Ok, i'll try to make this short. I am happily married with kids, work closely with this women (because of the type of job i have), who is about 15yrs older than me, I go out after work sometimes, my husband has NO issues with it. I've also recently become really good friends with this guy at work, NOTHING SEXUAL at all, just a good friend, whom my husband also knows about. Well yesterday at work I invited this guy to sit with us at lunch. About 2hrs later, still at work, this woman and I go out for a break, she completely went crazy on me, in front of alot of ppl too! Said she will NEVER sit with him and I again, I'm embarrassing myself, said she heard I was doing drugs..etc. Its was horrible and i have no idea where it came from. Now because of all the ppl around I'm afraid rumors are going to start. I did defend myself, but now how can I work with her? I am so mad and hurt. What is wrong with her????
2006-10-21 04:12:18 · 9 answers · asked by wer_l_idieh 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I think shes a lesbian and has a crush on u. when u sat with that guy she got pissed. IM SERIOUSE!!!
2006-10-21 04:20:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe something could be going on between her and this guy that you don't know about or maybe she knows something about him that you don't. Try talking to her about what happened when the two of you are alone. If she keeps on with this type of behavior or starts harrissing you, let HR know. Don't discuss what happened with other co-workers, it'll only make matters worse. Since you're happily married, you want to stay that way. So, keep this really good male friend at a distance.
2006-10-21 16:10:15 · answer #2 · answered by merry59 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make a complaint to HR. She made incriminating statements and slandered your name which can affect your professional reputation at work. Do not discuss this with anyone else at work - only HR. If other co-workers ask you about it, say, "I'm sorry, I can't discuss it, but the issue has been properly addressed." If the crazy woman brings it up again, calmly walk away. Let HR deal with it. That is one of the things they get paid to do.
2006-10-21 11:37:04 · answer #3 · answered by eightieschic 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
shes a loon, a phsyco lol. just stick with your real freinds and be professional. But you should also talk it out with her, in person, away from work. there is no need to investigate about the rumors, because people are people and you dont need to explain anything to anyone unless you want to.
hope i helped/ made ya feel better hun
2006-10-21 11:18:35 · answer #4 · answered by MiSz_Amanda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well that is hard to answer without her side of the story , but becuase she is 15 years older than you she probably sees things differently than you do and you shuold'nt be hanging out with other men . evently you will give in and ruin not only your marrage but your kids morale in life as well
2006-10-21 11:21:26 · answer #5 · answered by heather g 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If everyone in the world lived by the golden rule(treat people the way you would like to be treated)(do unto others as you would like done to yourself) what a great world this would be.
2006-10-21 11:15:45 · answer #6 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not a good idea to become friends with a male co-worker...
2006-10-21 11:14:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds lyk a psycho to ME! Do you by ne chance work in an asylum?
2006-10-21 11:14:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she doesn't have the same notion that it is acceptable to have men as just friends.
you didn't see it coming, now you're stuck with the situation.
2006-10-21 11:29:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋