My boyfriend is obsessed with me, which is not good if i ever want to leave him. He loves me very much and puts me first though. My ex-boyfriend who i still have strong feelings for is trying to get back with me. We broke up because he moved away after katrina and because he's a jehovah's witness, im not. We had everything in common though. I love them both, but my ex is like my best friend. My current boyfriend would do anything for me, but i worry that he may be TOO in love, which can mean pshyco in some cases. What should i do? Also, my ex makes a lot more money right now than my boyfriend who is working on his career (if this matters). I just want to know who would be the best option.
2006-10-21 05:27:51 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Truthfully, I don't think either one of these guys is a very good choice.
Are you afraid that your current BF may become violent if you leave him? That is certainly a source of concern. Is he controlling? Does he tell you want to do? If so, you need to sit down with him and calmly but firmly tell him that his behavior needs to change, or your relationship will not work out. Best to do this in a public place, such as a restaurant, or where other people are close by.
As for your ex, religious differences can be worked through, but if the two of you are not willing to meet halfway on that matter, then it will lead to big problems if you get married and have children. As for your ex making a lot more money, that shouldn't figure into the equation. Money can make some things easier, but it does not make a relationship perfect.
2006-10-21 05:36:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Is being loved too much possible? In the real world of "love"...NO.
Are you looking for $$$ or love? Looks like your looking at the present picture. The new bf could make lots of money after his career challenges are over.
The old bf could get himself all wrapped up in a hurricane again and fly away again. If the religion things didn't bother your relationship in the first place, no reason for it to hurt now either.
No one can make your choice for you except your own heart.
2006-10-21 05:34:07 · answer #2 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it's not like your ex cheated on you or anything, I would choose your ex because obsession really does lead to psychotic acts. Slowly end your relationship with your current boyfriend and pick up where you left off with your ex. Good luck babe!
2006-10-21 05:30:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you also are a Jehovah's Witness, you must not marry one. The Scriptures clearly discourage such marriages.
(Exodus 23:32) You are not to conclude a [marriage or other] covenant with them or their gods.
(Deuteronomy 7:3) And you must form no marriage alliance with [unbelievers]. Your daughter you must not give to his son, and his daughter you must not take for your son.
(1 Corinthians 7:39) She is free to be married to whom she wants, only in the Lord.
(Nehemiah 13:25) You should not give your daughters to [the unbeliever's] sons, and you should not accept any of their daughters for your sons or yourselves.
(2 Corinthians 6:14) Do not become unevenly yoked with unbelievers.
Learn more:
http://www.watchtower.org/library/w/1999/2/15/article_01.htm
2006-10-21 07:10:39 · answer #4 · answered by achtung_heiss 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take a step back...you are already in a relationship. Explain yourself to your bf and let him know that he is kinda smothering you. Give it some more time and your ex should be respecting your current relationship. If you think that you are torn, break up with your bf if you think you might be too emotionally attached to your ex...
2006-10-21 05:38:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
For me, u dont have to compare which one is the best one.. U know yourself which one u love..Is not about which one is the best.. Sometimes, u just can't imagine you falls for a guy that you can't even imagine it which is not even match your type.. Just ask your heart and make the wise decision.Good luck
2006-10-21 05:39:04 · answer #6 · answered by natalie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Money shouldn't have anything to do with how you feel about each of them. Which one can you see spending your life with? The only person who knows this answer is you
2006-10-21 05:29:52 · answer #7 · answered by mightymight 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. Ive been there. Youll be fine. If he shows any signs of violence to you or anyone else then youshould worry. The boys just dramatic & in love.
2006-10-21 05:35:02 · answer #8 · answered by Baby Jack born 4/5/09 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well to be honest i dont really think anyone else can answer this question for you bcuz if people tell you to back to your ex and you do.. you might regret it.. but i think you should just go with your heart who do you really want to be with.. and no money shouldnt matter.. bcuz if you go back with your ex just for money you never know he could go broke.. so really its who you really want to be with not who other people think you should be with..!!
2006-10-21 05:31:56 · answer #9 · answered by *POPCORN* 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go with the person you would trust the most. the one you think will be there when you are hurt, sick, or one of your family members are sick. the one you know wouldnt cheat on you. the one you think about the most. and the one see and hear when they arent there. then you will know who is the one.
2006-10-21 05:38:48 · answer #10 · answered by fdsa jkl; 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋