2006-10-21 02:05:13 · 28 answers · asked by simonbeever2000 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I don't think it is necessarily a bad idea, but only if BOTH people in the relationship is interested in exploring the possibility. Both people have to be very secure non jealous types for it to work.
First, if both people agree, is bring it into your fantasies - talk about it and have fun with that.
If both people want to continue, have a look at swingers websites and see what you both think. If both not happy, STOP!
Neither person should do things behind the other's back and nor should they do things just to keep the other happy. Honesty and communication is the key to all relationships - and love, of course.
Only you and your partner can know if this could work for you. If you have any unresolved doubts, then you probably better not go ahead.
And safe sex always, of course.
2006-10-21 02:14:24 · answer #1 · answered by Caroline 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ive asked myself the same question. I believe it can be. If you both agree on it, and come up with a set of rules. Like what each person is okay with and what they are not okay with doing or watching the other person do. My best tip would be, if you do it, do it with a stranger, and not someone you will see again. But the tricky thing about it is. The idea sounds a lot better then the reality. When it comes down to it, you have to ask yourself. Are you okay with another person giving your significant other an orgasm? If you do something like that, what possibly more will it take to sexually gratify each-other? What if the sex is better for you or your significant other with that person? Are either of you the jealous type? Are you doing this to fulfill your fantasy or theirs? Why do you/your significant other really want another person in the bedroom?
It can either ruin your relationship or bring in excitement. A lot of people think they would be okay with it, but after wards, your whole perspective changes. It can either be good or bad. Are you willing to risk ruining your relationship?
2006-10-21 09:16:46 · answer #2 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A threesome will end your "longterm" relationship permanently. You need to understand something about what all normal women want in a man. They want two things....a strong man who loves them. Strong means you have good genes to pass on to your children. Love means you truly care about them and won't leave them no matter what. Prior to the modern age, if a man abandoned his wife and family, they would starve to death. Women are genetically programmed to immediately seek out a new partner at the slightest hint that it is possible their partner could leave them. If you have sex with another woman, even if it's with her there, that triggers this instinct in her. It doesn't even matter if you explain to her what is going on. Women are not like men. They can't use their minds to work against instincts like this. They are completely helpless against them.
Threesomes are for disposable relationships ONLY. Quite frankly, they are also for the type of woman you don't form permanent bonds with anyway. Psychos and fruitloops are who you have threesomes with. Women you don't want around the next day, let alone the rest of your life.
That's just the way it is. You either accept it and deal with or you will get burned.
2006-10-21 09:13:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
From a woman with that kind of experience its never and good idea too add someone else. If you think you should, too make it easier for your mate do it in a hotel not at your home. Never do it with someone you know either it only causes hard feelings and can break up friendship or at least damage them. Don't learn the hard way. If you thing its a good idea remember my tips.
2006-10-21 09:16:53 · answer #4 · answered by Shawna F 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe if you were dating someone that you don't plan on marrying then I guess its fine. But if you want to make it last then I suggest not. You are a guy and you probably want to add a female. Your girlfriend might agree but will she be able to handle you pumping another girl and liking it. Would you consider returning the favor and add a guy for her, Probably not because you don't want another guy inside of her.If she can handle that then go for what you know. But if you can't handle it if the third partner switched then don't go through with it.
Good Luck Honey
2006-10-21 09:13:45 · answer #5 · answered by trice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, go dogging or do something else instead. The bedroom and your bed is a sacred place for you and your partner only, however long term and bored you happen to be.
2006-10-21 09:09:48 · answer #6 · answered by The BudMiester 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are unsatisfied or your partner is, you need to seek another outlet, adding a third person just opens the door to more problems. Think of seeing a counselor
2006-10-21 09:08:46 · answer #7 · answered by stephaniencurtis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you can do that. But you will soon loose your long term relationship, because a third in a relationship means TROUBLE.
2006-10-21 09:12:51 · answer #8 · answered by Big&Tall 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How does your partner feel about it? I would ask him/her before "introducing" another person. I think it would complicate the situation and probably lead to your primary relationship ending. If you're bored or unhappy in this relationship, wouldn't it be better to go your separate ways so that you can both find happiness elsewhere?
2006-10-21 09:08:04 · answer #9 · answered by cheyennetomahawk 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, particularly not in a long term relationship. It'll cause all sorts of problems to do with trust, intimacy and so on. Best keep this fantasy in your head.
2006-10-21 09:19:21 · answer #10 · answered by F 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋