your going to kill a baby just because u and your ex aren't together, that is selfish and childish, there is a thing called adoption where they will have a mom and a dad.

Answer 2

This is one of those times you need to suck it up and do something for someone else in your life---your baby. Tell him you're pregnant and then have the baby--give it up for adoption if that is your choice. But an innocent baby should not have to pay for your mistake.

EDIT:
Abortion is NEVER the only answer. Sorry you don't want to hear that, but it's not the answer. Look at your answer--you want your babies to have the life you didn't---WELL AT LEAST YOU HAD LIFE!! Give the baby up for adoption, there are loving families waiting for babies out there. Give your baby a chance! It's time to look beyond what this does to your relationship with the baby's father and do what's right!


If you've already had one abortion and regret it, what do you think two is going to do to you?? All you can do is tell him and go from there. If you are together and bring this baby into the world then that would be awesome, otherwise is you can't handle being a single mom then give the baby up for adoption. This baby is more important right now and you need to do what's best for the baby.

EDIT:
HEY!! YOU'VE BEEN IN MY THOUGHTS AND PRAYERS!! HOW ARE YOU DOING???

Answer 3

I am not going to tell you what to do, the decision is yours to make but I just ask that before you have an abortion you do some research because the people at the clinic will not tell you everything. I had an abortion about a year ago and it was the worst mistake I have ever made. I regreted it the moment it was done, actually before but I was too scared to try to stop it. A few weeks afterwards I got online and just typed ablrtion in the search area and came across some pictures of babied that had been aborted and it horrified me. Please do plenty of research because the clinic will not educate you what so ever. Don't force yourself to live with what I live with eeveryday of my life.

Answer 4

Wait a minute here. Your question is garbled, but it seems that you are pregnant and are thinking of an abortion. Is that right?
Oh this is touchy. I think this is something that you need to resolve on your own. I think deep down, you know what is the right thing for you to do. No one can know the right thing for you to do, than you yourself.
In any event, if you are in fact pregnant, the man has a right to know. The ultimate decision to bring a new life into the world is up to you.
When it comes to the resentment he might feel toward you about the child, I wouldn't give it any further thought. He has ill feelings about you already and so, how much worse can it get? Try to move on without him.

Answer 5

Well, for starters, he has a right to know. It is his child, and even if YOU don't want it, he might.

Also, I truly believe that you will REALLY regret it if you abort this baby. I don't know your reasons for saying that adoption is 100% out of the question - if you're worried about emotional scars to yourself...how much better to know that you loved your child enough to give it up and allow it to have a wonderful life, then to spend the rest of your life knowing that you killed your baby! You could even do a private adoption where you chose the parents yourself and might even be able to have some involvement in your baby's life, if that's something you and they agreed to.

I urge you to re-think the idea of aborting this child. Your ex has a right to know about it, and he has a right to his child if he wants it. And if you both don't want that precious baby, I pray that you'll consider the many women who want NOTHING more than to have a baby and have been waiting on adoption lists for years and years. My best friend's sister has tried for 15 years to have a baby and has waited nearly so long to adopt a baby as well.

Please, think of them and what a blessing you could be to them and that precious little life inside of you who is already a person and deserves a chance.

Answer 6

Don't do it. I'm going to school too and besides that I'm also working. Who cares about him having someone new or whatever. This is your baby and your future. Go on with your life! I had an abortion when I was younger and let me tell you what: I am still so damn sorry. Babies are wonderful.

Adoption is out of the question? Why, cause everyone could see the stretchmarks and they'd be for nothing?

Answer 7

Abortion is NOT the answer. That is murder. Period! Adoption or parenting are the answers. It is not baby's fault that you got pregnant.

I had my first at 19 (now at 29 I have 3 kids), hubby and I had not even been married a year. He was still in school and I was working multiple jobs. We barely had enough money to feed ourselves, but somehow we made it work. Best decision we ever made.

I have a friend who is a single mom of 3. She is in school full time and working a full time job. Yes, she uses state money to help with childcare and hates to be away from her kids all day but she is doing it to support them. She is a great mom.

Ask your friends and family for help.

Answer 8

I'm not going to dance on the issue. YOU need to grow up. First you created a baby with him LET HIM KNOW! Second if you do decide to go get rid of the "PROBLEM" there is addition and some people will pick up your expense's for your suffering. there are other options look at them all. But DONT EXPECT to ENTRAP more then a mans wallet, with the whole getting pregnet to keep him mentality. If you went through this a while ago and didnt learn then you really need to grow up and take some responsibility for your actions!

Answer 9

YOu cant put your baby up for adoption? But its fair to kill it? Wow. You know the heart beats at 5 weeks along. You will regret having an abortion later on in life. It is not the only option. Thats terrible. Your ex needs to know too because thats part of him that you will be killing. He needs to know before you ever did something like that. Definitley wont mend anything.

Answer 10

First things first...you have to tell him. You'll regret it later on down the road if you don't. Even though you broke up not too long ago, you're still friends. And I'm sure he still cares about you. An abortion is really tough to go through, speaking from experience. I suggest you don't do it alone. You'll need someone you can trust and are comfortable with, to have by your side and to provide support afterwards.
I don't wish this upon anyone. My heart goes out to you! Good luck!!

Answer 11

Abortion is a terrible thing!Everyone I know that has had an abortion has regreted it.Not 1 person I know hasn't. You should keep ur baby, because after going through that pregnancy and birth you're going to love your baby to death.Ur lyfe is no longer about you, its about ur baby.That baby didn't choose to get you pregnant.U and ur partner knew the risks of having sex.Now you must face the consequences.PLEASE!! Take my adivice! Good luck with ur decision.