What is more important while choosing a husband or wife? someone who enjoys doing the same things as you like hobbies and who has a simliar outlook on life in terms of what you value and feel is important in life OR someone who you know would always be faithful, a good parent to your children, loving and stable but whom you may not be able to enjoy certain things with like travel, hobbies and more importantly life values like religious views or compassion for the global community.
2006-10-21 05:30:16 · 33 answers · asked by Lovely 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
To be honest with you BOTH. Always realize though, that no one is perfect so you'll have to deal with a flaw or 2. It's all about what flaw you may be able to deal within a person. Man #1 you'll have fun together, have similar outlook when it comes to life; but don't may not take care of home, not there when you need him nor is he dependable, and is a suspect of being a cheater> can you handle that? Man #2 always there when you need him, take care of home, faithful don't have to worry about another woman; but yall have different hobbies, and he may don't make you laugh like man one> can you deal with that ? You would need a little bit of both men; if you seeking marriage it'll be more of the loving and loyal one as a pose to the fun one. Life is more than a laugh! Hey keep guy # 1 as a friend and #2 as a husband! That way you can have your cake and eat it too! Just don't sex guy #1 because you wouldn't want to burn your bridges with your new hubby. So, marry loving and caring and keep fun as a friend. Then if it doesnt' work with loving and caring then you marry fun later
2006-10-21 05:59:49 · answer #1 · answered by "The Dark Angel" 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let mne ask you this: what is important to YOU in a life partner?
I think one can have all the positive qualities you mentioned above without being forced to do without others. It is not asking too highly of yourself to want someone to share values with, AND loyal, AND loving, AND enjoys doing the same things as you, AND is faithful, AND shares the same outlook on life, AND has the same religious views, AND...well, you get the drift.
The key, in my opinion, is to ask yourself these questions and find out what you truly want in a person, then use them as guidelines when you go out into the dating world.
One guideline that I have always gone by is that I would not ever date a person unless there is a possibility in my mind that I might marry this person.
2006-10-21 05:42:40 · answer #2 · answered by calledkevinalot 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Loyal and loving, definitely. I mean, this person is going to be around for the rest of your LIFE, and marriage is a huge decision. Marrying someone just because they enjoy the same hobbies as you may be fun for a little while, but as far as the long run goes, it just won't last. You need someone who you can TRUST, someone who will comfort you, love you, and always be there for you. The rest you two can work out, and hopefully that will just make your marriage stronger.
2006-10-21 05:35:48 · answer #3 · answered by Victoria 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are both very important factors. Perhaps the second one would be better, and hope that they would learn to enjoy some of the same hobbies, travel, etc. It seems easier to change that then to have someone develop into being loving, faithful, and a good parent.
2006-10-21 05:43:37 · answer #4 · answered by Christine M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Loyal and loving every time.
If one truly loves the other, it would be no problem sharing in values and it would be enjoyed. If however, the love is not there, then it would become a nuisance factor.
On the other hand, if you are sharing values, without the loyalty and loving, then you have a marriage of convenience, enjoying shared values and getting loving somewhere else. If that is the case, loyalty is omitted by default.
Darryl S.
2006-10-21 05:40:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're kidding, right? Your first example describes what a partner is all about. Someone to share life with. Your second example is a good description of a house keeper and baby sitter. Now! Which would you prefer to spend your life with? Don't forget. After the kids are grown and gone, you will want a partner to live out your years in comfort and joy. Or. You can live out your life bathed in the knowledge that you have a faithful servant who has no idea what you're about.
2006-10-21 05:34:23 · answer #6 · answered by Arnold M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've always felt that "values" were or should be followed by the loyalty and loving.
We're all looking for or hope to already have the "perfect" partner. No one is perfect, and we end up working for what is really important to make our relationships stable enough to bring into it all the values we cherish.
2006-10-21 05:38:40 · answer #7 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Loyal and Loving,most of the time couples want to do there on thing and that gives each there little space that a couple needs to be apart and not up under each other all the time which is good.
2006-10-21 05:37:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would think myself that having someone that enjoyed doing the same things is important! At the same time you need someone who will be faithful and loving! I would want all of this myself!
2006-10-21 05:38:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think both are equally important. The love and trust has to be a definite though. Me and my husband dont agree on everything but there is always compromise.
2006-10-21 05:33:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋