even thou we have been married for 12 years most of them happy she thinks i must of strayed because most men do she is driving me to it please help
2006-10-21 05:04:14 · 34 answers · asked by malcom c 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Stay cool...I don't know her age but women often go through periods where they feel a liitle less hot than they were, perhaps insecure or paranoid...
You need to be (not reassuring with words) actioning on how much you love her and making her feel that she is all that you need...
Ride it out and rise above it sweets
2006-10-21 05:09:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Oh heck, there are some women who are never happy,she will either drive you to be unfaithful or to drink, tell her straight that you have had enough of listing to her, having someone rave on about things that are not true drives you nuts, the guy i was with for 15 years did that to me,always accused me of being unfaithful, even with the gay guy across the road, and all the time he was.............hope you can convince her that she is wrong, or she is going to make your life miserable, good luck hope that all will work out for you..........god bless.
2006-10-21 08:04:29 · answer #2 · answered by donua1022 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is an interesting question because I am always "nagging" my husband about if he has ever been unfaithful, but in my heart I know he never has been and never will be. So, if your wife is anything like me, she is probably wanting you to assure her that you love her. Maybe even looking for some attention and just overall reassurance. If you have never given her any reason to cheat, then she probably knows in her heart that you really haven't. Just give her the attention she needs, always tell her how much you love her and how happy you are with her.
2006-10-21 05:07:54 · answer #3 · answered by usmcwife722 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hello Malcom,
Please don't use this as an excuse to actually be unfaithful, because once trust has gone you may never get it back. It might be that she just needs constant reassurance and if that's the case it's most likely that she feels bad about her self and can't understand why her lovely husband loves her the way he does. Perhaps you could get her to have some counselling as a joint thing so you can sort the issues out. This might be possible through your GP or privately. Or if you have a works contract with ICAS. Anyway best wishes from me AND PLEASE JUST LOVE HER WITH HER INSECURITY'S.
2006-10-21 06:10:52 · answer #4 · answered by : 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
FIRST - do not use her insecurities to justify cheating on her. It is not fair to say "she is driving me to it" and it sounds like you want to do it when you blame t all on her. It is a COMPLETE cop-out!!!
SECOND - There comes a time and place when you have to give her the coversation to end this constant accusation. If you have nothing to be questioned you have to tell her ; "Either you trust me or you dont" .
Trust is the biggest part of a relationship - if it isnt there, it leaves too much room for questions. Take her feeling seriously - she has a reason why she is questioning this. Listen, TALK, and listen some more - seek help if you have to. But dont let go of it;'s important need of being resolved!!!
2006-10-21 05:45:20 · answer #5 · answered by litlbigdg 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I did exactly what you said. My wife had an affair ten years ago. She left me for awhile, continued her affair and actually asked me for a divorce. He relationship with the new guy fell apart fast, and yes I took her back. We had two young boys. It hurt like hell, and I wanted revenge in the worst way because I wanted to show her what it felt like...but didn't. We are happy now, on our 20th anniversary this year, and our relationship is strong again. Good luck!
2016-05-22 07:42:29 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being a woman & also someone who has been cheated on, I feel that if youv'e never been dishonest w/her about the things that matter, then you shouldn't have to prove to her that your'e faithful. My ex was alway's accusing me of being unfaithful. I never was dishonest w/him & he never believed me. The end result was that he was the one cheating through our entire 10 years of marriage. The one that is doing the accusing is usually the one that is doing the cheating too! It's called projection. They're projecting their guilt & actions onto someone else to deflect their own issues.
2006-10-21 07:40:46 · answer #7 · answered by my_clancy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well the best thing is not to protest too much!just give it plain,and tell her she must know you by now,why would you want to?i think its just love and re assurance she needs,we all get bogged down in the day to day stuff and we forget who's special.dont give that she will drive me to it cr*p,im sure your man enough to take some insecurities from yr lady.if she carries on to the point where u cant take it anymore,look at yr options.1.put up with it 2.warn her its not doing you or yr relationship any good3.leave. good luck with her
2006-10-21 05:10:44 · answer #8 · answered by Mistress j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have to prove it then the trust has already gone from the relationship. You can use a lie detector but how resentful will YOU feel when you are proved innocent.
2006-10-21 06:23:12 · answer #9 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she is just feeling a little insecure, treat her to a romantic night out and give her some attention.
She is needing your reassurance and love right now show her how much you love her, flowers, cards, words, talking anything, It doesn't have to cost money just TIME.........(your time) why do we always have to tell men what women like :) good luck.
2006-10-21 22:55:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋