we live together and have pet's together
would marrage change this
will i stop loving her
will she stop loving me
will sex stop
help
2006-10-21 05:28:15 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
only if you find the right reason's to marry this lady. have spent the time together long enough to know that no matter what seems to slow down or stop , your love for her will remain strong through it all.
2006-10-21 05:31:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are a lot of factors to consider here: How long have the two of you been together? How old are you? Have either of you ever been in any other serious relationships? How well does she (and you) get along with her family?
The list goes on and on, but those are some of the main issues. I think you made a good move by deciding to live with her before you got married. I also think you made a good move by getting to know each other sexually before you got married. I know a lot of people will disagree with that, but those are important ways to know your partner, and they're things that are often HUGE issues in a marriage. Aside from rent, do you guys share finances? You should try a few months of paying bills and making purchases together first, if you haven't already.
To answer your secondary questions...No. You will not magically stop loving each other, nor will the sex suddenly stop, nor will any other significant change happen overnight. Women (and many men) seem to think that getting married flips some kind of switch which instantly makes the relationship happier and makes minor problems go away. The truth is that marriage won't change the way the relationship works day-to-day. It will shape the way you look at your future together, but it's not going to intensify or lessen your happiness together.
If you're happy with the relationship, and you feel like you're happy with the questions I asked earlier, then by all means, go for it. Don't end up kicking yourself later because you passed on a good thing. But on the other hand, there's no need to rush things, especially if you're young or haven't been together that long (I recommend 1 year of living together). Before you ask her to marry you, be sure to talk with her and make sure she's thinking the same thing. Just be sure the actual proposal is a suprise. Anyway, hope this helps...Good luck!
2006-10-21 07:17:07 · answer #2 · answered by Dave B. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you discussed marriage with your girlfriend? That would be the best way to find out if you are both on the same page. Do you have similar values and expectations? There are no guarantees with marriage. It can be as good (or bad) as you make it. You might ask her opinion on marriage in general, for instance - what does she think it takes to make a good marriage. Are there problems in your relationship now, and if so have you overcome them together? If you both agree that a good marriage requires 100% comittment you probably have a good start already.
2006-10-21 05:41:52 · answer #3 · answered by 6-Pack? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are a lot more things than love that goes into a marriage.
Are you happy?
Are you financially secure?
Do you feel like you can live with her for the rest of your life?
These are just a few of the questions you need to ask yourself. Once you've answered those questions, you can then answer your own.
;-) Good Luck Buddy.
-Drew Bryant
http://cheatingsigns.blogspot.com
2006-10-21 05:34:18 · answer #4 · answered by drew.bryant 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is one the biggest commitment one can ever make.
I can see you have placed strings of expectations way before you could even ask for her hand in marriage. Expectations can be destructive to a marriage coz you impose conditions in order for marriage to work. So is procastination.
Main thing is :
Can you find it in your heart that you really love this girl for who and what she is? and not what you want her to be? If you are able to wholeheartedly accept for who and what she is, you will have less difficulty in your marriage.
Good luck and all the best...
2006-10-21 08:18:08 · answer #5 · answered by DiL 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time will tell.
Loyalty and trust are the top two things you need in a partner.
Wait about 2 years and see if you still are interested.
2006-10-21 05:34:13 · answer #6 · answered by Saffernellie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's up to you. You might as well. You're already living like you're married. Why would all of that stop just, because you got married?
2006-10-21 05:36:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not?Would u like to change all of this?Why u ask all this stupid Question?
2006-10-21 06:59:15 · answer #8 · answered by gen2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no u u just ask her and if she loves u as much as u love her she will say yes!
2006-10-21 05:32:02 · answer #9 · answered by Lacey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel the need to ask this question here then my answer is 'no'.
2006-10-21 06:30:45 · answer #10 · answered by Morley 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋