My boyfriend has an uncircumsized penis. Sex with him is awesome, but I hate to go down on him, because it just SMELLS really BAD! It has been several months since I have gone down on him, because of this; but he ALWAYS goes down on me for like an hour and I feel bad.
I know that his bacterial smell comes from being uncircumsized and all, but I think he just may not know how to wash it right or something. I have even started taking baths with him, so I can wash it (in a sexual way, so he won't think I'm doing it cuz he doesn't wash it right.) I really want him to know how I feel but I'd hate to hurt his feelings or make him insecure. HOW DO I TELL HIM THAT HIS PENIS STINKS AND HE SHOULD WASH IT BETTER WITHOUT HURTING HIM????? Also, if ANY MEN have had this problem or know how they could handle being told, please help me and let me know.
2006-10-21 02:23:09 · 38 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Men's Health
You've made a start by washing him and having baths together. Just try to wash it in a way that does show it's for a reason, not just sexually. If there are any visible signs that he isn't washing properly, try pointing out that you think he could have a mild infection. He will surely ask why and you could point out what you can see, then say there is also a bit of a smell which you've noticed for a while. It's a very hard subject to raise! Even with an uncircumcised penis, it should never ever smell. My boyfriend's doesn't but then he is very hot on personal hygiene.
2006-10-21 02:26:51 · answer #1 · answered by claire 5 · 7⤊ 1⤋
It has to smell only because of somewhat improper hygiene and not an infection, because if it were an infection you would know. You really just need to tell him to wash it, or wash up before sex or something, but say it in a nice way.
If it's clean and doesn't smell after you take a bath together and you wash him, point it out how much more you like it after a bath and how you like how it smells and such then. If you're telling him outright, don't just say like "wash it because it stinks." If you tell him only negative things he's not likely to change and will probably be hurt. But tell him all the positive things you like about him and such, and just to do this one thing for you. Don't even suggest a circumcision because that might scare him and it's not fair to ask that of him anyway.
It's really easy to get rid of the smell if it's not an infection. He just needs to pull it back once a day when he showers and wash with water and mild soap like any other part of his body. If he pulls back his foreskin when he pees that also helps reduce the smell over long periods of time. It's okay to have a "natural" smell that's not usually overpowering, but if it's really smelly, then he needs to wash and you just need to tell him that, but in a nice loving way.
2006-10-21 05:31:22 · answer #2 · answered by trebla_5 6 · 6⤊ 0⤋
You seem like you really care about this guy and you are considerate of him---that is great..I was going to suggest bathing together but you have tried that. So, maybe you could tell him that you have noticed a smell when you go down and you are concerned with the health of his penis. Maybe ask him if he pulls back the skin and washes thoroughly. tell him that the last thing you want to do is insult him or hurt his feelings but you know that he could get a serious infection from the lack of penis cleaning. Ofcourse you could word things how you feel comfortable but tell him he needs to pay close attention to how he cares for his uncircumcised penis for there are medical problems that could occur. Explian to him you have put off talking to him about this bc you are concerned how he will take it and you don't mean any harm. Tell him you would love to go down more often but you are worried about the cleanliness of the act.
2006-10-23 04:59:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 7⤊ 0⤋
A female friend of mine in her late 40's says that the smell indicates that hes been with another woman or women, which makes sense as unfortunately there are many women who are not particularly that hygienic. I know everybody has a smell but there is a massive difference between natural and STINK!! And Eric dear a circumcised willy is nicer to look at when its not erect AND God made it a must to distinguish the Jews from the other peoples. (And just for those who are not familiar with history, please note that Jews are not just the people from Israel or Egypt in Biblical times either)
2016-03-18 22:26:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 4⤋
You may want to see a counselor who will invite your spouse with you and professionally advise him. You can also decide to tell him in a loving way by asking him to wash his 'thing' the way you are doing it for him. Then tell him the benefits of doing that without necessarily telling him his penis stinks. Anyway good luck.
2006-10-21 03:46:43 · answer #5 · answered by Eyajuda 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i think you have the right idea of taking a bath with him and washing his penis while you are both in the shower or bathtub but if you really want to do your self a favor why don't you ask him to have it circumsized and tell him its good for his healt and there are some news article regarding some kind of bad things for uncircumsized penis and one of them is that it stinks, or if he is scared of being circumsized there are way that it really will niot hurt him or if he does'nt want just keep on washing it before you have sex and tell him the truth, it may hurt but its the truth.
2006-10-21 02:39:50 · answer #6 · answered by livinhapi 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was going to suggest showering/bathing with him but you already do. Its a start!
If it was my husband I would just tell him straight up but we have that kind of relationship, I tell him often especially after work that he stinks and to go wash. I would expect he would say the same to me if he had a problem with my hygiene.
Its a hard question cause some people are a bit sensitive, good luck with how you go about it.
2006-10-21 02:53:57 · answer #7 · answered by lividuva 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriend is uncircumsized as well and i have never had a problem with his penis smelling bad. If it is due to poor hygene take showers with him before giving him oral sex. Also, an oder could be a sign of infection. Your just going to have to bite the bullet and tell him..."sweetie....you have a little spunk in your junk"
He may not be aware of it or it could be a problem he has had before. I know you dont want to hurt his feelings ..but in the long run I would think he would like to know so he could get more oral sex from you.
2006-10-21 04:06:02 · answer #8 · answered by Steph 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If phrased in a non-accusatory way, you should be able to tell him.
Face it, if you're going to stay with this man, you are going to have to deal with the issue directly. Do it in a calculated way rather than wait till suddenly you blurt it out inappropriately at 'the moment"...
He should not feel offended by your suggestion if you don't phrase it as though he is neglectful of his hygiene (which he is, incidentally)
2006-10-21 02:27:04 · answer #9 · answered by Clarkie 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ask him if he'd appreciate more bj's. (I'm assuming that he'd say yes) tell him nicely what puts you off doing it "I'm a bit of a clean freak and I'd prefer it if you'd give him a quick wash first if you don't mind?"
There's no softly softly approach about it, he needs telling - it is for HIS benefit as well.
Failing that, invent the world's first edible penis cologne.
2006-10-21 03:04:54 · answer #10 · answered by Witchywoo 4 · 8⤊ 0⤋