I am confused about it myself, so I hope I can be clear enough here... the other day I was in a public location and i noticed who I thought was a lesbian and I felt her energy and I liked her calm, smart, intuitive style. I was immediately drawn to her, but I was not obviously making eye contact and I did not even talk to her. It was just a vibe or "air" or profile I saw of her and that was it. But it was so powerful a feeling without negative thoughts, as I usually have of men (I do not trust them- stereotyped imprint in my head). I thought about the possibility of ever having any relationship with her and that I would enjoy it. I have no previous experience with girls or anything close.
But all I know is that I hate men (usually). It is not the physical unattraction or being turned off. It's what I have come to believe men to be untrustworthy. I have not met many men my age (+ 20 years) I can say, "I can trust him". I trust old grandpas, but even them I do not trust...
2006-10-21 01:54:55 · 20 answers · asked by summation 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
You could be a lesbian, or bi. It does sound like you have negative stereotypes of men that need to be worked on. There are decent men out there that can be good friends. I'm sure you wouldn't want to throw away the chance of having a good friend by your side just because of some negative stereotypes. As for her, it almost sounds like you're more concerned with the person and not the parts. Those are some very attractive characterists that a person can have, whatever their gender is.
2006-10-21 03:34:05 · answer #1 · answered by carora13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men can be labeled generally untrustworthy...but that is unfair to those who are honest..and there are a few of them out there. The search is long for a 20 year old, men that age sometimes don't settle down until in their 30's. I trust vibes, feelings, auras but then that's just me. I always say on this site, keep all options open. Look for love. True love knows no gender. You need to look for like minded people in your areas of interest and trust those gut feelings. Humans have these as protection instincts and for some can be over charged, but I believe in this day and age a woman really has to be on guard for her health, life and well-being. Go with the flow and good luck.
2006-10-21 02:26:06 · answer #2 · answered by truckinotter 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Babe, you need to try and keep an open mind.... you might like girls, but that doesn't mean you'd have to categorize your self as only liking girls now. I love whoever gives me their love and yes often that is men, but sometimes those people are women.... love doesn't have boundries so you never know who will capture your heart.
And you shouldn't write off all men just because a few bad eggs have hurt you so deeply as to take away your trust in all men. There are lots of decent men out there, they just aren't as obvious as the obnoxious ones.
Trust your self, open your mind and your heart and feel the love from the ones who want to share it with you. We only have so much time in this world and it would be a shame to spend that time holding grudges and hating so much.
Believe me, forgiveness is not for the one who caused the hurt, it is a relief for the one who is hurting.
2006-10-21 02:06:04 · answer #3 · answered by mutherwulf 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having trust issues with men is not a reason to become lesbian, women can be as untrustworthy as men. The problem you should really work on is your trust issues. If you can't learn to trust others you will never have a fulfilling relationship with men or women. And it is possible that you could be bisexual, most women are.
2006-10-21 02:03:43 · answer #4 · answered by gypsyiiiis 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You may be curious. Just because you hate men doesn't make you a lesbian. I hate a lot of men and I'm gay.
If you are attracted to her type, open up some conversation or visit a local lesbian hang out and socialize some. You will know if it feels right. Women in generally are much more sensitive to other's feelings. A lesbian relationship may work for you.
2006-10-21 01:59:05 · answer #5 · answered by gc27858 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just havent found Mr Right...but is there really or he's just a fantasy? Well i dont know either.I cant tell if youre a lesbian bec you appreciate women & entertain the thought of having a relationship with one so you better ask d help of a psychologist,you might just be confused bec of your animosity towards men.
2006-10-21 02:50:51 · answer #6 · answered by karatekiddo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Romans 1:24-27 I feel the same way about men, so I just stay true to myself, clean, and without regrets and the worries of sexual mistakes.
2006-10-21 02:00:00 · answer #7 · answered by dancinintherain 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
believe what you want
be always be true to your self
if you don't you will find yourself questioning your self every day
ask your self they real questions
what do you really feel toward women and men
is it just this one person or are you attracted to all
never truth any one but your self every one is entrust worthily
some times it is easier just not doing it at all trust i mean
be true to you self right down your feelings
and look at them when you feel different
decide what it true and work on that
2006-10-21 02:06:08 · answer #8 · answered by eat it then die 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, it sounds to me like you could be suppressing being gay. This is normal, especially when religion and society's "norms" are telling you it is wrong to be gay. If you are strongly attracted to women, then maybe you should take it to the next step. Try flirting and asking her out.
Good luck!!
2006-10-21 04:45:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey if you feel attracted to a female go for it (email me). But for the record there are some good guys out there even though the ones you have met have hurt you.
2006-10-21 14:56:52 · answer #10 · answered by sexytxgrl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋