sounds crazy but i am seeing a married man we love each other and because of situations neither is willing to live right now....can we really have a relationship just us and understand and wait through each others situations....I really love him but am begining to think he is full of dog poo...but maybe not...i would walk today...he is trying to finish up some things....
2006-10-21 05:05:20 · 26 answers · asked by always helpful 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
wow sounds familiar but please understand he is not leaving his wife! and if he is do you really want him -- you know how he does things and more than likely he will do it again.
i am sure he loves you and you love him but neither of you are truly capable of loving each other in the sense that you wll give up everything to be with each other.
you both need to come clean with your partners and move on and find happiness.
its easier said then done but ask yourself -- you say your married as well -- how would you feel if your spouse did this to you?
2006-10-21 05:56:51 · answer #1 · answered by Lisa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im sorry that you are in this horrible situation. Studies show that people cheat on their husbands/wifes always having the EXCUSE that things are not good at home. Seems like you are also in a relationship? Well, IF things are really bad, you and HIM (married guy) really need to get out of the STORY BOOK you are in w/the others!
THEN, YOU CAN START A NEW STORY BOOK OF YOUR OWN TOGETHER!
I know someone this happened to, and it came back around to them later, so be careful, that CARMA thing is SO TRUE, don't mean to tell you what to do, BUT FOR MAKING THINGS RIGHT----
You and HIM need to let the other two go! This life is too short to keep them committed to you guys, you know what I'm sayin?
I am so sorry for you, this must be a difficult time. But, I would do something about it TODAY.
Like you said, YOU WOULD WALK TODAY, PLEASE DO. LET THAT PERSON GO. ITS TIME OUT OF THEIR PRECIOUS LIFE! And THEN, I WOULD GIVE THE MARRIED MAN AN ULTIMATUM! THAT HE HAS TO DO IT TO, HE CAN FINISH UP TODAY!
DO WHAT YOU FEEL IS RIGHT IN YOUR HEART.
I really think that if he is doing this to his wife- he might do something like hurtful to you too. HE COULD HAVE GOT A DIVORCE AS SOON AS HE KNEW HE WOULD NOT KEEP HIS VOW, That way he would have not broken it. That's a big one. So, that's why I think he might not do what he says to you?
BESIDES WHAT ELSE DOES HE WANT TO FINISH UP/ is it more hurtful things to his wife?
If he says she is a B.... She should have been told by him that there was a problem. Most people who get cheated on actually started acting grouchy because they sense an affair, that's why the CLOSING THE BOOK IS SO IMPORTANT.
I hope that you'll make the right decision....
I think you'll feel alot better.
AND FIND OUT IF HE IS SERIOUS TOO.
good luck
2006-10-21 05:46:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not. Cheating is cheating. Physically, emotionally, or whatever. Even if he did leave his wife for you, it wouldn't last past the initial novelty period (usually about 2 yrs.). And then he would do the same thing to you. Men that cheat do it over and over again. It's like an addiction. It boosts their self esteem and they get the sexual variety they often crave. They want that 'in love' feeling that a new relationship or a 'mistress on the side' gives them. It wears off, darling. And these situations rarely work out for the person in your shoes. Think about what you would be doing to his wife. Does she know what an S.O.B. her DH is? He may paint her as 'not understanding' him, or being a shrew, or not being able to meet his needs, etc. Those are all lies he tells himself to justify his own guilt. If you believe he is truly interested in you (not just the sex, or the thrill of having his cake and eating it too) tell him you will only consider pursuing a relationship with him if he goes through 6 mos. - 1 yr. of intense marriage counseling with his wife. Do not see or talk to him in the meantime.
My advice - go play the lottery instead - the odds would be more in your favor.
2006-10-21 06:00:08 · answer #3 · answered by greyrider 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not all men struggle to be monogamous. You seem to be under the impression that wanting to have sex with multiple women is innate or unavoidable for men. This is not true. That desire is not something men are born with. It is a choice. Not saying that men won't notice or find other women attractive, but if you find someone who loves you as a person then they won't want to be with any other woman sexually. Media and society will have you think that monogamy is a thing of the past and not 'natural' but the fact of the matter is that its a choice. Its not something that men are born with or with out that they cant help. If you keep searching you will find someone that wants to be with you. Because there is only one you in the entire universe. (As cheesy as that may sound it is true. No one on this earth shares your DNA. There fore you are genuinely unique and there is no one else that can measure up to be who you are) And when that person realizes those characteristics in you that only you have and loves and accepts them they will make the choice that you are the only one they want to be with forever. Hope this helps.
2016-05-22 07:42:40 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, you can do whatever you want, and you can cover it with as much BS as you can find. You'll still be wrong and we'll still think you're lower than pond scum.
I would walk today..never should have taken that first step, and you won't walk today, or tomorrow, or the day after that either. You are too damn spineless and self centered. Stay with this guy, at least that way you won't move on to the next married guy and wreck that family too.
2006-10-21 05:50:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't say if you were married. With that said HELL NO you can not have a monogamous relationship with a married man. One of you will step over the line he is just waiting for you to give in.
2006-10-21 05:09:54 · answer #6 · answered by playwithit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're seeing a married man and being monogamous, then that man would have to be your husband. If you're waiting for this guy, you'll grow old and prune up before that happens. Walk away.
2006-10-21 05:09:52 · answer #7 · answered by infernal_seamonkey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you are in love with a married man....Ask yourself? What can a married man do for you that a single man can't do? When you have holidays, you are with who your family or him and your family, and he is with who his family without YOU....What can a married man do for you? When you are in love, you want that man with you at all times.....So think about it, when you are in the bed alone at night and you just want him to be in your arms, does he show up or do you just sleep alone wishing he were there.....How about when you really need to talk to him to calm your nerves is he there for you at all times.....My guess is, if he is married he will never be there like you want him to be......Tell him to leave his wife and be with you if you two are so much in love....If he loves you, he will leave his wife.....Just remember, when you fall into the category as his wife is to him now be prepared for him to do you just as he is doing his wife......Find a single man.....there are some good ones out there....you will find him just like you found the married one....GOOD LUCK!!!
2006-10-21 05:24:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anastacia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes!
If both parties are willing to wait for the other, Love is Love, and it has an never ending limit of how many we can Love
2006-10-21 05:09:57 · answer #9 · answered by Alex 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is full of dog pooh and so are you.
You can't be monogomous if you are with two men. If you are truly unhappy with your marriage then you should leave. It is not fair to your husband for you to hang on just until something better comes along. Either fix your marriage or leave and let your husband have a chance at happiness.
2006-10-21 05:42:47 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋