im thinking about having sex for the first time with a friend is it wrong to have sex with a friend ?

Question

here is my situation im around 20 years of age and still a virgin im getting urges to just feel loved and having someone to hold me and spend tome with me i have thoughts about having sex with a close friend that i have known for a very long time is it normal to feel nervous and shy about my body ? iam so curious

Answer 1

Your very lucky to still be a virgin. I was trying my hardest to wait till I was married but that didnt happen. But you need to wait and dont even think about having sex with your friend b/c it could or will tare up your friendship and you will get hurt in the end. The first time after you have sex your emotions are going to go wild your going to feel sick to your stomach ask your self why did you do it and its going to be uncomfortable too . I would wait hunny till you find that right guy that you know you will be with and can trust and have no regrets.

Answer 2

It's very normal for people to feel shy about their bodies, no matter how much sexual experience they have. It's also normal to be curious. The problem with choosing a friend as a sex partner is that your risk losing the friendship for what (especially if it's your first time) will only be a few seconds of pleasure. Sex and love aren't the same thing. If it were, there wouldn't be any prostitutes. Although ideally people who are couples should be friends, it is not the same thing as the love someone feels for a friend. Sex only has something to do with love, when you have sex with a person you're in love with. Often young people who experiment with each other sexually end up feeling awkward around each other afterward. Sometimes one will develop feelings (most sexually bases but mistaken for love) that the other doesn't share that feeling. Jealousy can also play a big factor when friend experiment with each other. How would either of you feel seeing the other with some new sex partner? It may feel hard to wait for someone you have true loving (not friendship) feelings for, but that's probably the best advice anyone could give you. In the end, you'll look back at that friend, you've had for a lifetime, and be glad you did.

Answer 3

It's OK to feel nervous and shy, but you are just getting the sex, not necessarily the love

Answer 4

http://www.nvsh.nl/Website_Engels/Texts/Sexual_Information/Basics/Skills_1.htm

It is possible to have a LOT of sexy fun without intercourse, such as oral sex. If you just want to have fun, use birth contro, people who don't are called
"parents."
http://advancedmasturbation.com/
I gave you that to show you how to pleasure a bf without having intercourse!
Having sex will not neccessarily, by itself, make things better unless you are ready. Make sure that you are!
http://www.sexuality.org
http://www.sexuall.org
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kegels
http://www.my-penis.org/
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sex_organ
http://www.healthysex.com/index.html
http://www.teenrelationships.org
Take care of yourself, and if you read these things, you will know how, and how to have fun!!!
Do you know how different some of your female friends are from one another? Guys are just as different from one another. If one does not work out,
there is another, and unless you are real lucky it takes a while, and you must date (but not neccessarily have sex with) a lot of them.

Answer 5

It is no problem to have sex if you are married. The best thing to do is wait until you find that one you wish to marry.

Answer 6

If you two want to stay friends I advise you not to. Once you do you will see the other side of your friend and you may not like it.

Answer 7

I sleep with my friends all the time, bot h men and women. I have a saying with my girlfriends: A s long as I have a face, you have a place to sit.

Answer 8

nothing is wrong with it, i did it and it was the best thing i could have done...better that just having sex with anyone

Answer 9

hi my name is martha. i am 16. i lost my virginity this past september. i really regret it.

my parents had gone to a marriage and so i was all alone for a whole month. i had a msn friend whome i had never seen(i had seen hime only in the dislpay pics.). he was a rich orphan of 19. he invited me over to his house for a night. he lived a block away from my place. he had long bronze color hair and was really sexy.

he took me to his room which was filled with nude girl pictures. he lit a cigerite and started smoking, he filled 2 glasses of whiskey and offered me one. he got me drunk, switched on some music and locked the door. he pulled off my skirt and panty and then my top and bra. then he stripped himself. he was already wearing a condom. he threw me on his water-bed and put himself inside me. it pained like hell. he kissed me and bit my nipple. he kept fingering me and he bit me on my neck from where blood started coming out. we were like this the whole nightr and in the morning he came to leave me in his car.

while getting off he pulled me back and we started again(this time without a condom). he used to call me every single afternoon and had sex with him slept over and came back home in the morning. twice or thrice i stayed for 2 days continueosly, having a bath together and all that. my parents came to know that i had sex with him as his neighbors had seen us and were my dad's friends. and till today my parents are not talking to me properly and they never leave me alone.

i really regret having sex with that boy cause after i told him that my dad knows he ditched me. i lost my virgininy to a person whom i really didnt know. please use a condom while having sexual intercourse and have it with some one u know.

thanks for reading

- martha

Answer 10

if u want to keep ur friendship, then I wouldnt