and you dont want your wife to find out because according to you, you love her?if youre in love with someone then why are you cheating?
2006-10-21 05:51:59 · 26 answers · asked by super girl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sex, its on their minds all the time
2006-10-21 06:18:12 · answer #1 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont think guys are any different to girls when they cheat, bottom line is its done for a reason. I always thought i could never do that, but then i was in a really bad place in a relationship and it just happened. I fell in love with someone else, but then I dont believe i was in love with the man i was with anymore... he had treated me really badly. Now I am with the other man and im happy. I didnt feel good about it, and what goes through your mind is, this is how things should be... this is how i should feel with my other half, but i dont for whatever reason. If you're cheating, the fact is you dont really love the person you're with enough because you arent respecting them by cheating. Im not proud of what I did, but at the end of the day I didnt do it for anyone but myself!
2006-10-21 08:19:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I have gone through already telling my wife that I really do resent her - feeling cheated out of who she was - feeling angry that she would never talk about why she turned the way she turned - that she has bullied, tries emotional blackmail etc and basically does not listen nor attempts to answer any questions I put to her without asking me a question (usually rhetorical ones too) in reply.
Years ago i told her that 'anyone with the money can buy for me the things that she has done, but I want from her what no one else can give me (namely her).'
My statement changed nothing ~ though she recently ACCUSED me of 'only wanting money from her,' to which I replied, 'What the hell else is there?'
In reply I was told that 'that was unfair.'
Put simply, if I wanted my back scratched, I'd be told that I need to find someone who can do it just the way I like it.
So I have. I cheat.
What gores through my mind, 'something approching 'the desire not to be found out' ~ a level of 'guilt.'
Sash.
2006-10-24 14:54:52 · answer #3 · answered by sashtou 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most males feel one thing has nothing to do with the other,they tend to put themselves first especially if they are ??? at that crossroad looking back thinking of there youth,can I still get that new girl in the office or at the bar or the wife is not paying them any attention and the women out in the world as he sees it is telling him he's fine/good in bed so this lifts there libo but they love there wife!!!!!!!!!!
2006-10-21 06:01:59 · answer #4 · answered by Ethel T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing. The actual affair is the relief from the frustration they were feeling and thinking about prior to the affair.
People have affairs on their significant others for numerous reasons. A few for personal issues (ie: self esteem, adventure, or personal need- lust...) but the majority are due to relationship issues (ie: lack of attention, neglect, revenge, or defense...).
2006-10-21 06:01:30 · answer #5 · answered by JReb_67 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its much much much more complicated than that.
Alot goes through your mind before, and after, but usually you block it all out whilst you are cheating.
2006-10-21 05:55:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what goes threw our minds is the fact that we wouldnt be cheating if the one we are with would be doing her thing or his thing.. we dont stray away unless we arent happy.. theirs always areason why some one cheats.. maybe u need too be human and move n and forget him
2006-10-21 05:55:31 · answer #7 · answered by onegreatbaker 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ive never cheated but i know fear runs through our minds
2006-10-21 05:54:28 · answer #8 · answered by nickisgreen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When we are actually "cheating" we are thinking... this is totally worth it. Then when the guilt sets in, the lies get bigger and especially when we get caught, we are thinking..."this sucks" until we forget how much it sucks and then we do it again.. and I think its the same for when women cheat.
2006-10-21 06:05:14 · answer #9 · answered by capt don 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
hmmm oh my god baby your breast are so big and your cookie is tight, hmmm 3 seconds later we fill bad and cover it up .. until next monday nite when you go for it again, what im trying to say if you cheat once its all done...so lead with the heart and sleep with his brother, or if he dont have one then sleep with his dad...pay backs suck then take all the guys money his car, his job and yes even his damm golf clubs you bought on your second year together........
2006-10-21 06:02:21 · answer #10 · answered by daddys eyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think the boyfriend girlfriend or husband wife label controls me, im just not monogomous,
whats going through my mind, am i showing the person i am with the appropriate attention
2006-10-21 07:26:54 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋