I finished with my ex 3mths ago, through that time he basically was begging to get bk with me, I did a horrible thing and after a few days I got my old ex on the scene for a distraction, I regret it so much bt as u can imagine my ex was distraught. He says i ripped him inside out and has so much resentment for me, he says he loves me bt doesnt no if he's in-love with me anymore and that talking to me stresses him out coz im messing with his head. He has been on a few dates with a girl we both know and lst wk he said they are offically together bt I want to get bk, he says his mind wont let him coz he has had to mentally block me out for his own sanity. Im a mess, we slept togther after a nte out and im scared I might be pregnant, I fell pregant 9mths ago when we were togther and I had an abortion.. it was horrible... Im scared he will hate me if I am and will resent me & nt be there for me? From a guys point of u please tell me how it is, im scared!! x
2006-10-21 01:00:50 · 12 answers · asked by M 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I am on the pill.. the first time I feel pregnant it was an error in the pill, I was taking it correctly, unfortunatly it just happened. This time round yes I have been a bit careless and that is basically because im single and im not the type to sleep around so it wasnt an issue... Im 23yrs old and at uni, im not one of these silly little girls that thinks that u cant get pregnant.
2006-10-21 01:08:34 · update #1
I made a big mistake... my ex is no angel but I still love him, im not playing mind games of any sort. He kissed my best friend lst yr and then when i found out about it he slept with him ex girlfriend 3days after I ended thing... so please dont see me as the criminal here, Im a nice person who has made a mistake.
2006-10-21 01:22:42 · update #2
If i am pregnant... it 100% would be his, I havent been with anyone else, he knows that and he would believe me when I say that, he knows im not that type of girl... im just scared this would push him further away, thats the last thing I want to do, but I dont want to go through this alone, Im hoping and praying that this is a worry for nothing but I need to know if I should tell him or not if it turns out I am? And after everything we do love each other, he just doesnt know if he's in-love but would he stand by me and help me?????
2006-10-21 05:46:39 · update #3
You got pregnant and had an abortion and your'e not using birth control? Don't mean to be rude but that is really careless.
2006-10-21 01:04:25 · answer #1 · answered by IC 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Its sounds to me like the only reason you want your ex back now is because hes got someone new and doesnt want to get back with you anymore. This is partly your fault (no ofeense) because of going with an old ex to hurt him isn't very nice, and also, your not going to like this, but it also sounds like this 'accidental pregnancy' (if you are pregnant) wasn't very accidental. It sounds like you deliberatly didn't use any protection because you think if your pregnant he'll get back with you, which isn't really true. Just think, if you are and he doesn't want it, what am you going to do then. If your at university, and youve already had an abortion before, you obviously don't want a child yet, so either way, if he's there or not, are you going to get rid of this one too? You really need to sort your life out girl, coz you sound like you may need some real professional help. I'd avise you to get some, and pray your test is negative.
2006-10-22 18:44:13 · answer #2 · answered by Amy D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey! for a young girl going through uni, you are really sitting on your brains, aren't you? firstly, why try to make your ex jealous by behaving like a spoilt school girl? when you've already admitted that you did the horrible 'thing' as you put it, in the first place! Now you want to get back with him! And getting yourself pregnant for a second time, well! defies description, doesn't it? I think you should stand back and take a good, long, hard, look at yourself, and see just what your immature behaviour is getting you into! Not to mention your studies at University. They must be suffering! So not to be too unkind, just try to see the situation from other peoples point of view, i.e. your ex boyfriend! You are pushing him away from you! So, try and sort out your pregnancy first! then get back to your studies, they are important to you for your future! Your ex should be left to make his own mind up with no input from you, hon, I hope everything turns out right for you! Best of luck!
2006-10-21 08:37:12 · answer #3 · answered by wheeliebin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok let me get this straight you caught your now ex cheting so you threw him out he wanted you back so you found a guy previous to him nd used him to try and get you ex away through jelousy.
ok
since talking to him he says basically tht talking is like a total mind f**k to him becuse of what you did and that also has impacted on his feelings he had before he saw you with this guy.
understandable but then also confusing.
so now he has someon new the attention hs been taken away from you and you ant it back ergo you want him now he has found this girl.
you recently slept together,was he dating her as well ? have you taken a test to see if you are pregnant? do this first to clear your mind if you are its probably best you try to take him aside and explain the consequence of you night together, tell him how you feel but also listen to how he feels, show him the test.
From my own point of view there are two ways he can react, one he can simply try to accuse you of once again trying to mess with his brain and probably also accuse you of trying to cause upset now he has finally found someone else.
OR
He will listen take what you have to say into consideration and try to work it out with you, even if you guys dont work as a partnership you need to start thinking about hat you both want to do now that you are pregnant.
if you are pregnant
My advice is to first establish if you are pregnant or not , if you rent then take this scary experience and note it as a learning curve, thank heavens it was just a scare and try to move on, cos although he may have been a prtner in the past, its over now and your studies are much more important.
God luck
i hope i have helped, let me know if i have hun
bye the way im 26 o trust me im no better at this than you.
xx
2006-10-21 09:30:38 · answer #4 · answered by Gary L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think its not only you are messing with your ex head but you are also a mess yourself, but thats beside the point i think you should straighthen evrything out and first find out if you are pregnant then talk to you ex and make sure that he is the father, and then you two decide what both of you have to do with baby, i suggest before you have another abortion to talk to a professional because there a lot of people who like to adopt, and then after you decide what to do please try to see somebody who you can trust and will follow, who can help you put your life in the right path. good luck , i hope i help you in whatever i have written. bless you!
2006-10-21 08:13:25 · answer #5 · answered by livinhapi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
O.K . I'm a guy[no I'm not} You had a night of carnal knowledge. That doesn't mean he loves or is in love with you...it means he wanted to get his dick wet and you wanted the same thing. Girl, if you aren't being smart & not on ANY kind of B.C. then you know what? Deal. IF you are & this happened anyway you have to thing long and hard on what you are prepared to do. It's a hard decision but it's what you agreed to when you began having sex. It's our load to bear {literally}. It's fun to "have fun" but don't be stupid.
2006-10-21 08:18:52 · answer #6 · answered by tequillajenny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dislike people like who play 'mind games' instead of being sincere with their true feelings so everyone knows where they stand. I'm not surprised your ex is unwilling to make another commitment if he doesn't know when you are being honest with him or not.
2006-10-21 08:18:22 · answer #7 · answered by Daddybear 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he thinks it is not his , he will put the blame of the first one on you and will lose respect for you this may change his feelings to you ,but if you want a happy life stay your self and get all problems sorted then move on wards and up wards
2006-10-21 12:21:15 · answer #8 · answered by DAVID M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You got your self in a lot of trouble, I think honesty is the only real solution, more deception makes the hole only deeper.
2006-10-21 08:05:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Um yeah. Like s/he said. That abortion must not have been too horrible if you are not using protection. Stupid.
2006-10-21 08:07:22 · answer #10 · answered by Jen F 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋