Hey well First of I am not gay, bi, curious or anything else like that. I don't know what the hell happened. I was hanging out talking with her dad got really drunk, and the next morning I woke up naked in bed with him. I know what you're gonna say that how do I know that we actually did anything together. Trust me I know. I wont say how, but I know. When I woke up, and realized what happened her dad was still asleep. I was just so frustrated that I pulled my dick out of him got dressed, and leave. I just don't know how I'm gonna explain it to my girl about what happened. I know that I screwed up big time. She really means alot to me though so I don't want to lose her. I was planning to ask her to marry me before this happened. Someone please help me!!! If anyone has ever been in a similar situation I'd really like to know how it went, and how you handled it.
2006-10-21 02:36:10 · 15 answers · asked by Josh Colgen 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
your gay
2006-10-21 02:38:30 · answer #1 · answered by mattool2002 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
This is really a serious situation. You don't mention your age or if you are underage. The bottom line is that it sounds as if you were sexually assaulted. You screwed up only by getting drunk. It sounds as if the father was the predator here, not you. The fact that you were drunk doesn't change that. Was the dad equally drunk? I think you might first want to get some counseling for the trauma you went through and then you might want to talk to her father first about what happened. The bottom line is: Do you feel safe going over to her house anymore? At some point, you'll need to tell your girlfriend. Has the father done this before I wonder? If he's a closet case and he's preying on young guys then he's a bigger problem for his family than you are...
2006-10-21 02:44:15 · answer #2 · answered by cheyennetomahawk 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
well you say that your not bi, or gay or anything like that. but even drunk people don't just sleep with someone for the same sex, more so in men.if they are not bi or gay. unless, a date rape drug was used. is there anyway this could have happened?? and did you know that her dad was bi? well, either way it happened. and now you need to tell your girl. first thing i would do is talk to her dad.maybe by talking to him you will get some answers as to how this happened. after talking to him you will be better prepared to talk to her. and i have to say i think that this will end your relationship with her. she is going to be hurt and angry. but you cant keep it a secret, you made a mistake now you have to deal with what comes from it. but as i said you really need to talk to her dad maybe he did use something on you. [drugs] i know that you are thinking no way her dad would not do that or no way her father knows nothing about that kind of stuff. well , don't be surprised you can get that kind of stuff any where.
2006-10-21 02:52:53 · answer #3 · answered by here to help 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you just discovered a side of you that even you may not have been aware existed! The decent thing to do will be to tell her what happened, and face the consequences like the man that I hope you are. Do not string her along while you are on the "Down Low" because that's what you are from here on. She deserves to know the truth about you and about her dad. If you don't know how it happened, then obviously her dad is what she might not know - on the down low!
2006-10-21 02:53:08 · answer #4 · answered by vanityspice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not even sure I know exactly what all this means... but if you're saying what I *think* you're saying, then the first thing you need to do is talk to her dad. Sit down and talk things out with him... see what he thinks and how he feels about it. Then you should determine what to do from there. If he's just as freaked about it as you are, then it may be best that you both just keep it quiet and not say anything to anybody about it. It will just be a humongous skeleton for you to keep in your closet... but it will save everyone involved (your girlfriend, her mom, the rest of their entire family, your family, etc.) a lot of heartache, confusion, and grief. Just keep this one locked up and tucked away, never to be brought up again. Make sure Dad agrees though, so that neither of you ever end up spilling the beans about it over a guilt trip. good luck!!!!! Dang that sucks....
2006-10-21 02:43:40 · answer #5 · answered by Jemmie Vee 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
hey, if you're really not a gay or bi, pls try to explain this issue to your girl. it's going to hurt if she finds out someday. somemore i think you shd let your gf know that her dad is strange coz he's making out with a guy. i don't care if he's drunk and did the wrong things but obviously, her dad is sick and definitely know what's going on even he's drunk. pls tell your girl truthfully.
2006-10-21 02:50:23 · answer #6 · answered by PoshBerries 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is anyone else noticing the young man says he pulled his own **** out of the dad?
Do your girl a favor and do not marry her.
2006-10-22 03:21:06 · answer #7 · answered by *babydoll* 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore what everyone else has put ... i think that unless her dad is going to tell her then you shouldn't/ yes its lying but in the long run you'll thank yourdelf for not telling because all it will result in is you and you girlfriend breaking up and humiliating you because she will think your gay or bi watever. gud luk x
2006-10-21 02:45:01 · answer #8 · answered by stef x 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Leave the country, swear celibacy and never live closer than 5 miles to farm animals again.
Forget about any relationship to this woman that would make it incest in addition to homosexuality.
2006-10-21 02:45:14 · answer #9 · answered by angle_of_deat_69 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
BABY YOU WILL RUINED HER LIFE TELLING HER ABOUT IT.FORGET THAT THIS EVER HAD PLACE IN YOUR LIFE.ACT IN FRONT HER FATHER LIKE NOTHING NEVER HAPPENED AND IF YOU WILL HAVE TO CONVINCE HER FATHER THAT YOU DON'T REMEMBER ANYTHING AND YOU SHOULD BELIEVE IN THAT TOO.ONE MORE THING..DON'T YOU EVER DRINK SO MUCH TO THE POINT WHEN YOU LOOSE CONTROL OVER YOUR SELF.AND DO EVERYTHING I WROTE ONLY IF YOU REALLY CARE ABOUT THAT PRECIOUS GIRL AND YOU PLANNING YOUR FUTURE WIT HER.
2006-10-21 02:47:47 · answer #10 · answered by kinga310 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy sounds like a sicko. Tell your girl what happened. Maybe your not the first boyfriend to have this happen to them.
2006-10-21 02:39:06 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋