Honest. Is it really that important, is it worth those 999 questions we have to read here in YahooClever !? I think : NO !!! The first "ugly thing" a girl --- a thinking human being --- wants to get rid of is : Virginity ! Right ?! Do You agree ?!?!?
2006-10-21 04:51:50 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
No intelligent person gives a hoot about virginity.
If someone chooses to remain a virgin until marriage, then that's great. It's a personal choice.
To tell someone that they must remain a virgin until marriage is overstepping personal boundaries.
To consider someone to be spoiled goods if they are not a virgin is just a sign of ignorance and stupidity.
It is a personal value and no one else's to decide.
Sex with a virgin is pretty lame. It really is something to get out of the way when the time is right and the right time is, again, a personal value. There's a lot to be said for experience and knowledge. Someone needs to know what the heck they're doing. Still if two virgins have the right attitude, there's not stopping them from catching up with everyone else on knowledge.
2006-10-21 05:10:04 · answer #1 · answered by OU812 5 · 4⤊ 1⤋
There are a number of people who do care and people who don't give a damm. It depends on the person on how much they care. But in general, boys do make it a big deal when they are young about their virginity. It seems like it is a rite of passage for some odd reason. For a women, I don't really know cause I am not a women, but do get an impression that they aren't all to concern about their virginity than meeting Mr. right or profession, or money, or status, or wealth. However, guys really don't care if she is a virgin or not as long as she is available and loveable, but they knows a virgin is more likely going to be tighter than the ones who already have had sex, which guys like tightness than loose ones for some reason, cause I don't know since I am an almost 35 year old virgin. One thing good about being a virgin is that the person has a good chance of having no STD and may be faithful. Remember, a guy penis hard on does decline as he ages which is probably why they are in a panic about getting laid early as possible. Usually starts to wane around 30 years old or so, I think, and it sucks to know that it means your getting older and the body will change accordingly. I hope I answered your question you wanted.
2006-10-21 10:00:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK. I'm not a boy, but I don't care. I know boys pretty well and I know men pretty well, and really, though you are still a kid yourself you should ask these sorts of questions of men-- not boys! Boys don't know what the heck they like. They are likely more confused than you are!
I'm not suggesting you should be involved with men instead of boys. I'm suggesting that you ask men these questions, but focus on yourself (getting to know you, getting a good education, etc.) and avoid an intimate or romantic relationship with the opposite sex until those boys grow into men! Believe me there is a wonderful improvement with males when they hit about 30!
You should also know that you're way off base about virginity. Why would you ever consider virginity a negative or "nasty" thing? Only if intelligence and maturity are nasty things as well. Only if being in charge of your own life is a nasty thing, because it takes an intelligent and mature lady to create the right environment and to wait for the right relationship for an enjoyable and memorable "first time". Choose carefully! If you are not careful that first time could taint your entire sex life for the rest of your life!
You could run out right now and give yourself to some guy that only cares about getting laid, but is good at pretending he cares about you. But who couldn't? That is an easy thing to do.
Or you could take care of yourself, your health, your dignity, and your life by making a wise and mature choice-- eventually.
So, "Does anyone care about virginity?"
It's your virginity...
YOU SHOULD!
I tell you this because I hope you make a better decision than I did!
I tell you this because I care.
2006-10-21 05:13:33 · answer #3 · answered by DidoDeeDee 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It is a nice novelty, but when looking for a compatible "other", a small piece of skin has little to do with it. I'm more concerned about the person's nature and sense of self. A sense of humour; a warmth a welcoming smile; a sparkle - even sense of mischief - in the eyes; a firm sense of self - for myself, these are far more important features than whether or not a person is a virgin.
2006-10-21 05:18:10 · answer #4 · answered by ♫kanis.lupus♫ 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No.
Virginity isn't the be-all and end-all, but to know that a girl has selected you to be the first one in her life is quite a gift. Not being a virgin shouldn't be seen as a negative. But to be a virgin is a definite plus.
You always remember the first time.
2006-10-21 04:55:56 · answer #5 · answered by langdonrjones 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Forgive me, but you're not thinking.
It is not a popular thing to say today in our Western gynocentric society, but the prize in sex is the female. The prize doesn't give itself away.
From time immemorial, men and women have used love and sex to get the other - but oppositely. By that I mean, men offer the prospect of love as a way to get sex, and women offer the prospect of sex to get love. The female is the ultimate judge: she can accept or reject. Yet with the decision comes responsibility.
If virginity is repugnant to you, nothing I will say here will have any affect on your behaviour. You will end up beneath some boy whose only interest is to use you as a receptacle for his amorous notions of the moment. He will not love you, and for it you will feel used and hurt. To my way of thinking, it's a self-inflicted injury. And you will be the one responsible. Your decision, remember?
Ask your mother what she thinks. It may surprise you, but she was a girl your age once; had the same feelings. Give it a try. What have you got to lose...?
2006-10-21 05:30:51 · answer #6 · answered by DBG 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think you need to do more thinking here. It is important, not just for girls but for boys too. Since when is it an "ugly thing"? That tells me something is very wrong with your morals.
Retaining ones virginity is respect for self, respect for ones beliefs, honoring God, honoring self and not setting yourself up for disease and emotional trauma. If you don't know that, you don't know much.
2006-10-21 05:06:48 · answer #7 · answered by MadforMAC 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If the male is a virgin, which is more common these days, he would also want a girl who is a virgin to share the experience with upon marriage. God bless
2006-10-21 04:54:38 · answer #8 · answered by ? 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think adolescents think like that, it's seen as a rite of passage I suppose, greatly influenced I would add by the media/propaganda, but if you lose it too soon with someone you don't really care about or they don't really care about you then I think you'll feel 'used' and wish you'd waited a bit longer.
2006-10-21 04:57:31 · answer #9 · answered by Dan 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Frankly speaking NO one likes to have a used car. Therefore, virginity is a prime thing. You are sure, the girl b4 you is a real girl.
2006-10-21 07:06:09 · answer #10 · answered by MY Regards to All 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋