I have a friend, who i've been friends with for about 3 years. About a year ago she got interested in this guy she hadnt seen in a while, so she got me to act as go between them. problem is she also got another girl to do the same thing, so the plan backfired and he fell for the other girl. the guy then wrote her a letter and told her he didnt have feelings for her, and blamed me saying i;d lied to her about him liking her. then him and the other girl hooked up behind her back. i'm in a dilemma on whether to tell her that this is what happened and ruin their friendship or risk her losing 2 friendships and telling her.
please help me
2006-10-21 03:48:11 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You call them friends? Seems like you have been used as the scapegoat because they are not grown up enough to be honest. It is always easier to blame someone else rather than take responsibility for our own actions.
2006-10-21 03:53:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
friendships are worth so much more that boy friends and if she is truly your friend then she will understand this. no matter how much people try to blame you just remember that it isn't your fault! you were only trying to do the right thing as for what to do i think honesty is usually the best policy just be care full as there is a fine line between honesty and gossip! if i was you i would probably tell her the truth.
2006-10-21 03:53:50 · answer #2 · answered by Jo S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She deserves the truth. It may hurt for a while, but she will respect you more for being honest with her and telling her. Tell her everything you know, or it could backfire on you!
2006-10-21 03:50:49 · answer #3 · answered by JJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her the truth. If it ends badly which it probably will you need to move on and accept it for what it is and that you did the right thing. IT IS WHAT IT IS and that is it.
cheers darlin
2006-10-21 03:53:23 · answer #4 · answered by scully_22ps 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are the little bit of cheese interior the sandwich are not you. you have 2 depressing acquaintances who unload all their issues on you and you attempt to help them and sympathise with them. Do they do a similar for you once you have problems with your very own? does not sound like it. interior the period in-between, mutually as they are moaning on approximately their issues to you, you're figuring out on up on their misery and starting to be to be depressing your self. melancholy is catching like a disease you recognize! buddy A sounds particularly egocentric. She dumps her issues on each and every physique via the sound of it. once you choose to communicate to her she's continually speaking with others - so she does not see you as lots of a pal as you do her. She spreads her misery around. whilst she DOES choose you that is once you're speaking to buddy B who she does not like. She subsequently has a tantrum. What does this do different than for making you sense responsible and unhappy? no longer something - top? i may well be vulnerable to relax it with the two one among them - yet extremely buddy A. It sounds like they are the two utilizing you. you apart from mght sound somewhat clingy while you're 'springing up emotions for buddy B'. I presume those are no longer sisterly emotions or friendly emotions. might desire to be somewhat of your very own melancholy. enable them to the two choose for the 2d. do no longer attempt and resolve their issues for them. you will never have the flexibility to do this and that they are telling you approximately them by way of fact they simply choose to unload. proceed to be completely independent and if buddy A starts attempting to manage you returned once you communicate with facebook, in simple terms say 'you're the two my acquaintances and that i admire you the two'. If she will't hack that then that is HER situation, no longer yours.
2016-10-15 06:30:04 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her the trueth, if she is a true friend to you she will accept this and you can both move on if she still blames you she is not a true friend friends stand by one another no matter what.
2006-10-21 04:15:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell the truth don't get mixed up in other peoples problems
2006-10-21 03:55:59 · answer #7 · answered by nancy_habershon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your friend is going to let a guy come between ya'll then she's not a true friend just like that.
2006-10-21 03:54:52 · answer #8 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just tell the truth
and if things dont get better just leave
2006-10-21 03:52:02 · answer #9 · answered by nonni xxxxxxx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't get involved at all.
Just leave it for them to sort out!
2006-10-21 04:01:47 · answer #10 · answered by Luv Thy Neighbour! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋