I love my husband and we have a great relationship. We've been together for almost 10 yrs and have been married for 4 1/2 yrs. He's been working about 54 hrs a wk and taking an intense class to be an EMT. It's 9 hrs of class per wk, but it requires a lot of studying and homework as well.
I know it's selffish, but I miss him and we aren't having sex much because he's so exhausted. He hasn't been sleeping much. I was wondering if anyone has any ideas of what I can do to make him feel better and maybe more in the mood to have sex...I think I would help him destress. Serious answers please.
2006-10-21 04:33:27 · 12 answers · asked by Rwebgirl 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes, yes that definitely would help destress him :) You've gotta be spontaneous with it, like right when he gets home or something. Maybe intice it with a great ensemble from Victoria's Secret. He couldn't resist! As far as other sweet things aside from sex, maybe offer a foot massage while he's studying or a back rub right before he goes to sleep.
2006-10-21 04:59:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If I was in your situation, I wouldn't pressure him too much for it will cause more stress and possibly a strain on the marriage. Ask him does he have a day to relax. He he says no, tell him to take a few hours away from studying to refresh his mind and body. Once he does that cuddle with him and then go with the flow. Think it about this way once he finishes his EMT class, he will have plenty time for you. Good Luck.
2006-10-21 11:43:11 · answer #2 · answered by Shay 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a nice dinner just the two of you. Then after dinner give him a show. Sit him down and tell him all he can do till YOU tell him otherwise is watch. Start pleasuring yourself...how far you go and for how long is up to you....and he can not move till you say so. If you can time it right just before you are about to orgasm tell him to come over beside you and give him a BJ as you orgasm....he will never forget it trust me. what ever you decide to do...just make sure its something that you will enjoy too....its a BIG turn on for a guy to know that his partner is really into what is happening....not that they are just doing it for them.
Have fun *S*
2006-10-21 11:45:26 · answer #3 · answered by oldman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you are not selfish. You are human, and you miss intimate time with your husband. Couple time is just as important as his studies. Communication is key. The two of you need to talk, and don't use words that sound as if you're laying blame--"you" do/don't do. Don't drag any other issues into it. You are both seeking an answer to "this" concern together.
2006-10-21 11:56:49 · answer #4 · answered by Joy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't really know that there is much that you can do beings that he has to do it all with the job and school and studying. Maybe you are working too so that he doesn't have to work as much and hopefully you are doing all the housework to free up his time. Just be there for him, have things ready for him, and wait. Eventually, he won't be in school and studying and working so much, then you won't have this problem.
2006-10-21 11:41:26 · answer #5 · answered by ltlchk_2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him a massage while he's studying, then after about 5 minutes into the massage, start kissing his neck, that might do the trick.
2006-10-21 11:42:18 · answer #6 · answered by Jennifer S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get dressed up nice for him...cook a nice dinner....massage will help him relax. He's concentrating on your future together...good for him....Men have never been very good at multi tasking...enjoy the sex when you get it....and buy yourself a good vibrator for when he's not up to it...!! Watching you use it on yourself will probably help him unwind and may put him in the mood! Rent a nice porno for the two of you to enjoy....men love those!
2006-10-21 11:39:53 · answer #7 · answered by Lynne B 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The next opportunity he has let turn off his alarm and let him sleep in. He has to be rested up first. Then fix him breakfast in bed with a little dessert:)
2006-10-21 11:36:18 · answer #8 · answered by Jewells 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just be there for him in every way possible and don't nag him too much.
(receiving long back massages are a good way to unwind)
***Almost Forgot***... Don't talk about finances, bills or what you want to buy when he is stressed. (my wife does that... GRRRR!)
2006-10-21 11:38:30 · answer #9 · answered by BORED AT WORK 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
How about a porn movie......that usually gets a guys motor running. And they don't have to watch the whole thing, there isn't much plot to them anyway. Another thing that might spice it up for you is to get sex toys into the action.
Good luck................
2006-10-21 11:37:52 · answer #10 · answered by Lori1 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋