you are married, have a spouse, but it's as if you have a roomate, that's it. Do you sometimes feel as if you are lonely? If so, what do you do about it (other than talking to them...)
Just trying to see what 'normal' is, out there in the real world. :)
2006-10-21 01:20:57 · 6 answers · asked by Jennifer L 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I felt 'alone' in my marraige for more than four years before i dedided that I couldn't do it anymore......now I'm getting a divorce and honestly as stupid as it sounds, being alone is not as lonely and being married was.........go figure...........good luck
2006-10-21 01:26:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well, My husband works alot - so I sort of understand your loneliness. How long have you been living with each other? - The thing is at first my husband treated me like a roomate - we had a couple of fights and honestly - I came to the conclusion that He wasn't sensitive to my emotions, he thought that paying the bills was enough and that since we were living together - he no longer had to spend time with me. You need to tell him how you feel and that he needs to see things through your eyes. It honestly isn't normal and I hope you do talk with him. I did, and my husband made a change for the better. It takes time, for men to grow up.
2006-10-21 08:29:45 · answer #2 · answered by Sasha 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes I feel that way. I tend to tell my man everything about my day but he tells me little about his. He says when he's home he wants to unwind not talk about work. I understand that ,but there seems to be nothing to talk about. We have 2 small kids and dont go out much. Dont have many friends coming around anymore. Its funny he asked my one day if we were friends I said No cause we never talk. He thought about it for a while. We've been together 12 yrs and have probably just grown apart. Life worries take over and you forget about that closeness you once had. Suppose we have to work on it or we'll just get angry with one another.
2006-10-21 08:34:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you are lonely, then you need to get out there and find yourself a life!
Get involved with your children's school, meet the parents, have get togethers with them.
If you don't have children, get out and hang out with your friends once or twice a week. Surefire way to cure boredom!
Also, schedule one night a week as "date" night. Rekindle some of that romance! Buy books with romantic things you can do for your husband. Who cares if he reciprocates? True love is about serving and giving of yourself without expecting something in return. Try that and you can't go wrong.
Another night, have "Family Fun Night" where you go out as a family and do something fun that EVERYONE can enjoy!
2006-10-21 09:00:29 · answer #4 · answered by Amy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
been with mine for 7 years and yes i always felt lonely he never talked to me, never did anything nice and if he did it was only to have sex (which i hated was never for my benefit). so i decided to break it off. we still talk once in a blue moon for our daughters sake but that's it. i could no longer take it. it was slowly killing me mentally physically emotionally. y stay if Ur not happy and there's nothing but being alone and distance
2006-10-21 08:54:06 · answer #5 · answered by kimmie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
AS A MAN I HAVE FELT THIS WAY. IT IS NOT A GOOD SIGN! THE TWO OF YOU NEED TO TALK ABOUT THIS. AS A MARRIED COUPLE YOU SHOULD NOT FEEL THIS WAY. THIS IS PART OF THE REASON SO MANY MARRIAGES FAIL. JUST MY 2 CENTS.
2006-10-21 08:54:34 · answer #6 · answered by patrick h 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋