We share fantasies sometimes, the other day she told me she has been having mfm fantasies. I am not very well endowed, and sometimes lack at what it takes to satisfy her. I can tell she is fustrated with my size. She told me the fantasy included me, but should I still be concern?
2006-10-21 04:01:22 · 17 answers · asked by Steve J 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Lol...I have the same fantasy. I think a lot of girls do. There's just no other way to get DP'd and i do want to try that................
2006-10-21 04:24:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a guy I can see where you would be concerned. In the endowment dept. I'm average but sometimes still have a problem during regular intercourse satisfiying my wife. At this point in time you shouldn't freak too much as long as the fantasy still includes you. In my opinion I'd want to try my best to make her forget the other man in the fantasy. I had to "learn" my wife and it took me a while to admit that it may not be all her that was causing the mutual frustration. My suggestion to you is to find other ways to stimulate her (use your imagination). Get her to that happy place and right before get on and ride her home! (Okay, that last part was just a joke.) If you get her arroused enough beforehand I'm betting in a lot of instances it will make up for your "shortcomings" This all assuming you haven't done the above.
2006-10-21 11:17:35 · answer #2 · answered by TxCZshooter 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's fantasy then don't worry. Many women have that fantasy. Would you be worried if she wanted another woman? Best thing now is to get a "toy" and use it on her while you are together so you have that 2nd man there. Unless she is out looking for a man behind your back, I wouldn't worry. Be happy she feels open enough to tell you something like that and is willing to role play. A lot of women won't.
2006-10-21 11:10:17 · answer #3 · answered by ~*~frankie~*~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wonder if maybe your more frustrated with your size than she is. It truly isn't about size. It's how you use what you have that matters. A lot of women have that fantasy. It doesn't mean we act on it though. I've had it myself. I'm in my 40's. It is a turn on to think about it but in truth the one I love makes me happy and he's all I need. It's just fun to have the fantasy. Why don't you surprise her tonight and in the process of making love, gently cuff or tie her wrists and place a blind fold on her eyes. Then enjoy an evening of sexy teasing, exploring, playing ... take the upper hand. She'll probably love that. It never has to be boring. Best wishes to you.
2006-10-21 11:07:27 · answer #4 · answered by Night Wind 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh hey wait here,Your size no way it is not the size and this is coming from a girl who has had a few men in her life.The fantasy no biggie dont worry,you have to find your wifes G spot you do that it will be amazing.its not too far in it will be to the right or left you can feel it focus once you bring it out it will be easier to find thats how woman orgasm inside and you can hit it with your penis while having intercourse it makes intercourse way better for the woman.Ok I say this cause I dated a man with a smaller penis he knew where to find this spot and I tell you all was great with the world I never look at a man for the size its true its how you use it sweetheart.
2006-10-21 11:15:54 · answer #5 · answered by maryann c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you aren't the biggest guy in the world ,,,,, So sometimes you have to improvise ,,,,, Play and experiment ,,,, find out what trips her trigger ,,,,, Just might turn out to be several things ,,,,, But just let her know that you are trying and want to find something or things that work for her ,,,,It would most likely turn out to be fun for you too ,,,,But as her partner it's your duty and responsibility ,,,,Fantasies can be fun ,,,, talk to her about them ,,,,, see what you can come up with ,,,,, Your sex life together is your own so If you love her then there isn't anything you should be afraid to do as long as in doesn't result in injury or other people ,,,,,,
2006-10-21 11:19:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for it...are you secure with your relationship...even though youre not secure with your down belows??? do you satisfy her?? Who's to say that the other bloke will have a large &^*%?? If having her fullfill her fantasy is something you dont want to do then talk openly with her about it before entering into it.. Is this a one off thing that she wants or regular? Consider swinging...would she have a problem seeing you with another women? How would you feel about that??
2006-10-21 11:50:04 · answer #7 · answered by Lynne B 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
oh no never be concerned about size. I'm quit sure you are talented else where. let her keep her fantasy. I'm very sure that she understands your self consciousness. Don't let it bother you. Just enjoy the fact she wants you included.
Everyone has fantasies.
2006-10-21 11:20:59 · answer #8 · answered by Gina K 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You might investigate exactly what she wants, and exactly whether it's one of those secret-garden fantasies that she doesn't want realized in the real world or whether she actually wants it to happen. Don't worry in any event, she's got you in the fantasy. Just facilitate to the extent you can. Good luck.
2006-10-21 11:07:55 · answer #9 · answered by David W 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not be concerned. My fantasies are way worse than those, sometimes they dont even include my husband and he knows about them, hes not concered though. Hes told me that his fantasies sometimes dont include me, Im not worried. We are the ones that always end up in bed together.
Its very possible to have a MMF 3some and NOT be gay. Its insane to think that that makes you gay.
I completely disagree with only having MFF, that means you would only allow a 3 way for your pleasure and not your wifes. Talk about double standards, its okay for you to get your wish but not for your wife to hers.
2006-10-21 11:48:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋