i dont get on with anybody anymore?

Question

my family hates my kids dad who ive split up with but he still sees the kids and he hates my family a neighbour who i thought was a friend has turned out to be a busybody who is trying to take over the street, my friend who i really got on with i am walking on egg shells with because nothing i do is good enough, she has double standards on things, ive found out some of my mates have been having a good ***** about me, i don't want to see anyone and i don't want to go out the house anymore. if i didn't have my kids i'd jump on a train and run away. my nerves are really bad

my sisters both want my mom to themselves so they make it impossible for me and the kids to spend time with her, she wont come to my house because my ex has been nasty and dis-respectfull to her. my sisters are always funny with me

i have money worries too since i broke up with my ex, that don't help either

Answer 1

Talk to your doctor, it sounds like you are depressed.

Answer 2

Firstly try and focus on the positive things in your life, think how lucky you are to have kinds, Even if they drive you mad sometimes.

When people think, they tend to think negative. But when you plan you do so in a positive way, right? Why not plan a Holiday or short Trip on your own, or with a friend.

If some aspects of you live are going badly, then work on the other aspects, such as work? Or try going to the gym more often, it will make you feel much better. Eat the right food, go for a long walks, listen to some music you haven't heard sines you were young, maybe go visit a relative or old school friend.

All that has happened is that your in a rut, and bit by bit you have to work you way out, but it wont all happen over night, it take time and discipline.

good luck, i hope everything works out for you.

Answer 3

You're ex has a right to see his kids. You're family has a right to hate your ex. Your ex has the right to hate your family. You found out an ugly truth about your neighbor and you have the right to be pissed off and not be friends anymore. Your mates are dickheads and you have the right to tell them so. Your friend is reflecting her insecurities and shortcomings on you, tell her to get a life, and if she can't tell her to #$% off, that's your right too.
Everything seems to have come down on top of you at the same time, it's overwhelming, but it happens. If each had happened by themselves you'd call it a bad day and keep going. Same rule applies here. Actually you have the bonus of getting all the crap over in one fell swoop. Go ahead and cry, stamp your feet, scream, whatever, and then get on with your life. Be happy with your kids, take a walk in the park tomorrow it'll be better.

Answer 4

Sounds like a bit of a nightmare, jaydee, and I'm sorry for you. Maybe you need someone new in your life, and/or to be doing something different, so as to forget about your bitchy old friends and give you something positive to think about.
You care about your kids, so that's good, shame your mum's not so understanding though. Whereabouts do you live? We could meet up over coffee and go for a nice walk in the park if you'd like that. I'm good company!

Answer 5

Hello Jaydee,

It sounds like everything is getting to much for you. You do state that if it wasn't for the children then you would run away. You sound like a really good mum cos you put your children above your feelings. I do however think you may need some help and i would suggest going to see your GP and asking if you can have some counselling to get these things sorted out in your mind. Sensitive people often get overwrought. xx

Answer 6

The reality are very sad. How to get most of the life, if you get stack at home. You must go and find some activity out of the street. Whatever you do gives you more satisfaction then hiding.

Answer 7

Could you join any group or clubs around town? Maybe you could attend a church and make friends there. I think you need some kind of support but in your current state it may be hard to look for friends because you are scared of getting hurt. My advice: see a psychologist, pray, and join a church.

Answer 8

I thought I was having a rough time of it. You sound as if you are really depressed. I would seek some form of counselling, it's not a cure but it is a start to helping you sort out your problems.

Answer 9

try to make some changes in your mind, way of talking, way of responding to things, make some changes in your house (like rearranging your furniture),
do some thing new in your life, like going to a special interesting course, read some thing new,
look dear, stop blaming others, as they don't like the person who always blame them, forgive them, do them some thing good, speak good about them when they are not present,
it is clear that you have an access to the net, so why not join some groups and start having friends right now,
you can start with me, my name is latif,
my e-mail is: [e-mail]
you can join Ringo, where we exchange photos (very beautiful ones) with friends
live your life, don't worry about the others, don't wait for them to love you, you can love others, but be sure they will come back to you and love you when you make the right changes in your life
try to change your heart, start loving things (new things) like gardens, flowers,...... have some friends on the net where you can talk and exchange ideas
try to forget your problems as much as you can, try to see the needs of those who don't like you, you may find ways of helping them
concentrate on raising your kids as good as you can, to help them make a better future, that will reward you very much,
learn the art of giving with out waiting for a return

Answer 10

go and talk to your doctor, you may need a short course of anti-depressants, your so called mates are the ones witha problem, why should you stay in because of them, fresh air and walking are very good for lifting your spirits, you will get worse if you don't go out, good luck

Answer 11

U just need someone to talk to i know friends let u down sometimes it seem like everyone let u down.I've been their maybe talking to ur minster or someone from church would help..remember ur kids love and need u .. with time it will get better ..hope u well and happiness.