My grandmother is sick and she lives 16 hours away from me, i want to go visit her with my cousin but i dont want to bring the whole family. I just want to spend alone time with her and see some old friends my cousin and i hung out with as kids and come back home but my husband wants me to bring our youngest son and is getting jelouse that i would be seeing old friends there too.....he thinks i will leave him....i dont understand what hes going on about...i just want to visit my nana and friends...!!
2006-10-21 05:46:16 · 10 answers · asked by ? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Well it sounds like your husband has some insecurity issues. Is there problems in your marriage to lead him to believe you would leave?
If so you should solve them first.
Or maybe he doesn't feel capable of handling his son on his own.
If this visit is going to be a long one then I think you should take your son- who will care for him while you are away and your husband is at work?
At any rate I don't think you should do this as long as it is making your husband uncomfortable. Although if he is just being immature I think he needs to just grow up. But if you insist on going what will the end result be? Consider this and weigh your options and decide if the consequences will be worth it.
2006-10-21 05:54:36 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he has no right to get upset with you for going to see your sick nana. if he is getting upset with you for seeing old friends then there is a trust issue that he's not telling you about. he obviously doesnt trust you to be with old friends and thinks you might cheat on him with an old boyfriend. have you ever given him reason not to trust you? does he want you to take the youngest child with you thinking that if you have a child you cant get into trouble? or does he not want the responsibility of caring for the youngest one while you are away? what is the reason you dont want to take your son with you? do you think he would get in the way of having fun with your friends while you're up there supposedly spending time with your SICK nana? I dont see why there is even an issue here. What is the reason for not wanting to take the whole family? They dont have to be right there with you every second of the day while you are visiting with your nana. I'm sure there are things in that town for the family to do. Besides, it would be nice for your nana to see your children as well as you. I think she would like that. Talk it over calmly with your husband just to see where is true issues are. You can probably resolve them easily if you are BOTH honest with each other.
I hope all works out well for your family and I wish your Nana the best.
2006-10-21 06:01:33 · answer #2 · answered by Help Me Help You 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, explain your feelings to him and be honest. It sounds like he might be a bit insecure so go out of your way to try to make him feel comfortable about the situation. He will get an ego boost and you will go see your friends and cousin and be able to have that affair you have always wanted... just kidding about that last one. He is feeling insecure so if you care about how he feels, then over compensate, also ask him to be considerate of your feelings and that you need this time to be home alone with your friends and family. If he still puts up a fuss, divorce him.
2006-10-21 05:54:08 · answer #3 · answered by capt don 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably should talk more about visiting your Nana and not say too much to him about visiting your old friends. He may be a little jealous!
2006-10-21 05:52:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to reinforce that you love him, and that you want to spend time with your nana.
(Some men become jealous when the women have alot of freedom) What he is deeply saying is that he does not trust you. (Perhaps you did something in the past). The best thing is communication and trust, since without it your relationship can falter.
Good luck,
Don
2006-10-21 05:52:54 · answer #5 · answered by djvargas1255 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your grandmother is sick and you feel strongly about her you should definitly go! just let your husband deal with the kids because yuor grandma needs you right now more than your husband and children!
2006-10-21 05:50:53 · answer #6 · answered by fdsa jkl; 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leaving my husband and children behind!?
2014-12-15 21:31:41 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure you're not going to be doing the "naughty" while you're away?
2006-10-21 05:49:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow well tell him he doesnt like it then i wont go but i wont ever forgive u
2006-10-21 05:50:06 · answer #9 · answered by lily pad fat =( 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he doesn't trust you
2006-10-21 05:49:03 · answer #10 · answered by mightymight 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋